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DopeysMama
LIF Infant
Member since 2/12 218 total posts
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Emily
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MIL vent
I cant.
My MIL just requested to be in the room while I deliver.
According to her this is her last grandbaby and it is her due right to be there.
Sorry, but NO!
Anyone?
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Posted 3/23/12 2:07 PM  |
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BBin2012
Full heart!
Member since 8/11 1835 total posts
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Ka
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Re: MIL vent
OMG!!!! 
What was your reaction??
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:09 PM |
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Jax430
Hi!
Member since 5/05 18919 total posts
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Jackie
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Re: MIL vent
No way in hell! My own mother isn't even allowed in! Thank G-d my MIL would have no interest in being in the room.
How did you respond?
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:14 PM |
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LiveItUp
Love my babies!
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Re: MIL vent
No!!! Why does she think it's her right? You shouldn't have anyone in there that you don't want there. Is your DH taking your side?
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:18 PM |
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JKinCT
Gonna be a big sister!
Member since 11/07 1559 total posts
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Korin
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Re: MIL vent
When I gave birth to DD my step-mom was actually upset when we didn't let her come back in the room. I let my mom and step-mom come in to say hi, but I had made the nurses lie and say everyone had to leave the room except DH so they could break my water.
I think my mom knew better, that I wouldn't want them in the room, but that was lost on my step-mom. Now we are close, but come on...
Hopefully this time everyone knows the drill and will just stay out! 
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:20 PM |
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DopeysMama
LIF Infant
Member since 2/12 218 total posts
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Emily
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Re: MIL vent
I was dumb struck. (Not too difficult since Im pregnant and suffer from pregnancy induced stupidity)
I told her that I didnt think it was a possibility due to hospital regulations. 
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:21 PM |
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Re: MIL vent
She had her "due right" when she had her own children. She got to be in the room then.
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:22 PM |
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LoveMyHubby605
Our April Baby is here!
Member since 4/11 2418 total posts
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A
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Re: MIL vent
Posted by bringonthebaby
She had her "due right" when she had her own children. She got to be in the room then.
 amen!
yikes, how ballsy of her to even think she has a right to be there. 
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:24 PM |
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DopeysMama
LIF Infant
Member since 2/12 218 total posts
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Emily
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Re: MIL vent
Posted by LiveItUp
No!!! Why does she think it's her right? You shouldn't have anyone in there that you don't want there. Is your DH taking your side?
She's very odd to begin with.
I havent told my DH yet. I'll him when he gets home.
I know what he's going to say/do. He's going to laugh and shake his head. Then tell me that he'll deal with it when the time comes. Which means when I go into labor.
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:24 PM |
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Loveme
LIF Adult
Member since 6/11 3170 total posts
Name:
Me
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Re: MIL vent
Tell her new hospital policy is only husbands allowed in the room.
Wow, I would be stunned if my MIL pulled that crap
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:33 PM |
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cds58019
The loves of my life :)
Member since 6/08 4276 total posts
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Candice
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Re: MIL vent
Who do some people think thy are?!? At least you know your DH will back you whether he addresses it now or later.
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:44 PM |
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MRsFaTThead
NY GIRL IN TEXAS
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WHO GIVES A POO WHO GIVES A FUDGE !!
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Re: MIL vent
 due right
not a kool thing to say
not sure if my mil will ask but if she doesnt i would like her to be there. just need to make sure dh is ok with it.
i know i know im the odd ball. i actually love my mil to death and would love it she could see her first grandchild be born. dh is her first born.
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| Posted 3/23/12 2:55 PM |
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MrsRapz
mahna mahna!
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Re: MIL vent
Tell her the room's already going to be full since your mom and grandmother will be there with you 
i can't believe she asked you that!!!
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| Posted 3/23/12 3:00 PM |
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MRsFaTThead
NY GIRL IN TEXAS
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WHO GIVES A POO WHO GIVES A FUDGE !!
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Re: MIL vent
Posted by MrsRapz
Tell her the room's already going to be full since your mom and grandmother will be there with you
i can't believe she asked you that!!!
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| Posted 3/23/12 3:14 PM |
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gabbie83
2 girls <3
Member since 6/08 3037 total posts
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gabbie
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Re: MIL vent
Posted by DopeysMama
I was dumb struck. (Not too difficult since Im pregnant and suffer from pregnancy induced stupidity)
I told her that I didnt think it was a possibility due to hospital regulations.
