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maybebaby
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
OMG I go through these feelings after every baby, lol..completely normal.
I get SO overwhelmed by love, sadness, worry etc...it lasts a few weeks on and off then just stops. I am 7 weeks post partum and I can honestly say it's gone (for the most part). But when it's happening, its crazy! Hormones are crazy things!! Just know it's normal and should pass soon!!!
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beachgirl
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
Crazy hormones for sure BUT I instantly became a different person when my first DC was born. So much so that I asked my OB if he turned on some mysterious switch in me when he delivered the baby. I cry over everything now. So while the crazy emotional overload definitely is at a peak for you right do not be surprised if 6 months down the road you cannot listen to some songs on the radio without tearing up as they remind you of your DS, same goes for ad's on the t.v, etc etc. Becoming a mother changes you instantly but its all good and huge congrats to you and your DH on your new bundle of joy
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| Posted 9/14/13 8:53 PM |
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Smiles111
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Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
I've been struggling with death/mortality fear as well as fear of injury/illness b/c I was so incapacitated & frightened throughout my twin pregnancy. Thanks for posting this. I needed to read it tonight!
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| Posted 9/14/13 8:56 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
Posted by beachgirl
Crazy hormones for sure BUT I instantly became a different person when my first DC was born. So much so that I asked my OB if he turned on some mysterious switch in me when he delivered the baby. I cry over everything now. So while the crazy emotional overload definitely is at a peak for you right do not be surprised if 6 months down the road you cannot listen to some songs on the radio without tearing up as they remind you of your DS, same goes for ad's on the t.v, etc etc. Becoming a mother changes you instantly but its all good and huge congrats to you and your DH on your new bundle of joy
This. ITA!!!! I was NEVER a cryer........now??!!..........good lord, I can cry at a stupid commercial. It's crazy. I'm totally different since having my kids. And while it was most intense right after birth I'm still so emotional when it comes to them and when I think about my DH and our little family.
I too also feel like I worry so much more than ever. My favorite time of the day is when the kids are peacefully sleeping and my DH is snuggled on the couch with me. I like knowing everyone is home safe and sound. I definitely think about my own mortality more now that I have kids. And I am always worrying about my kids and DH and their safety. I was never a worrier before but that's all changed now.
I'm a totally different person, emotionally, since having children.
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| Posted 9/15/13 8:08 AM |
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Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
Congratulations! Have you considered a new mother's group? Being around moms that are going through the same thing as you can help. We offer a great one at CFA. If you're interested you can get more information on the website.CFA website
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
Honestly it is mostly hormones   That said the day I became mother my perspective on life was forever changed in an incredible way, I was a responsible adult before DS but something about the idea of being his mother, one of the two people primary in his care, safety, education it is jarring and frankly scary at first, it is also wonderful. The hormones calm down and you adopt you're new purpose and responsibility but there are certainly days where I am still scared and nervous about the whole deal 
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| Posted 9/15/13 9:36 AM |
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FlowerWife
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Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
everything sounds normal to me. i would say if after 2 weeks + you still feel like this very strongly, it could be signs of a post partum mood disorder (ie PPD, PPA..etc) - FM me if you have any specific questions about that. i feel like you are so close to delivery still that your hormones are still dropping rapidly. the first two weeks are totally about survival from all standpoints.
i agree that you cant type A motherhood. you wont excel all the time. on some fronts you will just get by. on others you will fall flat before you figure out how to just get by. in other things you will soar. there is no right or wrong, no pass or fail. being a good parent is about the love you give. we aren't perfect people so we will never be perfect parents. just love your kid and your family and give what you can and have faith that it will all end up OK
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| Posted 9/15/13 11:24 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
It's the hormones! And couple that with the servere sleep deprivation (which you most certainly will go through shortly) and you will feel all sorts of crazy! Give yourself at least a month before you can expect to start feeling like your old self again.
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| Posted 9/15/13 11:40 AM |
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DaniJude
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
Posted by Calla
Posted by DaniRella
I just look at him and I want to make sure I do everything the best I possibly can for him. I'm very Type A, I have always given 110% at everything I do and I excel at what I choose to put effort into -- but then I worry that I will fall short with this responsibility.
