Re: If your DH lied to you would you...UPDATED 2/7.

Re: If your DH lied to you would you...UPDATED 2/7.

I'm very sorry you're going through this

Re: If your DH lied to you would you...UPDATED 2/7.

I hope everything works out for the best

Re: If your DH lied to you would you...UPDATED 2/7.

Posted by Confused

I'm using an anonymous posting name for obvious reasons.

I'm talking lied to your face, even after he was caught. And, you believed him and only caught him in the lie because you kept on pushing. And, it had happened before (little things on a FEW occassions) but, this time it was for something big - MONEY. Lied about taking money out of a joint account. Approximately $10,000. To use on household expenses nothing shady. BUT, never told you that the money was needed to cover expenses, and tried to hide from you the fact he was taking it. In fact, when asked how much money was in the account - LIED. When asked again, for the statements, LIED. Admitted to taking the money out but then saying it was paid back - which it wasn't. Only told the truth when there was no other option.

Would you consider a divorce since you could never trust him again?



ETA: The money was taken out over a year period, on three different occassions.

ETA: The most shocking thing is that this is TOTALLY out of character. This is someone you would never expect to lie. A completely wonderful DH in every other sense but, I feel like I hardly know him anymore and cannot trust him about anything.

UPDATED: So it turns out there were more financial lies and things were done to cover them up that initially fooled me into thinking his explanations were accurate. I am completely destroyed and have no idea what to do. I want to thank all you ladies for your support .

Re: If your DH lied to you would you...UPDATED 2/7.

Posted by DMcK

This is so horrible, I am so sorry you have to go through this I understand your pain and imagine that I would feel the same way. Before you do anything else, I think you and DH should go for marriage counseling and you should go to individual counseling. Whether or not you two work things out, you are going to have a lot to get through.

Hang in there, post any time, we are all here for you

Re: If your DH lied to you would you...UPDATED 2/7.

Wow, that's just awful.

You both need to go to counseling to work through this. It's going to be hard, but you owe it to the vows you took to try. I hope that therapy can help you both work this out. There are some serious trust issues now, and though I hope not, maybe a more serious problem on his end (where has all this money gone??),

Good luck to you!!

Re: If your DH lied to you would you...UPDATED 2/7.

I am so sorry. I can't imagine how you feel right now. I think you should probably take some time for yourself before making any decisions. You are emotionally raw right now and need to concentrate on making yourself better.

I hate to say this, but is it possible he has an addiction of some kind that you aren't aware of? This is what I thought might be a possibility from the beginning and if that is what the problem stems from, that is a whole other set of problems to work on.

Take care of yourself...

Re: If your DH lied to you would you...UPDATED 2/7.

Posted by BabyAvocado

Wow, that's just awful.

You both need to go to counseling to work through this. It's going to be hard, but you owe it to the vows you took to try. I hope that therapy can help you both work this out. There are some serious trust issues now, and though I hope not, maybe a more serious problem on his end (where has all this money gone??),

Good luck to you!!