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| Posted 3/23/12 3:51 PM |
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gabbie83
2 girls <3
Member since 6/08 3037 total posts
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gabbie
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Re: MIL vent
omg why would they even want to be there
its a moment between you and hubby
i dont want anyone in there besides my hubby and the other 10 doctors or nurses that will be in there looking at my vajajay!!!!!!!
WHAT THE heckkkkkkkk
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| Posted 3/23/12 3:52 PM |
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Re: MIL vent
My MIL and FIL bought me a video camera so I could "film the birth". Heck no! Plus the hospital doesn't even allow cameras (so I used that as my main excuse) but now I feel like MIL will push to be in the room. I am not letting my own mother witness the birth, why would I let her? DH knows... it is him and NO ONE ELSE.
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| Posted 3/23/12 4:04 PM |
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ShhhTTCin11
3 under 3?!
Member since 5/11 2229 total posts
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Coleen
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Re: MIL vent
I wouldn't even make up an excuse - I would have just told her "No, just DH and I are going to be alone in the room for delivery"
I won't even let Mom and MIL come visit me in L&D. I told them they can see all 3 of us after the fact
That is pretty ballsy of her!!
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| Posted 3/23/12 4:05 PM |
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ShhhTTCin11
3 under 3?!
Member since 5/11 2229 total posts
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Coleen
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Re: MIL vent
Posted by BaysideForever
My MIL and FIL bought me a video camera so I could "film the birth". Heck no! Plus the hospital doesn't even allow cameras (so I used that as my main excuse) but now I feel like MIL will push to be in the room. I am not letting my own mother witness the birth, why would I let her? DH knows... it is him and NO ONE ELSE.
OMG - absolutely crazy! Was the film for you and DH to have or did they plan on watching it LOL?
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| Posted 3/23/12 4:06 PM |
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sheepbaby
LIF Infant
Member since 9/11 240 total posts
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Christine
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Re: MIL vent
I feel for you. If my MIL lived in closer, this is something she would totally ask.
My in-laws have no boundaries what so ever, and would find it perfectly acceptable to be in the room...and by my feet!...if I let them.
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| Posted 3/23/12 4:18 PM |
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anewday
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Dawn
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Re: MIL vent
oh h e l l no
it is your "due right" to be comfortable and have it the way YOU see fit! with the most powerful moment of your life!
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| Posted 3/23/12 5:05 PM |
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PrettyPeonies
GAW my baby boy <3
Member since 8/10 3874 total posts
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Pino
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Re: MIL vent
WOW!!! Ummm....well, Im sorry she is putting you in this position. I agree w/what a lot of ladies are saying and of course, what you already know. This is not the time or place for her to be pulling any demands. Just hold strong to your decision, this is not her party.
I'm actually 1/2 waiting for my MIL to introduce this idea. She is already hinting to DH she wants in on the next sono. There is NO way in heck I'm having DH stay out in the waiting room so she can be there. I'm kinda in a different situation, I dont have a mom so MIL has happily taken over the role. I honestly think it makes her happy that I dont have a mom so she has no one to "compete" with.
I think w/MIL's like we have, the best thing for us to do is lay down the law and hold firm to it. Heck I dont even want them to visit us in the hospital till a few hrs after the babes is born. I just want time for DH & I to bond w/the babes. I'm praying I give birth in the middle of the night.
Good Luck!!!!!!!
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| Posted 3/23/12 5:34 PM |
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Googlie
LIF Adolescent
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Re: MIL vent
There are enough ppl looking at my lady parts...lol!!!
Good job with the hospital regulations - if that doesn't work - doctor's regulations!
I don't even want anyone in the hospital. My mom doesn't want to be in the room and I totally agree - me and DH - we started this whole thing and we will finish the whole process without anyone else (outside of the docs and nurses...lol)...wow - how ballsy....With my first child, my request for no one at the hospital until the baby was born was not followed and I had a 17 hour labor - ha!
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| Posted 3/23/12 8:53 PM |
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Kmarie36
LIF Adult
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Re: MIL vent
I could never!! I know people who have had their mom & mil..to me it's a special moment between me and my husband. I would just be honest with her and tell her you want it just to be you & dh.
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| Posted 3/23/12 9:41 PM |
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butterfly20
Party of 5 - 2015
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Re: MIL vent
ewwwwwww, seriously there is alot of blood and stuff, I made my poor dh go through it but wouldn't allow anyone else in there.....
I do remember my mom being annoyed my sister wouldn't let her be in the room.
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| Posted 3/23/12 10:44 PM |
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