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Stefanie
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I'm pretty upset...
My Dh has Thursdays off and every other Sunday. Well the past two Thursdays, he's been having his cousins over and they overextend their stay by a few hours. I got really pi$$ed at him and said...this Sunday (today) I want to spend it with you and that's it. He said fine.
Saturday night (yesterday) he has the same people over and they're talking about how they're all going to the gym tomorrow to play racketball...early. I thought, fine he's going early in the morning..he'll be back early and we'll have the rest of the day together.
Does everyone see the time I'm posting this? It's 2:00 and he's still not home...he left at 9:30 this morning.
The smoke is coming out of my ears as I type this. I know that if I complain to him, it's going to go nowhere. But don't you want to be with your family on your day off?
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Posted 11/20/05 2:06 PM  |
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monkeybride
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
I would be fuming also. You have every right to be upset and should say something to him. Maybe just try to do it calmly (that would be hard for me though).
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| Posted 11/20/05 2:08 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
First  Seond you have every right to be upset about this.
I think you need to say to him as calmly as humanly possible that you're disappointed that he doesn't value family time as much as you. (I realize this is a major understatment). I find fighting while I'm angry to be a complete waste of both of our times -since the minute I start out, he tunes me out. So recently I've decided to be more manipulative & use the more calm, disappointed method.
Good luck!
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| Posted 11/20/05 2:18 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
My girlfriend called me.. her boyfriend is with them...(at least he called) and they're coming home now...
I'm going to try the calm disappointed method instead of flying off the handle...
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| Posted 11/20/05 2:36 PM |
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SoinLove
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
Posted by Stefanie
I'm going to try the calm disappointed method instead of flying off the handle...
You have every reason to be upset. Hopefully this method will work for you. Good luck!
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| Posted 11/20/05 2:38 PM |
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antoinette
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
honestly- welcome to my world- Dh spends so much time with his brother I sometimes feel like Im intruding on THEIR relationship-its been like this since we met though and its a losing battle to argue about it, I though when we had a baby it would be different but no such thing. Luckily his brother also has a baby so at least we hang out in a group more often.
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| Posted 11/20/05 3:58 PM |
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Corinne
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
give up hell its yourweekend too its not fair to you. i would be ****** also.
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| Posted 11/20/05 4:36 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
BUMP for update?
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| Posted 11/20/05 7:07 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
Well I laid on the silent guilt pretty good for him. When he got home he was like...."What do you need to do...where do you want to go....I'm sorry...blah blah blah..."
I told him that I was disappointed in him and that he should apologize to Jared for not spending more time with him.
 Yeah I laid the guilt pretty thick and it worked....
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:36 AM |
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momAGAIN
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
good for you!!!!! ...men
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:50 AM |
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iffer042373
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Re: I'm pretty upset...
I know h ow you feel my FH has friday and saturday off now since we have oppoite schedules me working 9-5 getting home at 6 and him going into work at 7pm and getting home at 6am we hardly see each other so at least on saturday I would like a family day and that hardley ever happens and I get ****** all the time I come to the point that I just stick with the plans I had but exclude him cuz he always gets called into work for something regardless if its to fix something that will take 5 minutes or not it your day off
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:58 AM |
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