Looking for thoughts/ideas/suggestions.....

So I dropped my DC off late to daycare this morning since I had to take DD to the doctor first. Turns out she has an eye infection... but not pink eye.

Anyway, after dropping her off in her class, DS and I go to his room. They are lining up to go outside.

There are about 8 kids in line with their coats and hats on. There are 3 other children waiting to put their coats on.

So as we are getting settled, DS lead teacher (who I am not completely thrilled with as she just took over his class on Monday and there's a history with her that makes for another story) says to me "It's so funny that it takes Lucas so long to get his coat on. I can call him first to start getting his coat on and he will still be the last one done."

I was in a hurry and had to leave so I didn't really question her about it. But now that I am thinking back, I am just about the whole conversation. First of all, if you have concerns about my son, maybe ask to speak to me at a time when you are not trying to get all the kids out the door. I had no idea if she thought it was funny or if she was concerned by it in the way she so casually mentioned it.

Second, now I am worried about DS. He is 3.5. I know that he has issues listening. I know that he takes forever to do things because he gets side tracked. I know that he has perfect hearing but when you call his name he will ignore you. But having her say this comment to me in passing has thrown me into a tailspin of analyzing everything he does and how I am as a parent... how inconsistent I am as a parent.

Maybe our lack of structure and consequences is making Lucas the way he is. Maybe there's something more like ADD going on. I have no idea, but now I can't stop thinking about it.

Anyway, I' was just looking to see what other moms thought. Any thoughts or ideas are appreciated!

Re: Looking for thoughts/ideas/suggestions.....

These daycare teacher stories really make me mad!!
my son is in daycare too btw.

I feel like some of them are inexperienced when it comes to discussing issues with parents and how to handle a "potential" issue!!

they ususally are young.. in my sons' case so I think it comes with age and experience..

I would be angry and I would ask that if she thought there was an issue with they way he does or doesn't do things..she needs to set up a meeting with you.

or to say nicely' "do you think we should have a meeting about what you talking about this morning"

Re: Looking for thoughts/ideas/suggestions.....

Posted by Linda1003

These daycare teacher stories really make me mad!!
my son is in daycare too btw.

I feel like some of them are inexperienced when it comes to discussing issues with parents and how to handle a "potential" issue!!

they ususally are young.. in my sons' case so I think it comes with age and experience..

I would be angry and I would ask that if she thought there was an issue with they way he does or doesn't do things..she needs to set up a meeting with you.

or to say nicely' "do you think we should have a meeting about what you talking about this morning"

Re: Looking for thoughts/ideas/suggestions.....

Posted by Linda1003

These daycare teacher stories really make me mad!!
my son is in daycare too btw.

I feel like some of them are inexperienced when it comes to discussing issues with parents and how to handle a "potential" issue!!

Re: Looking for thoughts/ideas/suggestions.....

Posted by jerseypanda

Posted by Linda1003

These daycare teacher stories really make me mad!!
my son is in daycare too btw.

I feel like some of them are inexperienced when it comes to discussing issues with parents and how to handle a "potential" issue!!

they ususally are young.. in my sons' case so I think it comes with age and experience..

I would be angry and I would ask that if she thought there was an issue with they way he does or doesn't do things..she needs to set up a meeting with you.

or to say nicely' "do you think we should have a meeting about what you talking about this morning"

I really am not fond of his teacher. When DS started daycare 2 1/2 years ago she was the head teacher in his room. She comes off as very indifferent, not overly happy, there was always just something about her attitude that rubbed DH and I the wrong way. He was only in her class for about 4 months. So you can imagine how unhappy we were to find out she is now taking over his room again.

I will have to see if I can address this again with her because it's really bothering me.

Re: Looking for thoughts/ideas/suggestions.....

Posted by jerseypanda

So I dropped my DC off late to daycare this morning since I had to take DD to the doctor first. Turns out she has an eye infection... but not pink eye.

Anyway, after dropping her off in her class, DS and I go to his room. They are lining up to go outside.

There are about 8 kids in line with their coats and hats on. There are 3 other children waiting to put their coats on.

So as we are getting settled, DS lead teacher (who I am not completely thrilled with as she just took over his class on Monday and there's a history with her that makes for another story) says to me "It's so funny that it takes Lucas so long to get his coat on. I can call him first to start getting his coat on and he will still be the last one done."

I was in a hurry and had to leave so I didn't really question her about it. But now that I am thinking back, I am just about the whole conversation. First of all, if you have concerns about my son, maybe ask to speak to me at a time when you are not trying to get all the kids out the door. I had no idea if she thought it was funny or if she was concerned by it in the way she so casually mentioned it.

Second, now I am worried about DS. He is 3.5. I know that he has issues listening. I know that he takes forever to do things because he gets side tracked. I know that he has perfect hearing but when you call his name he will ignore you. But having her say this comment to me in passing has thrown me into a tailspin of analyzing everything he does and how I am as a parent... how inconsistent I am as a parent.

Maybe our lack of structure and consequences is making Lucas the way he is. Maybe there's something more like ADD going on. I have no idea, but now I can't stop thinking about it.

Anyway, I' was just looking to see what other moms thought. Any thoughts or ideas are appreciated!