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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Oh hell no.
Don't let your daughter go back there.
She has totally crossed the line and something is going on.
I say this as a helping professional and a mom.
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Posted 12/18/13 7:43 PM  |
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teachermom
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Honestly, I wouldn't let my young teen be around people who were known drug addicts. I think it seems like there is a lack of boundaries in this situation if she is asking a kid for money.
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| Posted 12/18/13 8:03 PM |
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BeachGrl
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Is this a red flag to you?
That's not normal, I wouldn't let your daughter back there.
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| Posted 12/18/13 8:06 PM |
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MrsT809
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Is this a red flag to you?
Definite red flag and I would most likely say something to the grandmother about it. Being that the woman has a young child and lives in her house I think she should be aware. If they think their daughter is on the right path and she's not, maybe this can help them see that.
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| Posted 12/18/13 8:19 PM |
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hope123
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Posted by MrsT809
Definite red flag and I would most likely say something to the grandmother about it. Being that the woman has a young child and lives in her house I think she should be aware. If they think their daughter is on the right path and she's not, maybe this can help them see that.
ITA and don't let your daughter go back there.
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| Posted 12/18/13 9:23 PM |
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Sparrow
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Is this a red flag to you?
Ditto what everyone else has said. Bizzare, inappropriate, red flags all over, etc. I'd tell your daughter sorry but she can't babysit there anymore. I find it odd that they (either the mom or the grandma) can afford to hire help to babysit but at the same time is so broke that they're hitting up a 13 year old kid for cash?
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| Posted 12/18/13 9:51 PM |
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Bellaocchi
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
I think this is so sad that this girl has a baby and is in her care. I'm terrified for the baby.
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| Posted 12/18/13 10:30 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
That is a burning hot red flag!
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| Posted 12/18/13 10:52 PM |
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mlny
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
That is RIDICULOUS! A huge red flag for me.
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| Posted 12/18/13 10:53 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Posted by MrsT809
Definite red flag and I would most likely say something to the grandmother about it. Being that the woman has a young child and lives in her house I think she should be aware. If they think their daughter is on the right path and she's not, maybe this can help them see that.
I agree, I don't think I'd want her involved with these people anymore if this is what's gonna be going on...
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| Posted 12/18/13 11:01 PM |
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Lannasmama
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Posted by busymomonli
Yeah, she's got a good head on her shoulders. 
She def does! That's awesome. And yes I would be very uncomfortable with this.
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| Posted 12/19/13 8:14 AM |
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Jonsgirl04
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Yes it seems to me the girl probably relapsed. I have a family member and have seen others who do the same thing..Def do not send your daughter back there. Also bring this up to the Grandmother. I know how upsetting it might be for her but she needs to know about her daughter. My heart breaks for the baby!
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| Posted 12/19/13 8:27 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Posted by MorningCuppaCoffee
Oh hell no.
Don't let your daughter go back there.
She has totally crossed the line and something is going on.
I say this as a helping professional and a mom.
DITTO to all of this. If she asks why simply say that you do not ask for money from a 13 yr old.
Steer clear 
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| Posted 12/19/13 8:30 AM |
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buttercup
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Total red flag.. I wouldn't let DD go there anymore. 13 is a very impressionable age.. and the mom is not coming off as all there.
But.. kudos to your DD for coming to you with it!!! 
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| Posted 12/19/13 10:00 AM |
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JAPH23
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Yes.... who asks a 13 year old to borrow money!? Totally shady.
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| Posted 12/19/13 10:06 AM |
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moonmist09
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Posted by MrsRapz
You're not paranoid - something's definitely off (regardless of her past situation)
If I was in need of $40, I'd ask my family or friends, not a 13 year old kid who sort-of works for me! If her family & friends won't lend it to her (or if she's not willing to ask them), then there's probably a reason, and it's probably a sketchy one.
This exactly!
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| Posted 12/19/13 10:18 AM |
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JennasMom
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
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No, I don't think you're being paranoid. This would definitely rub me the wrong way.
I agree 1000%!
This wouldn't sit well with me either
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| Posted 12/19/13 10:22 AM |
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busymomonli
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Is this a red flag to you?
She's babysitting tonight and then we will be away for two weeks, so I'm going to let her go tonight and then weigh the options.
From the beginning I was not crazy about the situation, but since the mom is not around when she's there, and the grandparents are decent people, I thought it would be okay. I'm giong to mention it to the grandmother also.
My daughter doesn't want to stop doing it. She really loves the baby and loves having her own money to spend on things she wants. She understands what is going on and said if something ever made her uncomfortable, she would tell me right away. She's extremely level headed and street smart.
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| Posted 12/19/13 10:52 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
I'm glad you have such a level headed daughter.
I'd say something to both the grandparent AND the mom. No adult should be borrowing money from their 13 year old babysitter.
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| Posted 12/19/13 12:46 PM |
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No this is NOT okay, even if she pays her back- she shouldn't be asking her in the first place.
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| Posted 12/19/13 12:56 PM |
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Eunyboo
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Re: Is this a red flag to you?
Kudos to your daughter for bringing it up to you and having the awareness to realize that it was weird!
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