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Re: Kindergarteners caught having sex in classroom
Posted by Sash
I also think that if you are going to be that open with your child then the child also needs to know not to share that info with other children, especially if they are 5 years old. What you are comfy with telling your kids does NOT mean Janie's mom and her family share such details. I would be open with answering questions about the body with my child but I don't think he needs to know that sex is when the Penis enters the Vagina at his current age.
But that's my choice as a mom.
My son knows the terms penis and vagina and he knows not to say those word because it makes people uncomfortable and some of his classmates may not know what that is yet. He doesn't use it but knows that penis is the name of his private part.
ETA: atrocious wording from mobile
I agree with most of what you said, but if these children are 5/6 years old you can tell them not to discuss it with their friends but you can't trust that will happen. Which is why we don't usually tell the kindergarteners in our family about surprise parties 
But that shouldn't stop parents from sharing information with their kids if they feel its appropriate for their family.
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Re: Kindergarteners caught having sex in classroom
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I'd be a little concerned if my child referred to it as "f*cking", but there are plenty of parents out there who are very matter of fact with their children when it comes to questions about reproduction, and many books out there that are geared at kids that don't sugar coat things. One of these kids may have had a talk with Mom or Dad the day before and was discussing their new "knowledge". I wouldn't assume criminality or abuse right off the bat.
ITA. And the post is saying that these are the things the daughter picked up elsewhere. I'm sure she asked where she learned that and I'm assuming from relevance to the topic of this thread, that her daughter learned it from other kids in school.
I'm always yelling at my dh that he needs to be mindful of the kids when he is watching certain violent movies. A lot of movies have brief sex and nudity even when that isn't what the movie is "about". I would probably assume a kid saw sex on tv. Or maybe even stumbled on porn, which is horrifying, but I certainly remember being a nosy kid that looked through everyone's crap- and sometimes stumbling on stuff that I later realized had to do with sex.
As for the article, the teacher WAS doing her job. That's why she FOUND them. It's so ridiculous to think that a teacher's eyes can be on all children at all times. It's just not how it is.
soryy but when a teacher takes on their position especially with 5 yr olds they are agreeing to be accountable for all kids under their care. Unacceptable any other way. So basically it was OK that avonte left his room too since teachers can't watch them all? Oh, and my stance isn't far fetched since the dept of ed did take her out.
So when the teacher went to the bathroom to find the two kids, who was watching the other kids? When the teacher is hunched over a desk helping a kid trace a letter for 30 seconds, who is watching the other kids? Idk if all classes have a para now, but when I was a kid, we were 25 alone with the teacher. Also, your always nasty tone has become a point of humor here on LIF. What is your hang-up?
I always find it funny when people judge others by an opinion on a website. Instead of calling me out behind a computer screen know me. I've made quite a few great friends on lif and you are going to attack me for an opinion. Know me before degrading me. So rude and uncalled for.
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Re: Kindergarteners caught having sex in classroom
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good to hear bc I thought my dd would be asking me any day now since reading this post and I was just not ready or the birds and the bees. We were talking about this at work nd we were thinking like 12/13. I really don't remember.
sorry but i think waiting to talk to your kids about sex at 12 and 13 esp. now a days is way too late.
Do you know how much they know by then and what they are doing?
i remember when i was in middle school (i graduated in 2000) there was some rumor going around some kid i like was having sex with his girlfriend was it true who knows but i wasnt shocked to hear and i didnt have to ask my parents what sex was at that age i knew.
while 5 is a little young to be having a sex talk i dont think waiting till 12 or 13 is the right move. cause if you dont tell them by then someone else has.
I didn't claim to know. My thoughts were a guess. I do t have kids that are over 7.
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| Posted 2/27/14 3:16 PM |
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Re: Kindergarteners caught having sex in classroom
In my district, the puberty seminar for kids happens with 9-10 year olds (5th grade). They briefly cover sexual reproduction.
If 2 kindergartners were having sex, then yes, CPS should be called to investigate. I agree that the kid may be thinking something is sex but isn't, emulating what they saw, emulating what was done to them. It absolutely warrants an investigation to determine if there is a simpler explanation (& I pray that there is).
As for a 5 year old knowing what f*cking is, knowing the positions & being able to demonstrate - that deserves a serious look into why that's the case. It could be a case of kids with older siblings talking but even then, I'd want to be d@mn sure that was the only explanation. If she knew that's how babies were made (penis in vagina) that would be reasonable albeit still too young for that info IMO. But knowing positions (especially plural), you need to look into that. Seriously, please for your child's sake.
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Kindergarteners caught having sex in classroom
I can remember being very very young and having a book called "So that's where I came from" or something to that effect. It wasn't explicit, it didn't go into details, but it wasn't anything remotely close to "the stork". If memory serves me, it was given to me not too long after my brother was born, so I must have been 3-4ish, and I'm certain I was asking questions.
I knew NOTHING of actual sex acts.
To add to that, just as an aside, while I totally was a little kiss-easy in HS, I didn't do anything more than that until my early 20's. But again, while I was aware that mommy + daddy = baby, I didn't understand the actual act.
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Re: Kindergarteners caught having sex in classroom
Posted by Katareen
Posted by Sash
I also think that if you are going to be that open with your child then the child also needs to know not to share that info with other children, especially if they are 5 years old. What you are comfy with telling your kids does NOT mean Janie's mom and her family share such details. I would be open with answering questions about the body with my child but I don't think he needs to know that sex is when the Penis enters the Vagina at his current age.
But that's my choice as a mom.
My son knows the terms penis and vagina and he knows not to say those word because it makes people uncomfortable and some of his classmates may not know what that is yet. He doesn't use it but knows that penis is the name of his private part.
ETA: atrocious wording from mobile
I agree with most of what you said, but if these children are 5/6 years old you can tell them not to discuss it with their friends but you can't trust that will happen. Which is why we don't usually tell the kindergarteners in our family about surprise parties
But that shouldn't stop parents from sharing information with their kids if they feel its appropriate for their family.
Lol yea you're totally correct. You never know what kids are going to say especially a 5 year old.
I guess I meant it more as a courtesy. For example if my DC doesn't believe in Santa, then I would remind him to not share that info with other kids. Chances are he may or may not listen to me , but atleast I tried. I don't think it should ever limit a parent from educating their a child on how they deem appropriate.
If my DS came home talking about sex now because he heard it somewhere then it would be time for me to talk to him as best as I can. 
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My son is 6.... And the only sexual information he has is that animals "mate" to make more animals. But ours don't because they had some kind of surgery.... He doesn't know how they are made though.
A few months ago he asked where babies come from. DH sat and explained sperm, eggs, and penises.... Cailen was so friggen bored with the explanation he started pretending to be a ninja, and that was the end of that.
I would be very concerned if he had any understanding of sexual positions. Very concerned. Forget about the F word. He knows it's a bad word. But he doesn't know what it means because that act is just not on his radar. He also thinks "stupid" and "idiot" are bad words too.
I just feel kids can't even wrap their brains around this stuff until they are 9 and 10. And if they can, and are demonstrating sexualized behavior of any kind.... There is a reason for it. And it's not a very good one.
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