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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by Syliblond81106
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
how soon we all forget...
that is all
i agree
I am not saying she is not legitimately upset. I am just saying that alot of the advice is not going to be helpful to her. Last time she posted some BTDT brides were trying to offer ways to get along with her FMIL & the B2Bs were jumping all over it saying things like "her wedding" & such. I don't see how that is helpful
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Re: LIW cracks me up
I never let myself get so wrapped up that I fogot the actual reason why I was getting married....EVER!
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curliegirl
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie
I try to go over there and give "real" advice from someone who has done it already but it seems lost over there.
so true
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Syliblond81106
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
how soon we all forget...
that is all
i agree
I am not saying she is not legitimately upset. I am just saying that alot of the advice is not going to be helpful to her. Last time she posted some BTDT brides were trying to offer ways to get along with her FMIL & the B2Bs were jumping all over it saying things like "her wedding" & such. I don't see how that is helpful
what does BTDT mean?
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie
I try to go over there and give "real" advice from someone who has done it already but it seems lost over there.
precisely. When we were over there planning it seemed that we looked for the BTDT for help...now...not so much.
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Syliblond81106
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
how soon we all forget...
that is all
i agree
I am not saying she is not legitimately upset. I am just saying that alot of the advice is not going to be helpful to her. Last time she posted some BTDT brides were trying to offer ways to get along with her FMIL & the B2Bs were jumping all over it saying things like "her wedding" & such. I don't see how that is helpful
what does BTDT mean?
Been There Done That.
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
it's easy to forget though...
I remember back to my wedding planning days and I obsessed for weeks on which font to use on my menus 
Absolutely! I never "forgot" what the wedding was truly about....but it's normal to stress and obsess over all the details......It's just hard to relate when it all seems like a milliion years ago.....I remember I almost had a breakdown because the chair covers were white and the tableclothes were ivory! 
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curliegirl
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by leighdvm
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
it's easy to forget though...
I remember back to my wedding planning days and I obsessed for weeks on which font to use on my menus
Absolutely! I never "forgot" what the wedding was truly about....but it's normal to stress and obsess over all the details......It's just hard to relate when it all seems like a milliion years ago.....I remember I almost had a breakdown because the chair covers were white and the tableclothes were ivory!
being on top of details is completely normal, but telling a bride that in the end it is just her and FH, and that his family has nothing to do with her is just plain wrong an ill-advised.
Fine, tell her to get the ivory tuxedo shirts or to make cry-packs herself, but giving her advice that is beyond their realm of comprehension is another story!!!!!!
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by leighdvm
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
it's easy to forget though...
I remember back to my wedding planning days and I obsessed for weeks on which font to use on my menus
Absolutely! I never "forgot" what the wedding was truly about....but it's normal to stress and obsess over all the details......It's just hard to relate when it all seems like a milliion years ago.....I remember I almost had a breakdown because the chair covers were white and the tableclothes were ivory!
omg that's hysterical! I once took a day off from work in search of a new dress shirt for DH (he wore a suit), since the one he bought was a true ivory and looked yellow next to the swatch of my dress.  I felt I needed a whole day to deal with that fiasco
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Re: LIW cracks me up
I have some issues with "how soon we all forget" because I haven't forgotten stressing over small details and being a little self centered at times; I certainly remember. BUT...not once during the plans did I think "it's all about the wedding and that's it." I knew that it was just a party, the wedding was for life. Some of these women seem to forget that and in the meantime, think that their in laws will never matter. There seems to be a lacking of maturity,and I think that's what Gina meant. I notice a lot of concern about gowns and rings, but very little reference to life partners, true love, and being a new family.
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leighdvm
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by leighdvm
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
it's easy to forget though...
I remember back to my wedding planning days and I obsessed for weeks on which font to use on my menus
Absolutely! I never "forgot" what the wedding was truly about....but it's normal to stress and obsess over all the details......It's just hard to relate when it all seems like a milliion years ago.....I remember I almost had a breakdown because the chair covers were white and the tableclothes were ivory!
omg that's hysterical! I once took a day off from work in search of a new dress shirt for DH (he wore a suit), since the one he bought was a true ivory and looked yellow next to the swatch of my dress. I felt I needed a whole day to deal with that fiasco
ahhh, those were the days!
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by curliegirl
Posted by leighdvm
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
it's easy to forget though...
I remember back to my wedding planning days and I obsessed for weeks on which font to use on my menus
Absolutely! I never "forgot" what the wedding was truly about....but it's normal to stress and obsess over all the details......It's just hard to relate when it all seems like a milliion years ago.....I remember I almost had a breakdown because the chair covers were white and the tableclothes were ivory!
being on top of details is completely normal, but telling a bride that in the end it is just her and FH, and that his family has nothing to do with her is just plain wrong an ill-advised.
Fine, tell her to get the ivory tuxedo shirts or to make cry-packs herself, but giving her advice that is beyond their realm of comprehension is another story!!!!!!
I just went over there and saw the post you're talking about. I have seen other posts by her and agree that situation is a train wreck. she shouldn't be asking for advice on LIW at this point. she should be in counseling with her FH.
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by curliegirl
Fine, tell her to get the ivory tuxedo shirts or to make cry-packs herself, but giving her advice that is beyond their realm of comprehension is another story!!!!!!
I agree. It is a hard enough time.
