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rugratmama
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Losing recess (1st grade)
DD lost 5 minutes of recess for saying "potty words". She said "diarrhea head" and "poopy head". She and her BFF were joking around. Another kid told on them. This is the second time she had recess taken away for this.
I talked with her about it last time and she lost the ipad for the weekend. Now she lost it again and has to spend time in her room, and no snacks (treats). Plus I told her no play dates next week or over the weekend. So I am dealing with it. I agree that she shouldn't be saying it.
But at the same time, I'm like "come on, really?" It seems so silly. I guess it has to do with the whole bullying thing. Even though it wasn't said for that purpose. Just kids being kids. It's just annoying. 
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Posted 11/20/13 4:14 PM  |
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My2Girlz11
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
Did the teacher call you about this or did your daughter tell you about it? If the teacher didn't call you about it, I don't think the teacher thinks it is a big deal.
I think you did the right thing by talking to her about it. The teacher gave her the consequence by losing five minutes of playtime. In my mind, I would think that would be sufficient enough for calling someone a potty word. If you saw it becoming an issue then I would start taking things away.
This is JMO.
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| Posted 11/20/13 7:17 PM |
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InShock
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
I would not punish my child at home for something like that. Have a conversation? Yes, absolutely. But I really don't see the need to have an added consequence at home.
FYI, we teachers have very little choice in terms of consequences. Losing some or all of recess is usually our only option!
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| Posted 11/20/13 7:37 PM |
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rugratmama
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
Posted by My2Girlz11
Did the teacher call you about this or did your daughter tell you about it? If the teacher didn't call you about it, I don't think the teacher thinks it is a big deal.
I think you did the right thing by talking to her about it. The teacher gave her the consequence by losing five minutes of playtime. In my mind, I would think that would be sufficient enough for calling someone a potty word. If you saw it becoming an issue then I would start taking things away.
This is JMO.
The teacher emailed me about the last incident. And she sent home a notice for this one.
I don't think she was calling her a potty word. I think they were saying it and giggling. Like it was funny. This incident was in the cafeteria.
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| Posted 11/20/13 8:06 PM |
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rugratmama
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
Posted by InShock
I would not punish my child at home for something like that. Have a conversation? Yes, absolutely. But I really don't see the need to have an added consequence at home.
FYI, we teachers have very little choice in terms of consequences. Losing some or all of recess is usually our only option!
She knows if she has an incident in school, it's automatic no ipad. We have spoken about this, so that's why she was punished this time.
I think it's just kids being kids. But I don't want her getting in trouble.
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| Posted 11/20/13 8:08 PM |
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PatsBrat
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
Posted by rugratmama
Posted by InShock
I would not punish my child at home for something like that. Have a conversation? Yes, absolutely. But I really don't see the need to have an added consequence at home.
FYI, we teachers have very little choice in terms of consequences. Losing some or all of recess is usually our only option!
She knows if she has an incident in school, it's automatic no ipad. We have spoken about this, so that's why she was punished this time.
I think it's just kids being kids. But I don't want her getting in trouble.
It's totally just kids being kids, but in a school setting potty language is contagious. 2 kids giggling and being silly is one thing, a class of 25 doing it is out of control. Unfortunately teachers have to nip it in the bud with strict consequences or it gets out if hand.
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| Posted 11/20/13 8:35 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
I am laughing. I actually dealt with something similar. In kindergarten at parent teacher conference the teacher said your dd is using potty words. I was like 
Then I found out that it was pee pee and poopy and thought...my god she's 4. For the love of god, I thought my 4 yr old had said something way worse then pee pee. With that said, correcting yes, punishment no. They have to learn and grow. They are young.
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| Posted 11/20/13 8:36 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
Posted by PatsBrat
Posted by rugratmama
Posted by InShock
I would not punish my child at home for something like that. Have a conversation? Yes, absolutely. But I really don't see the need to have an added consequence at home.
FYI, we teachers have very little choice in terms of consequences. Losing some or all of recess is usually our only option!
She knows if she has an incident in school, it's automatic no ipad. We have spoken about this, so that's why she was punished this time.
I think it's just kids being kids. But I don't want her getting in trouble.
It's totally just kids being kids, but in a school setting potty language is contagious. 2 kids giggling and being silly is one thing, a class of 25 doing it is out of control. Unfortunately teachers have to nip it in the bud with strict consequences or it gets out if hand.
are we talking big kids or little kids bc little kids are out of control regardless of saying pee pee and poo poo. The best method to me seems to exhibit correct behavior and have the kids learn from you. Role model.
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| Posted 11/20/13 8:39 PM |
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mosh913
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
I think 5 min off of recess is appropriate IF the teacher asked her to stop 2X. I'm a 3 times your out type of teacher (I teach 1st). Otherwise, it's kids being kids. I'm sorry but JMHO, I think your consequences were a little tough, but as a teacher would appreciate you following up. I'm very surprised this is such an issue especially if she was just saying it and not calling someone it.
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| Posted 11/20/13 8:56 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
Posted by PrincessP
Posted by PatsBrat
Posted by rugratmama
Posted by InShock
I would not punish my child at home for something like that. Have a conversation? Yes, absolutely. But I really don't see the need to have an added consequence at home.
FYI, we teachers have very little choice in terms of consequences. Losing some or all of recess is usually our only option!
She knows if she has an incident in school, it's automatic no ipad. We have spoken about this, so that's why she was punished this time.
I think it's just kids being kids. But I don't want her getting in trouble.
