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JenandMikey
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
Posted by architectnycity
I never wanted to BF. I didn't try it. When DS was 2 weeks old I regretted it, BUT that was the baby blues. I don't regret it now. Formula was so much easier. DS ate every 4 hours. By 6 weeks he only had 5 feedings. I washed them in the dishwasher.
The only reason I felt "bad" not bfing was for the immunity. DS did not get sick at all his first year (maybe a cold or two). He didn't get his first ear infection until 18 months and never needed tylenol either. Now I think it is the child not the bm. Your child will be fine whatever you decide to do. I will not BF future children either.
couldve written this....except i never had regrets even through the baby blues, i think bc i was so set for yrs prior to even getting pregnant that i didnt feel comfortable with the idea of bf for myself
good luck with your decision
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
i gotta say, i BF'd and FFd..my ds was totally FF, he was/is a fine healthy boy..i regretted NOT BFing him for the last 10 years, and when i got pregnant with dd last year, i KNEW it was something i had to not only try, but put 100% of my effort into..i put 120% in, and i had a very low supply, constant latching issues..and she was very small..even still, i tried and tried..
i ended up BFing until my dd was almost 6 months old..when i had to stop it was the saddest day of my life..i felt so defeated..and i honestly think if i had an easy time of it, and decided to stop, i wouldve personally felt worse..
im not trying to be harsh, i think you should choose whatever makes you happy..but i do think for ME, doing WHATEVER i could to make a decision for my daughter that was right, even if i was uncomfortable with it, in the end made me very happy..
its what being a parent is all about for me..
doing things i dont necessarily want to do for my children so they can benefit in some way..
again, not trying to be harsh, just giving you another side of the coin to consider.
and this applies for me only..you have to do what applies for you
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| Posted 8/23/09 10:17 AM |
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pickles16
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
Posted by neenie
did you regret it or second guess your decision at all?
Before DD was born, my outlook on BF'g was that i'd try it out and if it worked, great and if it didn't, no biggie. I think i was preparing myself just in case i had problems with BF'g.
Now, DD latched right away, my milk came in without any problems and she eats like a champ (we still supplement her at night with formula though). But, i don't want to BF and i feel bad b/c of it. I love the bonding aspect of BF'g, but i feel like all of the time i spend with DD is with her attached to my boob. And while i love that she's eating great, i feel like a BF session takes an hour, so by the time she's done, i basically have an hour or so before she's ready again.
I guess my issue is that i was prepared for BF'g to not work out for us and that i'd be ok with that, but i feel guilty that eventhough it is working out, i just dont want to do it. DH supports whatever i decide and is pretty indifferent b/c he feels like either one will meet her nutritional needs. I guess i'm just looking to see if anyone else has been in a similar situation- whether you didn't BF at all, or just did it for a short time- did you second guess your decision at all? I'm not anti-formula at all and to be honest, never really thought i'd even want to try BF'g. Now i just don't want to regret stopping it. I dont think i would, but after talking with DH about it, i figured i'd ask here to see if anyone else had any insight to share.
I think I could have wrote your post word for word when DD was first born...everything was perfect, she latched amazingly my milk came in....I also thought I would pump, but pumping didn't work out for me, and DD was a HUUUUGE eater was CONSTANTLY on me, and honestly I just didn't have it in me, we were supplementing with formula at night as well, and she was just soooo demanding for food, I think in the first month she gained over 3 pounds I stopped nursing at 3 mos, I didn't have enough milk to support her eating, and it just didn't work for me...I loved the bonding but it was just too much for ME...Do I regret stopping NO, bc I know it was the right decision for ME and DD, she was just always hungry...So you need to do what is right for YOU, whatever you do BF or FF you are giving your baby what you need!!!
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| Posted 8/23/09 11:01 AM |
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Candy Girl
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
I regret it a little. I had a great milk supply, DD latched on beautifully, but it was making me depressed. I was recovering from a c-section and in a lot of pain. I was having trouble adjusting to motherhood and had no help. My DH had to go to work the day after I gave birth. My breasts were killing me. I would cry when she cried for food because I knew how much pain I would be in. I lasted about a month and happily switched to formula.
With my next DC, I will try to stick it out a little bit longer.
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| Posted 8/23/09 12:41 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
Posted by neenie
Thank you so much for all of the responses and for sharing your experiences I'm still trying to figure out what will be best for us, so in the meantime i'm still BF'g and pumping... until i feel more certain about what i want to do. I still feel pretty sure that i want to stop, but since you cant get your milk back after its gone, i just want to be certain.
Thank you, again!
I just wanted to say..in the beginning you feel like a prisoner...stuck on the couch nursing ALL DAY LONG...
I started taking DS out around 3-4 weeks...
Buy a wrap and GET out!!!
Go nurse at the park, go out to dinner...
