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Theresa05
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Re: Moms...
thanks everyone
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Re: Moms...
I am too busy running after two toddlers to make friends or notice if women are being cliquey (how do you even spell that? ha)...I do find that all the women at Gymboree are always so nice to help me out if one of my DDs is climbing while I am with the other one, and I can't get to her.
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| Posted 3/28/08 3:19 PM |
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LisaI
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yes and no. Woman are caddy at times. I tend to seek out the warm mommies so i have never had an issue. I stay away from the biotches. You cna spot them a mile away. i'm friendly with them, but don't socialize with them.
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| Posted 3/28/08 3:20 PM |
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Smileyd17
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I dont know...I dont go to Gymboree or anything like that.
Just my LIF ladies/mommies. 
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| Posted 3/28/08 3:21 PM |
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Sweets13
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I have only met nice mom's who always welcomed me in the groups~ I did have an incident with one mom at LiL Gym, but that was because she thought DS was older and wanted to know why he was in a class with 18 month olds!! Ummmmmm, that would be because he is 18 months and needless to say, her DD was older than him!!!!!  According to the other mom's she is a troublemaker!
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| Posted 3/28/08 3:22 PM |
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Stefanie
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I guess some women are catty. It must be in our nature...
The women who've I hung around are really laid back and relaxed. They're not on top of their kids but they look after them and know what they're doing.
I've never been to gymboree or mommy and me, so I guess I can't comment on that.
I can make friends with anyone though. Well, maybe....
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| Posted 3/28/08 3:29 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: Moms...
Posted by nrthshgrl
From what I've seen yup.
I'm seeing it in my son's school. The ones that already know each other because they have older kids, the ones that were in nursery school together, the ones that are SAHMs with playdates.
Agree. Also - my school district has a lot of 2nd & 3rd generation famililies so a lot of the people actually seem to know each other FROM High School!
But it's all good. They still seem to be friendly enough.
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| Posted 3/28/08 3:33 PM |
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luvsun27
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Re: Moms...
Posted by nickipa
I can't wait for the next NJ GTG---I will be ready to come this time!
As another NJ "heehaw" mommy...I think there still are cliques.
I joined Gymboree in the hopes of making friends and maybe having playdates or something...but, no suck luck. I think the only person who talks to me regularly is the instructor  I'm pretty shy in situations where I don't know people...so it's probably my own fault...I never make the first move and say "hi" first...I'm always waiting for someone to talk to me. At the NJ GTG's with the ladies on this board...I feel more myself and talk to everyone (when I'm not chasing my toddler around).
So...when you move to NJ, you can come to our GTG and be part of the clique 
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| Posted 3/28/08 3:39 PM |
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Theresa05
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Re: Moms...
Posted by luvsun27
Posted by nickipa
I can't wait for the next NJ GTG---I will be ready to come this time!
As another NJ "heehaw" mommy...I think there still are cliques.
I joined Gymboree in the hopes of making friends and maybe having playdates or something...but, no suck luck. I think the only person who talks to me regularly is the instructor I'm pretty shy in situations where I don't know people...so it's probably my own fault...I never make the first move and say "hi" first...I'm always waiting for someone to talk to me. At the NJ GTG's with the ladies on this board...I feel more myself and talk to everyone (when I'm not chasing my toddler around).
So...when you move to NJ, you can come to our GTG and be part of the clique
yaya I can be a heehaww
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| Posted 3/28/08 3:40 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Moms...
In my experience...yes. Don't think just because a woman has an adorable baby on her hip doesn't mean she can't be catty and rude
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| Posted 3/28/08 4:06 PM |
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pharmcat2000
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I have to say yes. I went with my DD to a GTG one time and I didn't know anybody there. Not one person spoke to us. Now I'll admit -- I am rather shy in groups, so I didn't really go up to anybody either. But there were several groups of ladies all chatting together and having a good time so you knew they all knew each other. When I was playing with DD and following her around, I would say hello and introduce myself to another mom that was at the same place with her child, but that was as far as it went. I guess it wasn't really the right place to meet new "friends" because once you exchanged pleasantries and info regarding your DC, what else was there to talk about with somebody you didn't even know? I know I'm a bit of a wallflower, so I guess I'll just have to wait until DD is involved in school or some other kind of group to meet new moms.
