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ISpoilHim
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Known Sperm donor
How would this be anonymous if she knows it is coming from your DH?
That aside, I think I would do, obviously a minority answer. To me, it is no different that being a surrogate mother. And if she is asking your DH to donate the sperm, then there are obviously qualities about your DH that she would want to see in her own child. If this is all done with a contract, there would be no legal responsibility on your DH, just like with a random anonymous donor.
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aliwnec10
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Re: Known Sperm donor
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Posted by TyReseGreen
Never went through it and wouldn't be comfortable with it.
Exactly this. Especially bc it's your friend and that kid will be in your life. Every time I saw him/her I would think how it was my husbands kid.
same here.
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| Posted 9/8/14 11:31 AM |
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Re: Known Sperm donor
Posted by TyReseGreen
Never went through it and wouldn't be comfortable with it.
Agreed.
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| Posted 9/8/14 11:38 AM |
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Paramount
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Re: Known Sperm donor
Posted by Dee
So I guess my questions are why? I need to talk to someone about this and really don't have anyone :(
Having the friend in my life, and the child would just be weird.
"he jonny, lets go over to our neighbor Mrs Doe and daddy."
Would she expet him to be involved?
tell the child?
Would the kid NOT know? If he does not know how weird would that be knowing your child lives next door but you wont tell him?
I don't care how many papers you sign saying you are not responsible for the kid. If he lives next door, you stuff all the time with the friend and are involved.....THEN the "mom" says "ya know dad is involved and I can prove it, maybe I SHOUDLD sue for child support".
There are so many factors here. I would not feel comfortable with this at all.
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| Posted 9/8/14 11:52 AM |
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orchid24
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Re: Known Sperm donor
I am reading this as your friend asking your hubby to donate his sperm to a bank anonymously for some money. Otherwise if TO your friend, then that's just plain bizarre (sorry.) I agree that this is a very private matter that should be advised upon by a professional!
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Nic1229
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Known Sperm donor
My cousin is gay.. and him and his partner asked me to donate my eggs.. I look a lot like my cousin, and he has no siblings and they plan on using his partner's sperm. So I guess it's the closest way to have a child that is their child biologically. Another woman would be carrying. At first I thought this was an outrageous request bc this child would be mine.. but my cousin is like my brother, I love him, and want him to have a child. The child would know eventually that he/she came from my egg. After a lot of thought I did agree to this. I'll be able to watch this baby grow up and he/she will have 2 great and loving parents. It was actually harder for DH to get on board with this then it was me.
I know a lot of people are saying an absolute no.. but you need to really think and decide for yourself. WHY specifically is she asking your husband? Is the child going to know? Will there be another father on the birth certificate ? Will you watch this child grow up? And if you will are you comfortable with that?
Personally, I don't know if I'd be okay with it. It would really depend on all the factors.
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LSP2005
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Re: Known Sperm donor
Posted by ISpoilHim
How would this be anonymous if she knows it is coming from your DH?
That aside, I think I would do, obviously a minority answer. To me, it is no different that being a surrogate mother. And if she is asking your DH to donate the sperm, then there are obviously qualities about your DH that she would want to see in her own child. If this is all done with a contract, there would be no legal responsibility on your DH, just like with a random anonymous donor.
this is not true. There is already case law on the matter and drawing up contracts with an attorney is not enough to protect you from liability.
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Re: Known Sperm donor
Posted by Nic1229
My cousin is gay.. and him and his partner asked me to donate my eggs.. I look a lot like my cousin, and he has no siblings and they plan on using his partner's sperm. So I guess it's the closest way to have a child that is their child biologically. Another woman would be carrying. At first I thought this was an outrageous request bc this child would be mine.. but my cousin is like my brother, I love him, and want him to have a child. The child would know eventually that he/she came from my egg. After a lot of thought I did agree to this. I'll be able to watch this baby grow up and he/she will have 2 great and loving parents. It was actually harder for DH to get on board with this then it was me.