Your emotions are totally normal, but the line quoted above is what makes me worry the most about you. Mostly because it sounds so familiar to emotions I went through and that now with an 8 year old and 5 year old, I realize was a very damaging way to thing.
You can not Type A this parenting thing. You can not give 110% and expect to excel at it. This is not a task that can be mastered and perfected. Its simply way too messy with way too many variables out of your control.
The sooner you can embrace the mantra of doing good enough, the sooner you will be at peace.
You will fall short at times. We all do. The key is to try your hardest, and when you screw up to fix it. Don't expect that you can plan for all situations and prevent all injury and perfect his whole childhood. Just love him, and give yourself some slack. You will all be fine.
Yes, this is why I'm so happy I have DH - talk about balancing me out. He's very laid back and doesn't look at things like 'it must be perfect' but rather looks at the messy stuff in life and sees perfection and silver linings in it. Thank God I married him because it's a great balance... He brings me right back down to earth.
And to kind of update: today is day three of being home and I'm struggling with the fear and overwhelming emotions a lot less! Which is great - as things are going well and DH and I are working together to take care of Julian, I feel better and better. I also had a phone meeting with my counselor and that helped tremendously. I feel a big sense of relief.
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| Posted 9/15/13 1:51 PM |
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DaniJude
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
Posted by Smiles111
I've been struggling with death/mortality fear as well as fear of injury/illness b/c I was so incapacitated & frightened throughout my twin pregnancy. Thanks for posting this. I needed to read it tonight!
Aww, I'm so glad it helped 
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| Posted 9/15/13 1:53 PM |
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stargazerlily
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Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
Congratulations! And you are definitely not alone. I always worried about the people around me staying safe and healthy but the feeling seriously intensified once DD was born. For the first two weeks home I cried every time the sun went down lol. DH knew he had to do whatever he needed to out of the house before dark because after that I was not ok. The crying will get better over time and the rest of it you will learn to cope with. Now I cant wait for nighttime so I can go to bed lol. And worrying about my family.......I just make sure we all spend as much time together as possible because thats what really matters.
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| Posted 9/15/13 2:20 PM |
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Mags1227
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
I was always a crier, but when DS was born it went into overdrive.
Like you said, every little thing made me cry. I think i spend the first few days with constant tears in my eyes.
Ds is now 3. I still cry, especially about things relating to him. But i'm better able to control it.
A few weeks after, your body is still full of raging hormones. They make you extra sentimental. Something about helping you bond with the baby. a completely normal response.
Enjoy the newborn because they grow up so fast!
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
Congratulations!!!
What you are feeling is completely normal. I think it's referred to as the baby blues and it typically lasts about 2 weeks from what I have read. I had the baby blues with both my kids. I cried over everything. I cried for the following reasons
- I was happy
-I was sad
-overwhelmed
-when will my clothes fit again
-when will my wedding rings fit again
-I don't feel like cooking dinner
-or organizing the house
etc etc
eta - I remember crying while they wheeled me out of the hospital and driving away from the hospital. I had no idea what I was crying over - it was just happening.
I remember reading that if those feelings lasted more than 2 weeks, it could be post partum depression and to see your doc. Having a baby is overwhelming and is a lot on your body and hormones. I'm certain you will get through this. Congrats on your new little one.
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Chai77
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
I really believe it is hormonal. It is adaptive for the hormones postpartum to amplify our emotions, it allows us to really bond with our little ones. It happened to me with both of my babies, but more so with my first. It's great you were able to make contact w your therapist.
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| Posted 9/15/13 9:13 PM |
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sweetpea
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
you have FM.
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| Posted 9/17/13 12:53 PM |
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
Congratulations on your little guy.
... as far as the overwhelming love for your huband goes -- give it a week. Pretty soon you'll want to murder him in his sleep sometimes.
Wait, that's just me?
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| Posted 9/17/13 2:18 PM |
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kahlua716
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Re: Looking for some feedback and experiences about a life-changing event... the birth of my son:
100% TOTALLY Normal!!!!
Enjoy that little miracle
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