If your child was going to another child's house

Why or why not?

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where i live here i might... hunting is a big sport where i am... it would also depend on the age of the children... i know a lot of my students hunt... it would make me a little nervous having my child around kids that, even though they may be experienced, might over estimate how experienced they are.

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I said yes. I'd want to know that the gun is locked in a gun safe so they can't get at it and play with it. Too many tragic accidents have happened to ignore the issue. And if it upsets the parents, so be it. I'm not anti-gun. While I don't have one and don't ever see us getting one, I understand that people have them for a variety of reasons. Police officers have their off duty weapon, people have them for hunting, etc.

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don't think it would be on the mind to think to ask

and honestly i don't think i would just come out and say....So, do you have fire arms in your house?

although it does concern me
ESPECIALLY with boys

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Never even thought about it.

It would be something that I want to know.

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Yes!

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I dont know how Id ask.... but somehow someway I would...

I think communication between 2 parents are very important (esp. seeing what my mom is going through with my brother and his friends) It helps knowing we are both on the same page, and ya never know- that one question, could make a difference...

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No because:
1- They could lie
2- There are alot of other safety issues at another persons house examples:
Pools (#1 Killer of small children), Dogs, Pills/ Drugs, etc

I feel that if I dont know the person very well I would not let then go....there has to be an issue of trust..

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I honestly don't think I would ever think to ask that...but it is a good question!

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You know I never asked because when my son was younger,..I would always stay for play dates anyways.. when he started having them without me I only let him go over a few selcted childrens houses where I knew the parents were watching over them as I would if they were here...
Honestly. I have had a million talks with my son about these things. I HOPE that he knows now that if for some reason someone shows him a gun he should run out of the room quick and get the mom...

I guess their were always other things that always concered me more..like him being outside without being watched and stuff like that...

I always prefer playdates at my own home.. Just thinking about all these things makes me panicked..lol

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ok...so everytime your kid goes to someones house you are going to have a list of questions to ask?
and i am not saying that to be sarcastic...

But do people really do that..before sending their kid off?
Hi Ms..so and so
do you have a dog? did it have its shots?
Do you have fire arms? or any other explosives?
Do you have any medications or illegal substances?
Do you have a pool? Do you supervise your kids outside the premises of the home?

etc
etc

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Danielle was invited to a sleepover tonight...(i've met the family on several occasions, have spent time in their home).....she opted not to stay over and just went for the party...

BUT - had she decided to spend the night, you can BET your sweet bippy i would have asked this question!!! along with a few others!!

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I was never allowed to sleeep over ayone's house as a kid or teen unless it was my aunt's house. I don't know when it will be ok for Marissa to sleep over anyone's house, but if she ever does I will maybe have a whole list of questions.

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ETA...i would think these questions wouldn't be only for sleep overs...

but everytime you kid left to go to someones house?

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Posted by Redhead

ETA...i would think these questions wouldn't be only for sleep overs...

but everytime you kid left to go to someones house?

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Posted by LadyLainez

Posted by Redhead

ETA...i would think these questions wouldn't be only for sleep overs...

but everytime you kid left to go to someones house?

That would also apply in my case. With so much stuff that goes on....it makes me so afraid.

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Posted by LadyLainez

Posted by Redhead

ETA...i would think these questions wouldn't be only for sleep overs...

but everytime you kid left to go to someones house?

That would also apply in my case. With so much stuff that goes on....it makes me so afraid.

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I agree that it probably wouldn't be on my mind to ask either.

I just received a note from Joseph's daycare that one of the moms wants to set up a playdate. Here's my dilemma - not only do I know zip about this mom, her son is the one who is on a 2 week probation & may get kicked out.

My first reaction was absolutely not. Then I started thinking more about the fact that this little boy's father left, etc - and I'm wondering if I was being too judgemental about the whole thing.

This post has made me realize that it's not just about the kid having issues, etc. It wouldn't have occurred to me to ask about guns. Maybe a playdate at Chuck E. Cheese's is a better option.

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Posted by MrsERod

Posted by LadyLainez

Posted by Redhead

ETA...i would think these questions wouldn't be only for sleep overs...

but everytime you kid left to go to someones house?

That would also apply in my case. With so much stuff that goes on....it makes me so afraid.

which is why i wouldn't hesitate to ask as many questions as i can think of.

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This post has made me realize that it's not just about the kid having issues, etc. It wouldn't have occurred to me to ask about guns. Maybe a playdate at Chuck E. Cheese's is a better option.


Then, I'm glad Deb posted these issue. There is a child in Marissa's class that is very bad(behavior wise) and she says he gets in trouble all the time. I tell her that maybe he deosn't have to much love at home &maybe that is why he acts out. I really do feel for chldren thathave to deal w/ so much at such an early age. I would ask thatmaybe he come to you first to see how is around your son & take it from there maybe.