I felt like a completely different person once I was getting out of the house...
You are still nursing all the time...but you will feel alot better (and more like a person rather then a cow) if you see some sunshine!
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| Posted 8/23/09 1:43 PM |
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neenie
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
Posted by 05mommy09
I just wanted to say..in the beginning you feel like a prisoner...stuck on the couch nursing ALL DAY LONG...
I started taking DS out around 3-4 weeks...
Buy a wrap and GET out!!!
Go nurse at the park, go out to dinner...
I felt like a completely different person once I was getting out of the house...
You are still nursing all the time...but you will feel alot better (and more like a person rather then a cow) if you see some sunshine!
see, i'm not sure that that's the problem though. We've been going out- walks, drives, etc. I dont have a problem nursing in public- did it at the Dr's office the other day (i have a wrap but didnt have it with me, just threw a receiving blanket over her and that was fine for me). So eventhough it is such a huge time commitment, i've been good about still working with it. I'm just not sure that it's still what i want to do though.
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| Posted 8/23/09 2:03 PM |
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alexlynn7
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
i truly believe that you need to do what makes you happy as a mother.
being a mother is SO hard as it is, why do something you don't want to do when there is a perfectly good alternative?
just because it's going well doesn't mean you HAVE to do it. if you want to stop, i would stop and not look back.
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| Posted 8/23/09 2:28 PM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
I had a hard time with BFing at the beginning. I cried a lot, it was painful and I thought about quitting every day. DS has always been a slow nurser. As a newborn, he nursed for 45-60 minutes at a time. I barely got a break and was completely sleep deprived. It got a lot better by 6-8 weeks. It took several months though before I really enjoyed it though. I've been EBFing for over 8 months and I'm so happy I stuck with it. I know I would've regretted it if I stopped.
At the same time, you need to do whatever is best for you and your family. I'd recommend sticking it out a little longer b/c it does get better, but if you're not happy, then you should transition to formula. Good luck with whatever you decide.
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| Posted 8/23/09 2:30 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
I stopped early because we both were passing thrush back and forth to each other for almost a month and it was horribly painful. We were medicated multiple times and I even saw a doctor who specialized in breastfeeding medicine.
Do I have regrets? Yes, but not in the way you think. I suffered for weeks trying to resolve this issue and I was miserable. I wish I would have stopped sooner. I can't look back on breastfeeding as a positive experience. Im glad that Abby got what she needed from me and that was the most important thing.
The whole thing leaves me torn on what to do when we have our second child. I really do not want to do it again.
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
Posted by Goldi0218
Do I have regrets? Yes, but not in the way you think. I suffered for weeks trying to resolve this issue and I was miserable. I wish I would have stopped sooner. I can't look back on breastfeeding as a positive experience. Im glad that Abby got what she needed from me and that was the most important thing.
I could have written this myself.
What I regret is not stopping the BFing sooner than I did.
There is nothing wrong with formula feeding your child.
It was actually a tremendous relief for me to stop breast feeding. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted and as soon as I made the decision to stop, I was in a much better state of mind and both DD and myself were HAPPY.
Breast feeding was not for me and I absolutely hated every single second that DD was attached to my boob eating. I hated it so much that I will not even attempt BFing again when/if we have another child.
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
I stopped after 2 weeks. I felt guilty at the time, but I don't now. She latched on great and I had no problems with supply, it just wasn't for me. Having a baby, especially your first is life-changing. I found BFing to be overwhelming and I stopped to save my sanity. My bond with DD wasn't any less when I switched to bottles. Good Luck!
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DmarieK
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
I chose not to BF...never even tried. I will be FFing DS#2 also. I have no regrets with my decision...I know it's just not for me.
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
Posted by DmarieK
I chose not to BF...never even tried. I will be FFing DS#2 also. I have no regrets with my decision...I know it's just not for me.
I feel exactly the same way. People told me I would feel differently once I had DS, but I never once considered it, and feel absolutely no regrets. I would never BF any future children. DS is incredibly healthy and happy, and in the highest percentile weight and height.
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| Posted 8/23/09 8:45 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
Posted by DmarieK
I chose not to BF...never even tried. I will be FFing DS#2 also. I have no regrets with my decision...I know it's just not for me.
Same here. I thought about while pregnant with DD, but knew it wasn't for us. I never felt guilty about it and DD did great with formula.
For this pregnancy, I thought about it again and again decided it's not for us and I don't have any qualms. I always put my child's needs above my own-but this wasn't an either/or situation-we could both be happy and healthy if I fed with formula so that is that.
Only you know what is right for the two of you-if you still have doubts, I might give it a little longer just to make sure it is the right decision. Good luck no matter what you decide
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| Posted 8/23/09 9:36 PM |
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neenie
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Re: If you didn't BF or you stopped early...
Thank you!
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