It's totally just kids being kids, but in a school setting potty language is contagious. 2 kids giggling and being silly is one thing, a class of 25 doing it is out of control. Unfortunately teachers have to nip it in the bud with strict consequences or it gets out if hand.
are we talking big kids or little kids bc little kids are out of control regardless of saying pee pee and poo poo. The best method to me seems to exhibit correct behavior and have the kids learn from you. Role model.
A first grader is an entirely different entity than a 4 year old. ANd honestly in kindergarten they try to stop "potty" words from being used. It obviously bothered another child enough for them to tattle.
I do not think the offense was very extreme and nor do I think the punishment was extreme. A five minute time out for 5 or 6 year old seems appropriate. I do think that the at home punishments were a little harsh though. It was only a couple of kids fooling around and saying potty words and it was only a five minute time out. NO big deal. I am sure the teachers and staff are modeling appropriate language and behavior.
My daughter's in first grade too. And I know I cut potty talk off immediately at home, especially during a meal. But I am not surprised by her behavior.
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| Posted 11/20/13 9:02 PM |
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rugratmama
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
Posted by twicethefun
Posted by PrincessP
Posted by PatsBrat
Posted by rugratmama
Posted by InShock
I would not punish my child at home for something like that. Have a conversation? Yes, absolutely. But I really don't see the need to have an added consequence at home.
FYI, we teachers have very little choice in terms of consequences. Losing some or all of recess is usually our only option!
She knows if she has an incident in school, it's automatic no ipad. We have spoken about this, so that's why she was punished this time.
I think it's just kids being kids. But I don't want her getting in trouble.
It's totally just kids being kids, but in a school setting potty language is contagious. 2 kids giggling and being silly is one thing, a class of 25 doing it is out of control. Unfortunately teachers have to nip it in the bud with strict consequences or it gets out if hand.
are we talking big kids or little kids bc little kids are out of control regardless of saying pee pee and poo poo. The best method to me seems to exhibit correct behavior and have the kids learn from you. Role model.
A first grader is an entirely different entity than a 4 year old. ANd honestly in kindergarten they try to stop "potty" words from being used. It obviously bothered another child enough for them to tattle.
I do not think the offense was very extreme and nor do I think the punishment was extreme. A five minute time out for 5 or 6 year old seems appropriate. I do think that the at home punishments were a little harsh though. It was only a couple of kids fooling around and saying potty words and it was only a five minute time out. NO big deal. I am sure the teachers and staff are modeling appropriate language and behavior.
My daughter's in first grade too. And I know I cut potty talk off immediately at home, especially during a meal. But I am not surprised by her behavior.
I punished her because this is the second time this happened. We spoke about it before. She gets warnings before recess is taken away.
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| Posted 11/20/13 9:11 PM |
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Sash
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Losing recess (1st grade)
I don't think your punishment was harsh, she lost her iPad you didn't send her to solitary confinement. I would have reacted the same especially if occurred a second time and my DS is in Kindergarten. If my DS doesn't get consequences at home he will keep doing it!
I know DS missed 5 min of recess and they don't tell me all the time. I
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| Posted 11/20/13 9:55 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
My DS is in first. I think the teacher taking 5 mins of recess was the perfect consequence. THings that happen in school must be "punished" in school IMO, otherwise what authority does it show that the teacher has? If the teacher just said no more potty words, how does she know you are going to follow up. Some parents would have just said "oh thats not so bad " and moved on, and at that point the child learned nothing.
I feel a child has to understand that in the teachers classroom the rules have to be followed otherwise there are consequences, set for by that teacher, its her classroom afterall.
DS acted up in class one day, had to sit in the take a break chair and write a sentence about being good in school. A note came home and we discussed it. He was told he gets one chance, if he doesnt learn from this experience, the next time a note comes home, there will be consequences at home as well ie no electronics.
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| Posted 11/20/13 10:01 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Losing recess (1st grade)
Posted by rugratmama
Posted by twicethefun
Posted by PrincessP
Posted by PatsBrat
Posted by rugratmama
Posted by InShock
I would not punish my child at home for something like that. Have a conversation? Yes, absolutely. But I really don't see the need to have an added consequence at home.
FYI, we teachers have very little choice in terms of consequences. Losing some or all of recess is usually our only option!
She knows if she has an incident in school, it's automatic no ipad. We have spoken about this, so that's why she was punished this time.
I think it's just kids being kids. But I don't want her getting in trouble.
It's totally just kids being kids, but in a school setting potty language is contagious. 2 kids giggling and being silly is one thing, a class of 25 doing it is out of control. Unfortunately teachers have to nip it in the bud with strict consequences or it gets out if hand.
are we talking big kids or little kids bc little kids are out of control regardless of saying pee pee and poo poo. The best method to me seems to exhibit correct behavior and have the kids learn from you. Role model.
A first grader is an entirely different entity than a 4 year old. ANd honestly in kindergarten they try to stop "potty" words from being used. It obviously bothered another child enough for them to tattle.
I do not think the offense was very extreme and nor do I think the punishment was extreme. A five minute time out for 5 or 6 year old seems appropriate. I do think that the at home punishments were a little harsh though. It was only a couple of kids fooling around and saying potty words and it was only a five minute time out. NO big deal. I am sure the teachers and staff are modeling appropriate language and behavior.
My daughter's in first grade too. And I know I cut potty talk off immediately at home, especially during a meal. But I am not surprised by her behavior.
I punished her because this is the second time this happened. We spoke about it before. She gets warnings before recess is taken away.
see, I think you hit the nail on the head. She really didn't lose anything bc of a random potty word, she lost it bc of her inability to listen to what is being asked of her. That's a different entity and deserves 5 min loss in recess.
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