Job related...what do I do?

So I've posted these past few weeks about really hating this new job I have. The money is great, but that's about it. I'm pretty miserable.

I move to a new house with DH on Wed - we will be moving out of the city to Springfield, NJ.

I'm really not that excited about commuting into the city, especially to a job that I hate.

I've been here ONE MONTH but the job is really beating me down and I would prefer to get a job close to my new home in Springfield, NJ.

How bad is it that I am already considering leaving this place? How in the world am I going to look for another job when I practically sleep here? My question is...knowing how miserable I am....should I stick around here for awhile until I get settled into my new home, or really put the time and energy into getting a new job closer to my new home?

PS- I'm thinking of telling prospective new employers that the reason I am looking so soon is b/c of the move to NJ and me not wanting to commute into the city...which is the truth...I'll just leave out the part about hating my current job.

Message edited 8/28/2006 1:13:33 PM.

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I would stick it out a little more until you're settled in your house

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Hmm, well, I think it depends on how easy it will be to get a new job in your field. I don't know what you do, but if it's difficult to find a position, then I'd say stay.
But I am a true believer in making yourself happy, so if you need to leave your job to make yourself happy, then go for it!

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If you DH supports you-- I would just quit and look for something else.

You can always tell prospective employers that you made a big move and you took time off to get your house ready and knew you wanted to wait til you moved to look for a job closer to home.

I can tell you that I now live in Hoboken and I left my old job in the city because I was MIS and working insane hours-- I wanted a job in Jersey too cause was just sick of working in the city-- the pay is nowhere near the same.

Bottom line-- do research before you quit-- get some wheels in motion and figure out what's the best decision for you guys right now.

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Not worth staying. You wouldn't even have to put this job down on your resume. Say that you bought the house and you want to work closer to home. You don't have to go into it in much detail.

Send out your res..make a few calls to agencies and get some interviews after hrs. I did that.

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If I am not happy with my current job I would just discuss it with DH to let him know the situation and then I would start looking for a job closer to home. I just cannot seeing myself being at a job that I am totally unhappy with.

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thanks for the feedback.

DH certainly knows I am miserable, but I think he panics a bit with all the new expenses that a house brings...and I am making such good money here.

But, I have great refernces from my past few jobs....it's just not worth being miserable...you know?

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Definitely talk it over with DH...

It's hard enough commuting a long distance to a job you do not like...let alone moving AND looking for a new job at the same time. I'm stressing just thinking about it!

Not knowing your $$ situation..., but if you could "swing" it...maybe take some time off while you're moving, get settled then go full force in looking for a job.

Good luck!

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Stay...for at least two more months. It then looks like you gave it 90 days to see how things were going to go.

Plus, in addition to moving, you do not need more stress right now. At all. Move, get settled, then start looking for new jobs.

But...don't be like me. I said I was only going to stay here a little while b/c I hated it so much, 2.5 years later, here I am!

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Posted by lorich

Definitely talk it over with DH...

It's hard enough commuting a long distance to a job you do not like...let alone moving AND looking for a new job at the same time. I'm stressing just thinking about it!

Not knowing your $$ situation..., but if you could "swing" it...maybe take some time off while you're moving, get settled then go full force in looking for a job.

Good luck!

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Posted by lorich

Definitely talk it over with DH...

It's hard enough commuting a long distance to a job you do not like...let alone moving AND looking for a new job at the same time. I'm stressing just thinking about it!

Not knowing your $$ situation..., but if you could "swing" it...maybe take some time off while you're moving, get settled then go full force in looking for a job.

Good luck!

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i recommend looking for a new job if you are THAT unhappy

however, dont quit until you find a new job.

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Posted by johnsae

So I've posted these past few weeks about really hating this new job I have. The money is great, but that's about it. I'm pretty miserable.

I move to a new house with DH on Wed - we will be moving out of the city to Springfield, NJ.

I'm really not that excited about commuting into the city, especially to a job that I hate.

I've been here ONE MONTH but the job is really beating me down and I would prefer to get a job close to my new home in Springfield, NJ.

