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Bops
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Re: Let me reword this..............
I am a pull no punches kind of girl myself, but I am mature enough to have a filter when it comes to peoples feelings .....There are certain social graces that "most' people practice both online and IRL specifically when one is responding to a post of someone who is in a vulnerable state (not necessarily the boy/girl de-railed post) ...
This doesn't have to take away from ones strong persona and certainly doesn't make them a "dainty little flower" or a "sheep"...It makes them a grown-up
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by MrsMeloyellow
As far as the quoting and referencing of previous posts...how do you people keep track??? I don't pay attention to these boards enough to remember who posted what. I could have a disagreement with someone one day and the next be chatting and kind and agreeing with them...
haha, so glad I'm not alone, been on here for few years now and 99% of the time I still have no idea who is who and who is posting what 
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| Posted 2/20/12 9:24 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by Bops
I am a pull no punches kind of girl myself, but I am mature enough to have a filter when it comes to peoples feelings .....There are certain social graces that "most' people practice both online and IRL specifically when one is responding to a post of someone who is in a vulnerable state (not necessarily the boy/girl de-railed post) ...
This doesn't have to take away from ones strong persona and certainly doesn't make them a "dainty little flower" or a "sheep"...It makes them a grown-up
I agree with you and I do keep that in mind when I post. And I am never purposely mean (unless REALLLLY pushed), I don't go out of my way to insult anyone, I don't call people out on anything, and I am sensitive to people.........especially when it matters but there will ALWAYS be someone that will take issue with how something was said. Whether it's not nice enough, not sympathetic enough, not empathetic enough, not funny enough, not honest enough and on and on and on. It's just the way it goes..........I'm learning to accept that fact. 
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| Posted 2/20/12 9:28 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by ISpoilHim
Posted by Bearcat
Posted by julz33
I got what you meant. You are speaking form your experience with specific kids.... (I can say the same about some kids i know  ) unless the parents of THOSE kids are on here, I don;t see why anyone should be taking that comment personally. This is LIF where drama thrives and this thread might reach 10 pages. I would just stop replying now. 
I agree with this completely!
Agreed
AMEN!!!
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| Posted 2/20/12 9:50 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by SlurpeeDad
Posted by HoneyBadger
I'm confused.
Is this an apology or just another lame attempt at justifying what you said in the other thread?
You know, I believe you once wrote this.
Posted by HoneyBadger
I grew up in a household where we were taught if you don't have anything nice to say, shut the fluck up. 
Maybe you should follow your own advice.
I asked a question, what's rude about that?
Also, I wish I could say I'm flattered that you follow what I say so closely on this site, but that would be lying and my momma didn't raise no liar either.
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Re: Let me reword this..............
I saw nothing wrong with what this OP said in the other thread. It was HER observations and HER opinion based on HER experience.
But, just to clarify for future reference:
On LIF
--Gender preference when pregnant is ok--YES
--Gender disappointment when pregnant is ok-- YES
--Stating being thankful for having a specific gender due to one's personal experience is ok--NO, NEVER!
Gotta love it.
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| Posted 2/20/12 9:59 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by SlurpeeDad
Posted by MrsMeloyellow
As far as the quoting and referencing of previous posts...how do you people keep track??? I don't pay attention to these boards enough to remember who posted what. I could have a disagreement with someone one day and the next be chatting and kind and agreeing with them...I just have too much going on in my life to be like "five months ago I remember you posted blah blah blah" unless you directly insulted me or my family...I just don't have the energy to keep track...it seems tiresome to do so.
She posted that earlier today, that is the only reason I remembered it. I thought it was fitting to cross reference it.
Slupeedad has a hard on for me.
I understand why, I'm a hot chick.
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ItsTime2011
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by BaseballWidow
I saw nothing wrong with what this OP said in the other thread. It was HER observations and HER opinion based on HER experience.
But, just to clarify for future reference:
On LIF
--Gender preference when pregnant is ok--YES
--Gender disappointment when pregnant is ok-- YES
--Stating being thankful for having a specific gender due to one's personal experience is ok--NO, NEVER!
Gotta love it.
  
AWESOME. And so TRUE. The level of hypocrisy on these boards cracks me up most of the time.
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| Posted 2/20/12 10:08 PM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Let me reword this..............
you're kind of a jerk. sorry.
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| Posted 2/20/12 10:14 PM |
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OrganicMama
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by BaseballWidow
I saw nothing wrong with what this OP said in the other thread. It was HER observations and HER opinion based on HER experience.
But, just to clarify for future reference:
On LIF
--Gender preference when pregnant is ok--YES
--Gender disappointment when pregnant is ok-- YES
--Stating being thankful for having a specific gender due to one's personal experience is ok--NO, NEVER!
Gotta love it.
So true!
