Re: If your mom or other family member watches your DC, do they listen to your wishes?

no neither my mom or my inlaws listen to me. very annoying but they only watch DS's once in a while. when Inlaws were watching DS1 FT, I had lost all control

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My mom and I have a lot of problems because of this. She lets my DD call the shots and boss her around and she never wants to let her cry. It drives me crazy.

I tried to explain to her nicely that I understand the way she feels but because she isn't just "grandma who I see on the weekends" she doesn't get to have the same priviledges. She must be a disciplinarian as well. She kind of understood when I put it that way.

Good luck

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I could write you a novel on this one!

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I am nervous about this, since MIL will be watching DS for a few months this spring, every day. She and FIL think that it's silly that we don't give him juice and that we eat organically. Things like that with his food...no syrup on the pancakes, etc. this will be hard for me to know if they follow our wishes or not. DS will only be a year when he goes there.

I get the whole "grandparents should spoil them". I totally do, except not when they are watching the children every day, all day. Spoiling is for special occasions! Every day makes it a habit and an expectation in the eyes of my child, KWIM?

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My kid, my rules. Our families know im a b!tch and would have it no other way. You dont like said rules, you dont have to watch him.

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My Mom watched DS while I worked FT from the time he was 4 months until 14 months. Then we relocated OOS and I became a SAHM.

I was worried at first. She did everything I asked, but would make comments like "oh I forgot it was against the law to do that now".

But after a month or so, that stopped. I thought she did an excellent job with DS, he thrived and I had complete trust in her.

But it was before he became a toddler, and enforcing rules, etc became more of an issue.

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No. They do not always listen.

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I dont have any kids...but you ladies let me know im not alone out there. My MIL watches my nephew and I see how she is with him and I already told DH that I wouldnt want to leave our children with her for any length of time.
I love my MIL dearly, but I see the way she takes care of my nephew and it scares me. I dont think she means anything malicous with it but she doesnt follow the mothers instructions and lets him do whatever he wants and play with whatever he wants.
I'm lucky tho that DH agrees.

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No. And that's the reason we hired someone rather than have my mom continue to watch our kids.

She is really a piece of work. With my DD, I had back surgery when she was 5 weeks old, and I told her NO rocking to sleep of any kind...because I physically couldn't do it during recovery. Well, wouldn't you know it...the summer came when I wasn't working anymore, and I had a 7 month-old who wouldn't go down for naps without being rocked.

Long story short--we had to do CIO with DD, my mom gave me h*ll for that at the time...and now she misses no opportunity to say what an AMAZING sleeper DD is, as if she had something to do with it

She tried to shove chocolate frosting in my 5 month old DS' mouth the other day...I'll leave it at that.

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My MIL does, but its almost like she won't think out of the box. He refused baby good, ok so did you maybe try to give him some table food? I know I didn't tell her specificially, but I had a banana and some mum mums in the bag.

My mom ignores me, lectures me, and we fight a lot. But in the end she raised 2 kids and we turned out ok, so I let go.

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I am not sure because I am not there but I am going to guess yes for now but that they won't always do so in the future when he is eating real food. I know both sets of grandparents are just dying to give him candy and ice cream and all the crap they possibly can

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if my IL's watch him they listen to our wishes. My mom doesn't listen so she doesn't watch ds.

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They mostly listen. It used to really bother me when they'd make their own rules but I've learned to pick my battles. If they defy me on something really important, then I pounce. I'm learning to let the little things go.

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my mom respects how i parent, but i am very relaxed with her watching my kids full time while i work. she is with them for 9 hours so sometimes she needs to do things her way. i have no problem with it. she's not trying to forcefeed my kids horrible food, so there's really nothing else i need to tell her to do. i learned to give up control.

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My mom watches DS 2 days a week and she doesnt listen at all. I'm tired of "fighting" her and now pick my battles to only include things that I feel are harmful, i.e. chocolate, seafood, peanut butter....

I have to keep reminding myself that she did raise two children and that in the end we turned out ok AND that "Mom's Daycare" is free

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No, none of them ever listen to me.

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my mom watched DD while I worked FT but only til DD was 9 mths because my Mom passed away suddenly and unexpectly. However, in that time she followed every little detail I asked of her. My SO's Mom watches his DS who is school age and she doesnt listen to any of his rules and it really stresses him out.