It took me until now....

I didn't feel an absolute bond with Madison at first, and I still didn't for the first few months of her life. I was overwhelmed with this beautiful creature that DH and I created, but I didn't feel bonded to her....until now. All of a sudden (she is 10.5 months)...I feel the powerful love that I always thought I would feel right away.

I guess I needed time for the two of us to get to know one another. Now she is less of a baby, but more of an individual whose personality brightens my day. She is truly my best friend and now, finally, I can say that I can't imagine life without her.

I could only tell you girls these feelings. I felt so cold and monstrous for not being bonded to her until recently, but now that I am it feels so good and so right.

Thank you for letting me get that off my chest. I feel like a much better mother now that I feel the bond that I desired for so long!!

I hope you all don't think less of me for my admission.

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Thank you for sharing that - I think us new moms need to hear this admissions.

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That gave me teary eyes! That was so touching!

That is nothing that can describe the bond between a mom and her child.

I am so glad that you can experience it with you beautiful daughter.

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I feel very much the same way but I think it was even later for me. I have a hard time connecting to someone who is not really connecting to me. I loved my DD but definately not in the overwhelming way I do now.
Wait, if you are like me, it gets even worse as they get older. Now that she is talking- I am over the top.

But I really do understand.

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I think it doesn't happen right away all the time.

It's so amazing how they really do become our entire world!!!

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Honestly, I can understand this in a way - although I seriously bonded with Cailen right away, I knew DH didn't. I think DH saw him as this little energy and sleep vampire, and he was just not ready to jump back into the fatherhood role... He will never admit it, but a mom can just see that type of thing. He loved him, thought he was beautiful, but I really feel that everything about Cailen was a burden to him...

And what broke my heart was Cailen LOVED DH right away. He smiled at him at 2 weeks old everytime he came home from work! And DH just couldn't eat him up the way I could...

But, as he really started to become more of a person and give back a lot more (smiles, hugs, being chased, etc) these 2 are best buddies.... It makes my heart swell with joy to see how close they are and how much they love each other... It takes every parent time to really connect with their child on a perso-to-person level versus mother-father-child level, KWIM?

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Sneaks up on you when you least expect...and you'll never be the same again.

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That's sweet - I feel the same way about my DD now...although I felt bonded with her sooner. But I love her little personality now.

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That's awesome.

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that is so great-and i can say i know exactly what you mean. i could have written what you wrote too but would never really admit it either.
my DD is a day older than yours and it is only recently that i finally felt that absolute connection too. i also finally feel the absolute enjoyment of just being her mom. it was so tough in the beginning for me personally that i thought it would never happen and i envied so many other moms. i only expect it will get even better and better!

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I actually think MORE of you because of this post. I think it is totally natural your feelings and nothing to be ashamed of

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thank you so much for writing this...my DD is 4 months now and i do love her with all my heart, but sometimes i dont really feel a connection with her that i think i should have...everyday that she is doing more and her personality is starting to show through i feel even more of a connection.

But again THANK YOU for writing this and letting me and everyone else that may be feeling a little down about how they feel towards their DC that it is OK and it will come with time!

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That is so sweet!!!! While I bonded with immediately, it took my boyfriend a few days to to get to know this little thing that was sucking all the energy from us. It's a beautiful thing once it happens and youfeel this overwhelming connection with your child!!!!!