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SlurpeeDad
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by SlurpeeDad
Posted by MrsMeloyellow
As far as the quoting and referencing of previous posts...how do you people keep track??? I don't pay attention to these boards enough to remember who posted what. I could have a disagreement with someone one day and the next be chatting and kind and agreeing with them...I just have too much going on in my life to be like "five months ago I remember you posted blah blah blah" unless you directly insulted me or my family...I just don't have the energy to keep track...it seems tiresome to do so.
She posted that earlier today, that is the only reason I remembered it. I thought it was fitting to cross reference it.
Slupeedad has a hard on for me.
I understand why, I'm a hot chick.
My mom raised me not to lie either....goodnight.
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hotsauce345
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by OrganicMama
Posted by BaseballWidow
I saw nothing wrong with what this OP said in the other thread. It was HER observations and HER opinion based on HER experience.
But, just to clarify for future reference:
On LIF
--Gender preference when pregnant is ok--YES
--Gender disappointment when pregnant is ok-- YES
--Stating being thankful for having a specific gender due to one's personal experience is ok--NO, NEVER!
Gotta love it.
So true!
ehhh...I wasn't offended enough to be in an uproar...but as the mother of a son...I definitely was thinking "Woah" and cringed a little reading it. it wasn't JUST "thank god I have a girl". it was more than that. I personally didn't like the end referring to "chasing little monkeys". lots of moms call our sons "our little monkeys" but I called him that before he was even born...not as a reference to his behavior. It's probably best to just not compare children to animals...somebody will always get offended.
Being that the OP said she was basing her opinion on her experience and noted her friends with boys...If I were her friend...I would be offended and feel like she were on a high horse and I probably wouldn't hang out with her anymore because I would always think "right this very second she's thinking my child is a wild animal"
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Posted by MrsC614
I honestly don't understand why everyone is so upset. I mean, I read what you wrote hofstra and can see what some are saying, but i think the majority of people are being way over sensitive. The op asked for opinions, and you gave yours, which you are entitled to. And now on this post you are trying to explain yourself and are still being attacked. I think everyone needs to have a cocktail or a glass of wine and chill out. I have a dd who is a dream most days, but can be a nightmare in other ways, like when eating. My best friend has 2 boys who are both completely different: the older one is loud, doesn't always listen and has temper tantrums on occasion, the younger one is a quiet mush. 2 different personalities. All kids are different regardless of gender. That's my opinion, just like what you said was yours. Don't let people get you upset. I see lots of rude things being said about you, and I am sorry for that. I never got the impression from you that you try to portray yourself as this perfect person with the perfect family. Maybe the people saying that are a little jealous......and again, that's just my opinion.
Id like to add that I think it's a general assumption that boys are wilder than girls. Chaperone any middle school dance and you will see the boys running around, wrestling,and acting crazy...while the girls are off in cliques being dramatic/ crying! I believe its an innate difference between the genders. Not ALL kids fit this assumption, but many do! I don't see why Hofstra is being attacked.
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RocPin
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by Bearcat
Posted by julz33
I got what you meant. You are speaking form your experience with specific kids.... (I can say the same about some kids i know ) unless the parents of THOSE kids are on here, I don;t see why anyone should be taking that comment personally. This is LIF where drama thrives and this thread might reach 10 pages. I would just stop replying now.
I agree with this completely!
I do too! Unfortunately, this is one of those situations where you are just going to have to bow out of the conversation and be the bigger person.
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Hofstra26
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by HeathKernandez
you're kind of a jerk. sorry.
I can ALWAYS count on u to show up out of nowhere and add ur completely useless two cents.
Oh yea..............and right back at ya. And I am not sorry.
Good night.
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OrganicMama
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by MrsMeloyellow
Posted by OrganicMama
Posted by BaseballWidow
I saw nothing wrong with what this OP said in the other thread. It was HER observations and HER opinion based on HER experience.
But, just to clarify for future reference:
On LIF
--Gender preference when pregnant is ok--YES
--Gender disappointment when pregnant is ok-- YES
--Stating being thankful for having a specific gender due to one's personal experience is ok--NO, NEVER!
Gotta love it.
So true!
ehhh...I wasn't offended enough to be in an uproar...but as the mother of a son...I definitely was thinking "Woah" and cringed a little reading it. it wasn't JUST "thank god I have a girl". it was more than that. I personally didn't like the end referring to "chasing little monkeys". lots of moms call our sons "our little monkeys" but I called him that before he was even born...not as a reference to his behavior. It's probably best to just not compare children to animals...somebody will always get offended.
Being that the OP said she was basing her opinion on her experience and noted her friends with boys...If I were her friend...I would be offended and feel like she were on a high horse and I probably wouldn't hang out with her anymore because I would always think "right this very second she's thinking my child is a wild animal"
I actually just went back and read the original thread. To be honest, I think it was a little rude. It wasn't something that I took offense to because my DS is a perfect angel (KIDDING ), but in all seriousness I can see how other people would take offense to it.
I have read some of Hofstra's posts in the past, and a lot of them make me shake my head. Some are really quite insensitive. Being a friend, I would probably be hurt wondering if she were talking about my DS. I think she should take a pause before hitting enter, go back and re-read and look at it from a different perspective. See how others could possibly interpret it. Yes, someone may always take offense, but when many, many people take offense to multiple posts by someone, the problem is most likely with that 'someone', not everyone else.