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| Posted 3/28/08 4:26 PM |
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Juliet
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I haven't experienced any cliquey catty moms yet but I have seen so many people stare at me when I talk to my baby when we are out. Just because she is a baby doesn't mean I should ignore her. I love to talk to her!
And T, I would be your friend. From what I have "known" of you through the years, we might not have a lot in common but I can see you have a big heart and I like that (even if I don't love dieting and plastic surgery). Oh yeah, a while back on LIF you posted an OLD pic of you BEFORE you started changing things and I thought you were gorgeous then too!
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| Posted 3/28/08 4:37 PM |
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Posted by Theresa05
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I can't with "Heehaws" lol
At places like Gymboree and Music Together, everyone is very friendly. They will all love you (except when you try to put them on a diet after the first day you meet them!!  )
D  you say me helping lose weight and feel sexy is a bad thing I have an obesssion with dieting and sex and plastic surgery like people have with food 
I won't ever have any friends :(
Hey did ya forget about me already
You will make friends...
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| Posted 3/28/08 5:10 PM |
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AimeeE2006
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Posted by Theresa05
Good I am moving to NJ too and it seemed so heehawish. I was lke everyone will die when they hear my accent when they say things like
OH GOLLY!!!!
I hope NJ has nice ladies to be friends with..
Where in NJ are you moving that you think they are heehawish? Must not be a close suburb to NYC I guess. I bet you'll end up finding extra friendly moms there. I live in upstate NY and have found a bunch of wonderful friendly women.
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| Posted 3/28/08 5:15 PM |
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PrincessP
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Posted by pharmcat2000
I have to say yes. I went with my DD to a GTG one time and I didn't know anybody there. Not one person spoke to us. Now I'll admit -- I am rather shy in groups, so I didn't really go up to anybody either. But there were several groups of ladies all chatting together and having a good time so you knew they all knew each other. When I was playing with DD and following her around, I would say hello and introduce myself to another mom that was at the same place with her child, but that was as far as it went. I guess it wasn't really the right place to meet new "friends" because once you exchanged pleasantries and info regarding your DC, what else was there to talk about with somebody you didn't even know? I know I'm a bit of a wallflower, so I guess I'll just have to wait until DD is involved in school or some other kind of group to meet new moms.
I wouldnt classify this as the women being catty or clicky if you are shy and everyone said hello and it didnt go further. Ive been in situations where I am very outgoing and I try and try and the person isnt responding. I think thats hard on the other person. Me personally, the ONLY person I know on here before LIW/LIF is ducks2001...thats it. Ive talked to others and made friends bc I kept the friendship going for myself and my dd.
Sorry-just wanted to add....why dont you try it again...maybe it wont be the same. I think the more ya do it the more comfortable you will get with everyone. We are doing one the end of April beginning of May...come My dd's close to your dds age.
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yankinmanc
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I have a big group of Yummy Mummy Girlfriends (we call ourselves the Chorlton Bad Mothers Club) and we range in number from 18 of us to maybe 25...(its hard going out for dinner...) We all have babies born in Dec/Jan/Feb or 2006/2007. I don't personally think we are "clicky" but others outside of the group might think that we are.
We seem to be getting new members all the time. We have a lot of great things going on, we have a monthly book club, a culture club (okay, we just go to the movies and for a glass of wine, but it seems cultural to us) and we have a babysitting co-operative. I think I live in a very different society than you guys do when it comes to friends though.
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jerseypanda
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Re: Moms...
Posted by luvsun27
I can't wait for the next NJ GTG---I will be ready to come this time!
As another NJ "heehaw" mommy...I think there still are cliques.
