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Epeebes
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I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
So I have to decide whether or not I'm bringing a date to my BFF's Wedding....mainly because I want to bring an actual date versus pity date from a friend.
I have a date with a guy tomorrow that I've been talking too for about 2 weeks now...We talk everyday for a like 2hrs on the phone and we text while at work...It will be my first time meeting him in person although weve talked through webcam so we've seen each other.
I was wondering if I should ask him to be my wedding date, if our date tomorrow goes really well. I need to tell my BFF saturday if i'm bringing someone.
Do you think I should ask this guy?
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HoneyBadger
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
If the date is going well I would bring it up to him and see if he wants to go.
The only reason I wouldn't recommend asking him is if you're in the bridal party. Sometimes the "and guest" doesn't have a good time b/c they don't know anyone at the wedding and if you're busy being a BM it's kinda hard for the date...
But if you're not, I say go for it!
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| Posted 1/8/09 11:43 PM |
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Epeebes
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Yea I'm a BM....The thing is I won't know anyone at the wedding either besides My BFF her imediate family and the Groom (which im not too fond of anyways...but thats another story)
I would just invite him to the reception versus the actual wedding at the church.
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| Posted 1/8/09 11:46 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Well, then in that case I say if all goes well tomorrow, invite him!
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| Posted 1/8/09 11:51 PM |
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jeanyus27
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Posted by Jennie0898
Well, then in that case I say if all goes well tomorrow, invite him!
I agree!
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| Posted 1/8/09 11:52 PM |
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Epeebes
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
See i'm leaning towards yes, but I don't want to scare him....you know how some men can be.
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| Posted 1/8/09 11:53 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Well, see how the date goes. It's not like this is a blind date, you have been talking - have you mentioned to him that you're in a wedding?
If so, then you could just bring it up, explain the situation and see if he's interested in joining you for the evening.
Weddings are fun who would say no?!
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| Posted 1/8/09 11:57 PM |
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Epeebes
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
I think I've mentioned it, but I don't want to seem over eager or desperate....
Ack its stressful enough thinking about a First date....
My rule for asking is this...
We are having a dinner and movie date in the city...I have a bday party to attend afterwards at a bar in the city...if the date goes well I'll ask him to join me for the bday party...if that goes well...thats when I'll mention the wedding date.
I'm all nerves right now...and I should be sleeping otherwise I'll fall asleep during the date tomorrow at some point! 
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| Posted 1/9/09 12:04 AM |
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jeanyus27
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Posted by Epeebes
I think I've mentioned it, but I don't want to seem over eager or desperate....
Ack its stressful enough thinking about a First date....
My rule for asking is this...
We are having a dinner and movie date in the city...I have a bday party to attend afterwards at a bar in the city...if the date goes well I'll ask him to join me for the bday party...if that goes well...thats when I'll mention the wedding date.
I'm all nerves right now...and I should be sleeping otherwise I'll fall asleep during the date tomorrow at some point!
Yeah but thats the best type of nerves to have  Have fun!
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| Posted 1/9/09 12:07 AM |
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Epeebes
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Posted by jeanyus27
Posted by Epeebes
I think I've mentioned it, but I don't want to seem over eager or desperate....
Ack its stressful enough thinking about a First date....
My rule for asking is this...
We are having a dinner and movie date in the city...I have a bday party to attend afterwards at a bar in the city...if the date goes well I'll ask him to join me for the bday party...if that goes well...thats when I'll mention the wedding date.
I'm all nerves right now...and I should be sleeping otherwise I'll fall asleep during the date tomorrow at some point!
Yeah but thats the best type of nerves to have Have fun!
thanks
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| Posted 1/9/09 12:11 AM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Posted by Epeebes
I think I've mentioned it, but I don't want to seem over eager or desperate....
Ack its stressful enough thinking about a First date....
My rule for asking is this...
We are having a dinner and movie date in the city...I have a bday party to attend afterwards at a bar in the city...if the date goes well I'll ask him to join me for the bday party...if that goes well...thats when I'll mention the wedding date.
I'm all nerves right now...and I should be sleeping otherwise I'll fall asleep during the date tomorrow at some point!
I think that plan is perfect!
Good luck and HAVE FUN!!!!! 
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| Posted 1/9/09 9:26 AM |
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ave1024
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Just remember that regardless of whether or not it works out, there will be tons of pictures taken at this event. So I am sure you will be in a lot of pictures with him.
