Labor room

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When your laboring.. i.e. going through contractions, nurse checks to see if you are dialting, and effacing etc... will there be people in the room.. like your parents, in-laws? Or does the nurse shoo them away to the waiting area. I'm trying to figure this out..

I'd rather no one be there while being checked and stuff.. and giving me tips

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i haven't gone through it but with my sister we were in the room up until she was ready to push and then they made us go out in the waiting room.

however, i think you can specificy if u want people in the room or not.

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The nurse never checked me for dilation, only the doctor did.

When the doctor comes in, if anyone is in your room, they are asked to leave to do an exam. If everything is ok and you are not ready to give birth, they are allowed back in.

Your nurses will tell you from the beginning that if at any time you want someone out of your room, to tell them and they will be the bad guy and kick them out.

Don't worry, not EVERYONE will see your hooha.

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Posted by neener1211
Don't worry, not EVERYONE will see your hooha.

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I think it depends on the hospital. I am delivering at Huntington and they don't even allow anyone but your spouse and one other co-coach (if you are having one) in while you are laboring.

I'm sure if you speak to the nurses in advance and tell them you would rather not have people in they will accomodate you.

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I was allowed 2 people besides my DH. My mil stayed in the room, she left when I got check (my dr. kicked her out) and left when I started to push.

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i was at stony brook, my parents stopped in to say HI when I was around hour 12-13 of labor.... Just long enough to take pics of my sweaty, swollen face - that's about it.

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I don't have an issue my mom, its just that she is in the medical profession and I don't want her giving orders and calling for medications.. and then there's my MIL..

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I was at Good Sam. Doctor did all the "checking" DH and my sister stayed...they would have been asked to leave if I requested it. Only person I shooed out was my Dad, but he already had a foot out the door when the doc said he was "checking" me, lol!
If I didn't end up with a section DH and my sister would have been in until the very end when I delivered.

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I was at LIJ and my il's were in there up until they wheeled me into delivery. But I don't remember much!

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im gonna say just me and DH. i dont think i want anyone else in the room...any family that will be there will be in the waiting room.

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If you don't want anyone there, have DH tell the nurse, and she will be the bad guy-- she can blame it on hospital protocol or something. Then no one will have hurt feelings.

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When I was laboring -- any time the doc came in to check my progress or a nurse to change the towels under me (since I was leaking so much fluid)...my parents and brother left the room.

Once the doc was done, they'd come back in and all was back to normal. You can ask people to leave or stay or whatever, it's your choice.


ETA: Had I gone through with a vaginal birth, they told us at Good Sam, that you could have up to 2 people in the room with you when you were pushing. Everyone else would have to go to the waiting room.

Message edited 6/3/2011 5:09:08 PM.

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I plan on having whomever in the labor room.

But once the vag is out the people are leaving!!!

I'm not allowing anyone to see my vag!! I'm worried enough about shaving properly and the staff having to see my everything....

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Nope. My parents live 5 minutes from the hospital. DH is calling them when it gets close to delivery time. ILs are insisting on staying in the waiting room. They can stay there the entire time or they can hang with my parents. There's something about them seeing me at my worst that I'm not comfortable with, especially since I plan on holding out as long as possible for the epi/trying to do it drug-free.

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one your pushing-- no one will be there unless you want them to be. For me, it was DH and the nurse. When the baby was ready to come out, they call the doc in. They check you so infrequently up to that point-- everyone can just leave the room, depending on who is there.