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Daisy32
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Nevermind
Message edited 2/20/2012 11:23:12 PM.
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Goobster
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by MrsECullen7319
Id like to add that I think it's a general assumption that boys are wilder than girls. Chaperone any middle school dance and you will see the boys running around, wrestling,and acting crazy...while the girls are off in cliques being dramatic/ crying! I believe its an innate difference between the genders. Not ALL kids fit this assumption, but many do! I don't see why Hofstra is being attacked.
I have to say I find this to be the most fitting post in both threads. ITA.
I can name numerous moms (friends and family) who will honestly admit (and they cant even hide if they tried) that their DSs were way more active/difficult/work than their DDs (and they had one or more of each sex). Plain and simple truth. Not all, sure. But if you speak in a general sense, boys are usually more active and a bit more to keep a handle of than having a girl. At least, this is exactly what I see with young boys/toddlers that my family or friends have.
Funny, even my male and female dog fit these stereotypes. My male could play all day, never will rest, etc, and my female will sleep all day. But man, in stereotypical female fashion she can be a real biotch when she wants to be, However, unless she is pizzed off, she is always very calm and much less work than my male. So it's funny, we always say "he is such a rough and tumble BOY." LOL, can I say that about my dog?
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by SlurpeeDad
Posted by HoneyBadger
I'm confused.
Is this an apology or just another lame attempt at justifying what you said in the other thread?
You know, I believe you once wrote this.
Posted by HoneyBadger
I grew up in a household where we were taught if you don't have anything nice to say, shut the fluck up.
Maybe you should follow your own advice.
Hofstra is a piece of work, but really? You are not even a parent....just here to stir the pot? Come on....no need to be in on this.
Let those with boys fight this battle, no need for your "help". It is just drama.
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MrsC614
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Posted by HeathKernandez
you're kind of a jerk. sorry.
Why was this necessary? You are another poster I had alot of respect for, and now I am just dumbfounded by this! Today has been a real eye opener! What is going on???
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computergirl
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Let me get this straight.
The OP made an insensitive post. Apparently she has a history of insensitivity (I read these boards almost daily but don't really follow who posts what)
We are now on page 3 of a total pile-on, where we feel free to say anything we want about the OP, no matter how nasty.
Because we, uh, don't like insensitivity
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Kmarie36
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by steph7308
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
I honestly don't understand why people got so upset over this.
When people say how girls are a horror, moody b*tches, blah, blah when they're teenagers, no one gets their panties in a bunch. I've read countless times how people thank all of their lucky stars that they have a boy when they're are teenagers and thankfully don't have a "snotty" girl. I see that a lot and no one says a thing!!!!!!!!
This whole thing is just silly. Who cares who's easier. Children are hard to raise in general regardless of gender!!
Ditto!
I 100% agree! I was going to say this but I did not want drama to start up again. I've seen many, many posts and have heard many people say "good luck when she is a teenager!" Every child is different. Some of you really need to relax..who cares who's easier?! Obviously, from what I read on the last thread people have issues with the poster and I think this was just another set off.
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Re: Let me reword this..............
I usually ignore your posts with your complete lack of sensitivity, even intelligence/knowledge, on many topics on the boards.
But how did you think your friends would react when you out them that their kids are monkeys?
I have met many LIF moms over the years and if I posted with some passive aggressive comment about them being little monkeys and THANK GOD I had a boy...I am sure they would be VERY hurt. And they would be right!
"IF" they are your "friends" you would not disrespect them the way you did. How did you think your friends would NOT think you were talking about them? Taking pity on them! Then put a little emote icon to make it all nice and pretty?
It's not your opinion that mattered! Although you clearly have biased views of boys vs. girls. I have seen many little girls climbing everything in sight while my boy was never doing that. All kids are different regardless of gender but it's your delivery!
You get a lot of "lost in translation" in your posts. But since you proud yourself in your intelligence and education, I am not sure anyone thinks that your pompous attitude is really "innocent" and you did not mean it the way you did.
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lovemyfamily88
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Sorry, I'm not that regular of a poster and this type of crap is why.
Its obvious that if one of the more well liked posters said exactly what Hofstra said no one would be bashing her. Its really sad when people claim they are offended saying someone is insensitive and then proceed to bash and bully that person. How hypocritical!!! Its really disgusting the way some posters on here thrive on drama. I hope that these are just your internet personalities!
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jteach
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Re: Let me reword this..............
Posted by lovemyfamily88
Sorry, I'm not that regular of a poster and this type of crap is why.
Its obvious that if one of the more well liked posters said exactly what Hofstra said no one would be bashing her. Its really sad when people claim they are offended saying someone is insensitive and then proceed to bash and bully that person. How hypocritical!!! Its really disgusting the way some posters on here thrive on drama. I hope that these are just your internet personalities!
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