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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by nymommy2be
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I think it really all depends on your pain tolerance and how smoothly your delivery is going. I had a C-section, so I can't give an opinion on natural, but one of my friends had a natural drug-free birth and she said that she would go through labor a million times if she didn't have to go through 9 months of pregnancy.
I have NO tolerance for pain at all...thus I am worried
I thought the same thing, but you find out you can handle more than you expected. I was 7cm before I got the epidural. The contractions hurt but I was still walking and talking, they were like very bad cramps. The pushing was fine until the epidural wore off and it was painful, but once he was out I felt great. That night I was telling DH that it wasnt too bad and that I want more.
I agree. I think the motivation can get you through the pain. The fact that you're going to bring your baby into this world makes you a lot stronger 
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by Calla
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Those who carry on and tell you how excruciating it was are just drama queens because it is not something you remember forever. If it was, people wouldn't do it again and again.
What a silly thing to say. It was excruciating and I will remember forever, but it was just one day. You get to keep the baby a bit longer than that so thats the motivation to do it again.
Or maybe I am a drama queen. 
I agree, that was kinda harsh, some people handle pain better than others. If somoeone says it was excruciating to them, I believe it
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SoinLove
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
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Posted by Juliet
Those who carry on and tell you how excruciating it was are just drama queens because it is not something you remember forever. If it was, people wouldn't do it again and again.
What a silly thing to say. It was excruciating and I will remember forever, but it was just one day. You get to keep the baby a bit longer than that so thats the motivation to do it again.
Or maybe I am a drama queen.
I agree, that was kinda harsh, some people handle pain better than others. If somoeone says it was excruciating to them, I believe it
Definitely a little unnecessary! You have to take into consideration complications and how long the person was in labor and all sorts of things like that. Not every delivery is smooth sailing!
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
I had my epi on full blast the whole time, so for me birth was not painful at all . i couldn't even lift my own legs :)
Now after the epi wore off, and I started to feel the trauma that happened down below, something totally different! I will never ever forget that pain, and i will def do things differently second time around when the time comes to push.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
I was really really nervous about having a natural delivery, but honestly, I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I really didn't have too much pain at all. The contractions that I had were definitely tolerable, but I got the epidural anyway, just in case (I had planned on trying drug free but I caved!).
The only pain that I felt was from pushing, and it was over pretty quickly.
Just remember, when you get through all this, you'll never feel more proud of yourself 
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by SoinLove
Posted by stephanief
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Posted by Juliet
Those who carry on and tell you how excruciating it was are just drama queens because it is not something you remember forever. If it was, people wouldn't do it again and again.
What a silly thing to say. It was excruciating and I will remember forever, but it was just one day. You get to keep the baby a bit longer than that so thats the motivation to do it again.
Or maybe I am a drama queen.
I agree, that was kinda harsh, some people handle pain better than others. If somoeone says it was excruciating to them, I believe it
Definitely a little unnecessary! You have to take into consideration complications and how long the person was in labor and all sorts of things like that. Not every delivery is smooth sailing!
This is what my mom and some others have said.
Also, I think someone else touched on what I was getting at. That you can't reproduce the feeling of pain and relive it over and over again.
I know it will probably hurt but if I am telling the story of this intense pain on the child's 10th birthday then I think I would be a drama queen.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by racheeeee
It is painful, I mean, the baby has to move all the way down from your uterus to your vagina, and that baby is MUCH bigger than the actual organ is...but a few things to remember, the human body can not replicate pain, so although it might be painful on the day, you won't physically remember it, so its just one day of your whole life! And once that baby is born, you forget the whole thing because your baby is so amazing!! My main thought about giving birth was that BILLIONS of women through the ages have given birth, so how bad could it be!!
This is what I was trying to express had been shared with me.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by Juliet
Those who carry on and tell you how excruciating it was are just drama queens because it is not something you remember forever. If it was, people wouldn't do it again and again.
Holy cow! You better knock on wood!!! I hope you didn't just jinx yourself into having an excrutiating labor, because I have a HIGH pain tolerance and I had no drugs with my 3rd born and let me tell you, it was something I will NEVER forget. I think it is just that it is time limited and you know the pain will not last forever, but for that moment...WHOA NELLY!!! Hold on to the bedrails!! Also, keep in mind the borthrate has increased because of the epi (as well as medical advances), but when there was no pain meds, the pain of natural childborth served as BC for mahy women since it was unforgettable (I only know this becauae I took a women's study course in college) .
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by emilain
Posted by Juliet
Those who carry on and tell you how excruciating it was are just drama queens because it is not something you remember forever. If it was, people wouldn't do it again and again.