How bad is it that I am already considering leaving this place? How in the world am I going to look for another job when I practically sleep here? My question is...knowing how miserable I am....should I stick around here for awhile until I get settled into my new home, or really put the time and energy into getting a new job closer to my new home?

PS- I'm thinking of telling prospective new employers that the reason I am looking so soon is b/c of the move to NJ and me not wanting to commute into the city...which is the truth...I'll just leave out the part about hating my current job.

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I would start looking for a new job in NJ

life is too short to be miserable and to commute and be miserable really stinks!

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FM

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I would actually suggest looking now for the following reason.

Last year I was offered a few jobs in NJ that I turned down because I wanted to stay here till after the wedding.

Now I am looking for a job to be closer to home in NJ and I've been looking for the whole summer and have found VERY LITTLE. The jobs that I have been offered aren't what I am looking for and the ones I want have not been responsive.

So, I'd say look around now because you never know how long it'll take!

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Posted by MsMBV

Posted by johnsae

So I've posted these past few weeks about really hating this new job I have. The money is great, but that's about it. I'm pretty miserable.

I move to a new house with DH on Wed - we will be moving out of the city to Springfield, NJ.

I'm really not that excited about commuting into the city, especially to a job that I hate.

I've been here ONE MONTH but the job is really beating me down and I would prefer to get a job close to my new home in Springfield, NJ.

How bad is it that I am already considering leaving this place? How in the world am I going to look for another job when I practically sleep here? My question is...knowing how miserable I am....should I stick around here for awhile until I get settled into my new home, or really put the time and energy into getting a new job closer to my new home?

PS- I'm thinking of telling prospective new employers that the reason I am looking so soon is b/c of the move to NJ and me not wanting to commute into the city...which is the truth...I'll just leave out the part about hating my current job.

I think your reasoning is very clever, however I would indeed look actively once you have settled in. If you hate it after a month the chances of you loving it down the line are slim.
What is it about this job that makes you hate it so much?

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Alicia, if you're miserable, then quit. No reason to be unhappy.

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Posted by johnsae

Posted by LRusso

Alicia, if you're miserable, then quit. No reason to be unhappy.

I will feel like a failure if I just quit. DH just sent me an email saying "don't quit - we'll talk tonight". UGH

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Posted by LRusso

Posted by johnsae

Posted by LRusso

Alicia, if you're miserable, then quit. No reason to be unhappy.

I will feel like a failure if I just quit. DH just sent me an email saying "don't quit - we'll talk tonight". UGH

Talk to him tonight; sometimes you just have to say: Baby, do you want a miserable wife? I am UNHAPPY. You will look for something else; it's not like you're just never going back. Although, didn't you say when you have kids you might want to be a SAHM? Maybe you can look for temp work instead?

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Obviously talk to your DH tonight but I am in a situation right now with a new position (same company). I cant say I really hate it but I am definitely not happy. I am taking my own advice and sticking it out for a while. I will give it at least 3 months to see if I will adjust to the flow, get in a groove, etc. Its very hard to start anywhere. After a while it gets better and you are back to that comfort level you know and love. If things still stink after your self appointed trial period then look elsewhere.

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Posted by johnsae

Posted by LRusso

Posted by johnsae

Posted by LRusso

Alicia, if you're miserable, then quit. No reason to be unhappy.

I will feel like a failure if I just quit. DH just sent me an email saying "don't quit - we'll talk tonight". UGH

Talk to him tonight; sometimes you just have to say: Baby, do you want a miserable wife? I am UNHAPPY. You will look for something else; it's not like you're just never going back. Although, didn't you say when you have kids you might want to be a SAHM? Maybe you can look for temp work instead?

you're right - i just need to tell him how i feel.

and yes - eventually i will be a sahm...maybe temp work is best...plus, i have full medical and dental coverage through dh's company. thanks, lana

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I would say..talk to your dh first..if he supports the idea of you leaving and you can finacially afford it, than leave..

ETA: I live in NJ also..not sure where springfield is in relations to where I live..if we're close and you need help finding things around NJ..let me know..

Message edited 8/28/2006 1:54:41 PM.