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I look back at my LIW days and I asked some pretty ridiculous questions and freaked out about such dumb things, but I always listened to the brides you were married.
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by curliegirl
Posted by leighdvm
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
it's easy to forget though...
I remember back to my wedding planning days and I obsessed for weeks on which font to use on my menus
Absolutely! I never "forgot" what the wedding was truly about....but it's normal to stress and obsess over all the details......It's just hard to relate when it all seems like a milliion years ago.....I remember I almost had a breakdown because the chair covers were white and the tableclothes were ivory!
being on top of details is completely normal, but telling a bride that in the end it is just her and FH, and that his family has nothing to do with her is just plain wrong an ill-advised.
Fine, tell her to get the ivory tuxedo shirts or to make cry-packs herself, but giving her advice that is beyond their realm of comprehension is another story!!!!!!
You are correct, and I agree with you..
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Re: LIW cracks me up
'05 Brides Meltdown Moments
here is a link I found from the 05-ers about there meltdown moments...why dont we all read it and remember how you all were when you were planning your own weddings.
its easy to look back and see how riduclous you could have acted over silly things....
and honestly, while yes you are marrying the whole family so they say, if i hated my FILs (thank goodness I don't!) It wouldnt stop me from marrying my FH...
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curliegirl
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by Meaghan729
'05 Brides Meltdown Moments
here is a link I found from the 05-ers about there meltdown moments...why dont we all read it and remember how you all were when you were planning your own weddings.
its easy to look back and see how riduclous you could have acted over silly things....
and honestly, while yes you are marrying the whole family so they say, if i hated my FILs (thank goodness I don't!) It wouldnt stop me from marrying my FH...
I don't need a reminder of my wedding planning days, I remember thinking these SAME EXACT things while I WAS planning. You will never find a post of me obsessing over cry packs or freaking out over hair trials, or discussing the size, cut, clarity or quality of my e-ring.
And if you want to obsess over things like that, that's fine, I am talking about brides giving advice to each other about a topic they have yet to experience and being DEAD WRONG about it........
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Re: LIW cracks me up
I am not in there...or at least I can't find it. I think I had a silly meltdown about the guest list, b/c we were over what we wanted. Any major issue I had was worrying if my sister would be comfortable walking down the aisle with her cane and figuring out how to do photos so that she could be part of it. IMO, REAL issues.
And i rarely posted about it because it was a private issue....
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
it's easy to forget though...
I remember back to my wedding planning days and I obsessed for weeks on which font to use on my menus
Me too. I got caught up in all of it favors, slippers for the stupid slipper baskets and all of that other stuff.
It's very important to you when you are going through it but you eventually move on to the mundane details of the next stage of your life.
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by curliegirl
And if you want to obsess over things like that, that's fine, I am talking about brides giving advice to each other about a topic they have yet to experience and being DEAD WRONG about it........
its your opinion that they are dead wrong though - everyone's family dynamics and situation is completely different.
and im not saying every bride obsessed with the "clarity of their ering" - but planning a wedding is stressful and we have all been there.
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by Meaghan729
Posted by curliegirl
And if you want to obsess over things like that, that's fine, I am talking about brides giving advice to each other about a topic they have yet to experience and being DEAD WRONG about it........
its your opinion that they are dead wrong though - everyone's family dynamics and situation is completely different.
and im not saying every bride obsessed with the "clarity of their ering" - but planning a wedding is stressful and we have all been there.
Maybe something was lost in translation here, but I don't think that is what is being said.
Why is this turning into drama?
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Meaghan729
Posted by curliegirl
And if you want to obsess over things like that, that's fine, I am talking about brides giving advice to each other about a topic they have yet to experience and being DEAD WRONG about it........
its your opinion that they are dead wrong though - everyone's family dynamics and situation is completely different.
and im not saying every bride obsessed with the "clarity of their ering" - but planning a wedding is stressful and we have all been there.
Maybe something was lost in translation here, but I don't think that is what is being said.
Why is this turning into drama?
there is no drama, its a discussion.
i dont think anything was lost in translation either - i just dont think its fair to say people are dead wrong with their opinion - and opinion is what you think - but thats JMO!
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curliegirl
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Re: LIW cracks me up
So then, you agre with an unmarried person telling another unmarried person that they are not marrying their FH's family, just their FH?
Remember, these women are giving advice to a person who just may believe what they are being told, and after she's married and the grass isn't greener on the other side, who's gonna help her?
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Posted by Meaghan729
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Meaghan729
Posted by curliegirl
And if you want to obsess over things like that, that's fine, I am talking about brides giving advice to each other about a topic they have yet to experience and being DEAD WRONG about it........
its your opinion that they are dead wrong though - everyone's family dynamics and situation is completely different.
and im not saying every bride obsessed with the "clarity of their ering" - but planning a wedding is stressful and we have all been there.
Maybe something was lost in translation here, but I don't think that is what is being said.
Why is this turning into drama?
there is no drama, its a discussion.
i dont think anything was lost in translation either - i just dont think its fair to say people are dead wrong with their opinion - and opinion is what you think - but thats JMO!
OK. An opinion based on mere opinion vs. an opinion based on experience from a person who has lived through the same things you are going through....I think it is fair to say it is not the same exact kind of opinion.
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Re: LIW cracks me up
Why is LIW always brought up here 
Shouldn't LIW only be discussed there
and LIF only be discussed here??
Unless it's in a good way.. JMO
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