I know a lot of people are saying an absolute no.. but you need to really think and decide for yourself. WHY specifically is she asking your husband? Is the child going to know? Will there be another father on the birth certificate ? Will you watch this child grow up? And if you will are you comfortable with that?
Personally, I don't know if I'd be okay with it. It would really depend on all the factors.
I agree with this.
I also don't have a husband but idk if I would say no.
Why do people think its so weird? Or gross? They can say no, but a family is looking to their friends for help
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Hofstra26
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Re: Known Sperm donor
Posted by Straightarrow
Posted by Nic1229
My cousin is gay.. and him and his partner asked me to donate my eggs.. I look a lot like my cousin, and he has no siblings and they plan on using his partner's sperm. So I guess it's the closest way to have a child that is their child biologically. Another woman would be carrying. At first I thought this was an outrageous request bc this child would be mine.. but my cousin is like my brother, I love him, and want him to have a child. The child would know eventually that he/she came from my egg. After a lot of thought I did agree to this. I'll be able to watch this baby grow up and he/she will have 2 great and loving parents. It was actually harder for DH to get on board with this then it was me.
I know a lot of people are saying an absolute no.. but you need to really think and decide for yourself. WHY specifically is she asking your husband? Is the child going to know? Will there be another father on the birth certificate ? Will you watch this child grow up? And if you will are you comfortable with that?
Personally, I don't know if I'd be okay with it. It would really depend on all the factors.
I agree with this.
I also don't have a husband but idk if I would say no.
Why do people think its so weird? Or gross? They can say no, but a family is looking to their friends for help
For me, I wouldn't like the idea of my DH fathering a child with a friend of mine. There is just no way I could get on board with that. There is something very special about having children with the person you love and quite honestly, I wouldn't feel comfortable knowing there is a child running around that is part my DH and part a friend of mine and NOT me. I kinda don't want to share him! 
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JME78
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Re: Known Sperm donor
I guess it would depend on why they were asking my DH.
I am not so quick to dismiss it offhand. I think parents are more than biology. So I wouldn't necessarily think my DH was this child's father. Getting donor sperm is not that difficult so if there were a specific reason they wanted my husband's sperm I would hear it out. I am sure its a super hard thing to ask of a friend, there must be a good reason.
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| Posted 9/8/14 9:13 PM |
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Re: Known Sperm donor
Posted by Nic1229
My cousin is gay.. and him and his partner asked me to donate my eggs.. I look a lot like my cousin, and he has no siblings and they plan on using his partner's sperm. So I guess it's the closest way to have a child that is their child biologically. Another woman would be carrying. At first I thought this was an outrageous request bc this child would be mine.. but my cousin is like my brother, I love him, and want him to have a child. The child would know eventually that he/she came from my egg. After a lot of thought I did agree to this. I'll be able to watch this baby grow up and he/she will have 2 great and loving parents. It was actually harder for DH to get on board with this then it was me.
I know a lot of people are saying an absolute no.. but you need to really think and decide for yourself. WHY specifically is she asking your husband? Is the child going to know? Will there be another father on the birth certificate ? Will you watch this child grow up? And if you will are you comfortable with that?
Personally, I don't know if I'd be okay with it. It would really depend on all the factors.
which is why I felt it was not the worst request in my first post. She has lots of questions to think about but again, its not that absurd.
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drpepper318
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Re: Known Sperm donor
Personally I would not be comfortable with my husband donating sperm to another woman for many reasons. The only kids I'd want him having are with me. I'm sure my DH wouldn't be willing to do it either.
However I think if it works for another family & every person involved is happy with the arrangement, who am I to say they shouldn't do it.
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Bridex100
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Re: Known Sperm donor
No way. And I would think it was really weird that my friend even wanted my DH's sperm. That would totally weird me out that my kids would have half siblings with my friend with my husband's sperm.
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MrsGmomof3
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Re: Known Sperm donor
Never.
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