low libido after birth

I have no sex drive at all. I have always been a pretty sexual person with dh. Now, after baby 3. I have no desire to have sex. We have bc I felt bad for him, but I just lay there hoping for it to be over. He thinks it's him, it's not. I am still attracted to him. I asked my dr, she said im tired and its normal.

Did anyone experience this? How long were you in a funk?


My ds is 1 month old. The other two are 2&4.

Re: low libido after birth

I did not want to be touched 1 month pp. Don't they say you should wait six weeks?

Regardless, completely normal. Not many are raring to go with a one month old. Still sleepless and recovering.

low libido after birth

He will be 2 months on the 21st. We have had sex twice. My husband is being really selfish. Making it about him. I wish he could understand how it feels to be a mom. I am exhausted and feel disgusting. I just have no desire.

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Um, my youngest kid is 3 YEARS old and I think it's happened twice within the last month, if that.

Oh man, I think you're completely normal. You've got three little, little kids, never mind a newborn! Give yourself a break and tell your DH the same!

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Sorry, but tell your DH to cool it. My DS is 4 months old, and I still have very little desire. It is starting to get a bit better. I literally fall into bed at night, and that is the last thing I want to think about.

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I had number 3 in July and I had no desire for quite a few months afterwards. I was (and still am!) exhausted and between that and struggling to get my body back to where it was, I wasn't into it. It has gotten significantly better for me. I am still tired, but less so, and my libido has returned. It's not where it was, but it's so much better than right afterwards. I didn't have this with my other two, so it was a worry for me, but it did return with a little time.

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It's only been 7 weeks?! Seriously, stop beating yourself up. Your hormones are still super wacky, and hormones play a big part in arousal. It's true; there are a lot of birth control pills whose side effects are low libido, because they alter your hormone levels. Pregnancy obviously alters your hormone levels too - think how long it takes to start getting a regular period after you give birth.

You're not doing anything wrong and this situation isn't weird. You're a stressed-out, tired, hormonal, still-probably-a-little-sore Momma of 3. You're good. You might not be back to "yourself" for a few months now and that's ok. There are other things you and DH can do. Hope you feel better soon.

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This sounds awful and I know my husband prob wasn't the happiest but after baby 3 it took 5 months to DTD!! I was EXHAUSTED, hormonal, felt fat, was back in school when he was 3 weeks old. I thought my libido would never come back. But it did. Around 5 months a switch went off, lol. It will happen. In the meantime it helps to make yourself feel better...buy some new clothes, get your hair done, etc...it helps you feel better again!!!

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About 13 months when I weaned DS is when I actually "felt" like DTD. Also it's when it stopped hurting as well.

Message edited 3/15/2014 8:32:46 PM.

low libido after birth

You have 3 kids including a newborn. Sounds normal to me!