Holy cow! You better knock on wood!!! I hope you didn't just jinx yourself into having an excrutiating labor, because I have a HIGH pain tolerance and I had no drugs with my 3rd born and let me tell you, it was something I will NEVER forget. I think it is just that it is time limited and you know the pain will not last forever, but for that moment...WHOA NELLY!!! Hold on to the bedrails!! Also, keep in mind the borthrate has increased because of the epi (as well as medical advances), but when there was no pain meds, the pain of natural childborth served as BC for mahy women since it was unforgettable (I only know this becauae I took a women's study course in college) .
This is not my opinion, but rather the opinions of others who shared it with me
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by Calla
Posted by Juliet
Those who carry on and tell you how excruciating it was are just drama queens because it is not something you remember forever. If it was, people wouldn't do it again and again.
What a silly thing to say. It was excruciating and I will remember forever, but it was just one day. You get to keep the baby a bit longer than that so thats the motivation to do it again.
Or maybe I am a drama queen.
I guess I'm a drama queen too because I sure as heck remember it Doesn't mean I didn't live through it..
I love people who can express an opinion/concept on something that they have yet to experience it for themselves.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Does nobody read that I clarified it was not MY opinion?
My mom had me and my brother naturally with no drugs. And my best friend did the same with her son. My cousin's wife did also.
I can't speak from my experience, but I sure can share what people have told me.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Some woman chose to do it over and over again because of the precious gift you receive in the end. Pregnancy and Labor was hard. It's an undescribed PAIN!!!!! You get through it because we are strong woman and you have no choice, you now have an infant that needs you. Like I said, my labor will NEVER be forgotten as surreal as it was, becuase it was painful as was the healing part that took 9 months thereafter. I would also take that pain of 6 hours of my labor I had over my healing for 9 months after and pregnancy for 8.5 months prior.
you can't judge or label another's experience, just share...
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by Juliet
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Posted by Juliet
Those who carry on and tell you how excruciating it was are just drama queens because it is not something you remember forever. If it was, people wouldn't do it again and again.
Holy cow! You better knock on wood!!! I hope you didn't just jinx yourself into having an excrutiating labor, because I have a HIGH pain tolerance and I had no drugs with my 3rd born and let me tell you, it was something I will NEVER forget. I think it is just that it is time limited and you know the pain will not last forever, but for that moment...WHOA NELLY!!! Hold on to the bedrails!! Also, keep in mind the borthrate has increased because of the epi (as well as medical advances), but when there was no pain meds, the pain of natural childborth served as BC for mahy women since it was unforgettable (I only know this becauae I took a women's study course in college) .
This is not my opinion, but rather the opinions of others who shared it with me
well I think they have misled you and I hope your labor and delivery process does not turn YOU into a drama queen. Best of luck
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
With my first, it was hell. I was in labor for 36 hours before I was admitted to the hospital. I had back labor. All I could do was cry and cry, I was in total agony. Once I got the epidural I felt okay, but was exhausted from not having sleep the nights before. Pushing her out took almost 2 hours and after that I felt like I had been run over by a car.
With my second, it was totally different. 5 hours of labor, less than 10 minutes of pushing. I had a low dosage epidural, and I barely felt a thing.
I think everyone's experiences are different with each pregnancy-I had a horrible first time, then the second was honestly no big deal.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by sweetness
I had my epi on full blast the whole time, so for me birth was not painful at all. i couldn't even lift my own legs :)
Now after the epi wore off, and I started to feel the trauma that happened down below, something totally different! I will never ever forget that pain, and i will def do things differently second time around when the time comes to push.
Maybe TMI but what would you do differently??? Help us newbies!
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
I was in labor for 7 hrs before my epi came and yes, i will be honest, it was the most excruciating, horrific pain i have ever experienced in my entire life. At one point I attempted to throw myself out of my bed onto the floor hoping i would knock myself unconscious. My DH caught me mid flight. When i got the epi i was fine, but then it wore off and my ahole doctor would not allow any more and basically i wound up with a natural childbirth at the end which i did not want. And it ***** hurt. BUT, yes there is a BUT here, my Doctor, L & D nursing staff and hospital itself were absolutely, by far the worst 3 combinations anyone could have possibly asked for. So next time, if there is one, those 3 things will def be different. And I dont care what anyone says, when I think of that day, and retell that story, I can remember and still shudder at the thought of my experience. And i'm sure when my son is 10 i will feel the same way. So if that makes me a drama queen, then someone please pass me my tiara.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
The contractions when my labor started were EXCRUCIATING! I couldn't breathe through them and I could not walk from the car to L&D.... When I got checked in, I immediately asked for the epi, and had to wait for an IV first. Wow, that 1/2 took forever.