So this will be a memory shared for a long time. I hope the date works out for you.
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| Posted 1/9/09 9:39 AM |
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Am I the only one that thinks you shouldn't ask him?
Go single... maybe you'll meet someone at the wedding. Maybe you'll just have a blast dancing with nobody.
I wouldn't drag someone to a wedding just so I could have a date. To me, his position is going to be 
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| Posted 1/9/09 9:54 AM |
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MrsDrMatt
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
no no no no no no no no no no no no no please do not bring him, heck please don't even ask him. What a way to freak a man out!
Enjoy yourself as a bm. You will be needed for photos by the bride etc, then he will be left solo for much of the day...
In summary no no no no no no no no no don't ask him.
Have a GREAT time at the wedding!!!!!!
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| Posted 1/9/09 10:42 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
I wouldn't bring him for two reasons:
1. Weddings are a great place to meet people. You could be sitting next to the best guy, but will be bound to the date after one night out.
2. PICTURES- my friend was a bridesmaid at another friends wedding. She was dating this guy for a few weeks and brought him. Now, that guy is long gone, but is still there on the video, pictures, etc....
If you can bring a friend you can dance with and have a good time, I'd do that.
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| Posted 1/9/09 10:54 AM |
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Kara
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
I absolutely would not bring him for a lot of reasons.
When is the wedding? You've only known him for two weeks -- making plans 2 months in advance may not be the best idea right now.
Has he even met any of your friends yet? I'm not sure a friend's wedding is the best place to do that...
You're in the BP, which means he may be spending more time alone than if you weren't in the wedding.
I'm of the firm belief that you shouldn't bring a guest to a wedding unless that guest is your boyfriend, fiance, or husband. Dating for 2 weeks wouldn't cut it for me.
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Posted by Shelly
I wouldn't bring him for two reasons:
2. PICTURES- my friend was a bridesmaid at another friends wedding. She was dating this guy for a few weeks and brought him. Now, that guy is long gone, but is still there on the video, pictures, etc....
Yup... this happened at my wedding and I have photographic evidence of it. This is why I think you should only bring a date to a wedding if you are in a committed relationship...
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| Posted 1/9/09 11:00 AM |
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Sherwood
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
I think its a bad idea. Weddings sometimes tend to freak guys out, and it might seem very forward to him, especially after only having had one date. Plus since you are BM you will not be able to spend a lot of time with him, which means he will be sitting by himself for long stretches of time at at event where he knows no one, not even you really.
Plus once you meet him, you might not even want to ask him; in my (very long and extensive) dating experiences, meeting someone in person was often disappointing after having phone converations.
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| Posted 1/9/09 11:01 AM |
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Epeebes
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
I asked him...the date was going well, dinner movie and my friends party...
He sad he'd let me know tomorrow...
I dunno I feel good about it, but after what some ppl said maybe its not such a good idea?
I hate that im always a second guesser
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| Posted 1/10/09 2:44 AM |
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MrsBunnyBear
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
since you've already asked him see what happens! Its not the worst idea. try not too take too many pictures of him. he is a dope not to go- free food and drinks, someone to dance with... you mentioned the church-i am guessing there is time for pictures inbetween the church and reception so i do not think you would need to leave him during the reception so it should be good. when is the wedding though- 2months later? thats scary-anything could happen and your friend will still have to pay for his $$$$ spot if he ends up not going.
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| Posted 1/10/09 7:47 AM |
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sometimesmommy
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Re: I've been debating this and need a quick response....Wedding Related
Posted by Shelly
I wouldn't bring him for two reasons:
1. Weddings are a great place to meet people. You could be sitting next to the best guy, but will be bound to the date after one night out.
2. PICTURES- my friend was a bridesmaid at another friends wedding. She was dating this guy for a few weeks and brought him. Now, that guy is long gone, but is still there on the video, pictures, etc....
If you can bring a friend you can dance with and have a good time, I'd do that.
ITA--this happened with our wedding with my MOH. She bought a date she was seeing and they are in our wedding video dancing and kissing...They broke up horribly. She has since married but I can see her cringe everytime her new hubby says he wants to see our wedding video----just food for thought.
ETA: I see you asked him--Good Luck--there are always love stories that have been captured in the making....
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