That said, once I got the epi, I felt no pain at all. It was on the whole time while I pushed for 3 hours and she was born. I can honestly say there was no pain, just a lot of uncomfortable pressure.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by CkGm
Posted by sweetness
I had my epi on full blast the whole time, so for me birth was not painful at all. i couldn't even lift my own legs :)
Now after the epi wore off, and I started to feel the trauma that happened down below, something totally different! I will never ever forget that pain, and i will def do things differently second time around when the time comes to push.
Maybe TMI but what would you do differently??? Help us newbies!
This happened to me too. they turned my epi off while I was getting stitched for the episiotimy. um, that HURT! After I screamed at the dr. she yelled at the nurse to turn it back on until she was completely done. For me this time around I will make sure that epi. stays on 100% until I am all done!
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
I only had the epi in for an hour because they hadn't checked me in a while and when my doctor finally showed up I was ready to push and pushed for 3 sets of contractions.
I went to hypnobirthing and I really didn't want an epidural but I had back labor and it really hurt. I sometimes feel like a failure but I only had it in for an hour so I guess that is OK.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by Juliet
Does nobody read that I clarified it was not MY opinion?
My mom had me and my brother naturally with no drugs. And my best friend did the same with her son. My cousin's wife did also.
I can't speak from my experience, but I sure can share what people have told me.
I think what Juliet is trying to say is that not everyone experiences/remembers birth as an excrutiating process. My mother also had natural, drug-free childbirth and she never talks about pain, she only talks about how wonderful and exhilirating it was. Everyone's experience is different. For some people, the pain is what they remember, but that's not true for everyone -- everyone's experience is different.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by Dragonfly75
Posted by Juliet
Does nobody read that I clarified it was not MY opinion?
My mom had me and my brother naturally with no drugs. And my best friend did the same with her son. My cousin's wife did also.
I can't speak from my experience, but I sure can share what people have told me.
I think what Juliet is trying to say is that not everyone experiences/remembers birth as an excrutiating process. My mother also had natural, drug-free childbirth and she never talks about pain, she only talks about how wonderful and exhilirating it was. Everyone's experience is different. For some people, the pain is what they remember, but that's not true for everyone -- everyone's experience is different.
this is very true. I always found that no one really spoke aobut what went on during the childbirth. Especially from the generations previous of mine. Everyone in my opinion sugar coated, but it's a surreal moment in life and not that all is forgotten it's just not something to dwell on. KWIM.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by Dragonfly75
Posted by Juliet
Does nobody read that I clarified it was not MY opinion?
My mom had me and my brother naturally with no drugs. And my best friend did the same with her son. My cousin's wife did also.
I can't speak from my experience, but I sure can share what people have told me.
I think what Juliet is trying to say is that not everyone experiences/remembers birth as an excrutiating process. My mother also had natural, drug-free childbirth and she never talks about pain, she only talks about how wonderful and exhilirating it was. Everyone's experience is different. For some people, the pain is what they remember, but that's not true for everyone -- everyone's experience is different.
I think it; a generational thing as well, women kept quiet about the pain, it was not "lady-like" to go through the detail. My grandma went through a natural childborth and she will never talk about it, but if you ask her, she'll tell you it hurt like hell (and she has suffered from sever arthritis throuh out her whole body since she was in her 20's and has the highest pain tolerance I know). Also keep in mind that the gave the "twilight" drug whoch was considered going naturally, but it put the woman competely "out of it". My mom had this and had no recollection of the birth, they did this for 20 years.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Posted by emilain
I think it; a generational thing as well, women kept quiet about the pain, it was not "lady-like" to go through the detail. My grandma went through a natural childborth and she will never talk about it, but if you ask her, she'll tell you it hurt like hell (and she has suffered from sever arthritis throuh out her whole body since she was in her 20's and has the highest pain tolerance I know). Also keep in mind that the gave the "twilight" drug whoch was considered going naturally, but it put the woman competely "out of it". My mom had this and had no recollection of the birth, they did this for 20 years.
Some people had "twighlight," but not my mother -- she had no drugs. She says that when she was nearing the end with me she thought she might need something, but the doctor said, "the baby's almost here, just give another push" and out I came. I hope I have the same experience.
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
well as my SIL put it with No epi it feels like someone is taking a blow torch to your you know what!!!!!!!!!!
am I worried NO- I cant wait till the baby is out!!! so far of 23 weeks of feeling this and that- I cant wait!
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Re: Is giving birth really painful?
Not preg or TTC, but wanted to chime in. My mother always says it's like your cramps, when they're at their worst. You can't sit here now and feel like what bad period cramps feel like unless you have it right now; she says it's like that. You just forget.
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