I joined Gymboree in the hopes of making friends and maybe having playdates or something...but, no suck luck. I think the only person who talks to me regularly is the instructor I'm pretty shy in situations where I don't know people...so it's probably my own fault...I never make the first move and say "hi" first...I'm always waiting for someone to talk to me. At the NJ GTG's with the ladies on this board...I feel more myself and talk to everyone (when I'm not chasing my toddler around).
So...when you move to NJ, you can come to our GTG and be part of the clique
Boy Kim, I would never peg you as a shy one!! But I guess we NJ ladies are just so cool and awesome that your shyness just melts away!!! 
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| Posted 3/28/08 7:16 PM |
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JenBenMen
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some moms i met in MT are really nice
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| Posted 3/28/08 7:27 PM |
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partyof6
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Posted by Theresa05
thanks everyone
no, move to Bayport...I am the best. lol
I will be your bestest friend, and I am all for sex-dieting and surgery! whatever makes you happy! and I feel if it makes you feel good fix it!
but..the rule is in the summer mango margaritas...
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| Posted 3/28/08 7:45 PM |
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pmpkn087
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clicky.
I have noticed in life that everyone is clicky.
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| Posted 3/28/08 8:27 PM |
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dandr10199
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Posted by Theresa05
Are moms as clicky as girls were in HS?
Like at these play groups or is everyone super friendlie bc we all have kids..
HELLO common bond?
maybe me moving to the burbs with the heehaw's will show me the friendlies.. I HOPE
I have only seen it ONE time, the rest of the time not clickly at all. Then again, I am very outgoing and usually will introduce myself to a group of girls at playgroup. I approach it w/a "I could care less attitude" like, Hey it would be great to be friends, but if you are going to be a B!TCH and be catty and all high school about it, then I want no part of it.
I work P/T and have a great core group of friends, so I have plenty of adult interaction. DD is in daycare so she is around other kids. Don't get me wrong, I have meet some WONDERFUL moms in playgroup, I just stick my hand out and see if they want to talk about the kids and hang out. If they are clicky and are competitive (ala: my kid is more advanced than your kid), I want no part of it, JMHO.
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nymommy2be
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I think most women are.
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| Posted 3/28/08 10:15 PM |
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Theresa05
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I come from HB my whole life so any place that has tree's and does'nt have 50 pizzaria's and Cafe's and social clubs is COUNTRY life for me..
I am very different then most girls my age that have kids so I never ever fit in.. I do'nt know it sorta sucks at times bc I feel like my kids won't make any friends bc of it. I can't conform and be someone I am not..
I hope I can love the "surburb" life and become a heehaw.. hahahaha
Adriana is my new bff she will help with everything in NJ
To everyone else
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Posted by Theresa05
I come from HB my whole life so any place that has tree's and does'nt have 50 pizzaria's and Cafe's and social clubs is COUNTRY life for me..
I am very different then most girls my age that have kids so I never ever fit in.. I do'nt know it sorta sucks at times bc I feel like my kids won't make any friends bc of it. I can't conform and be someone I am not..
I hope I can love the "surburb" life and become a heehaw.. hahahaha
Adriana is my new bff she will help with everything in NJ
To everyone else
Don't think like that..I would join a Gymboree when you move (their are 2 that are somewhat close by) and go that route. I really wanted to join with DD but since I have DS and no one to watch him I wasn't able to do any classes.
You are always going to have someone judge..I am sure I get judged when I look like I just rolled out of bed and decide to go food shopping but I try not to think about it. My clothes are clean and the colors match
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Plus, most of the residents of the towns we talked about are actually NY transplants.
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| Posted 3/31/08 8:41 AM |
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IrishTracy
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At my Sons school it seems that way. But, once you get an "in" they are very nice. Mind you I don't call these woman or have many play dates. But, they are social when I pick up my son at school.
At the parks it can be very cliquey. I find the Dads are quicker to talk to us before the Moms are. I don't think men get the whole clique thing. LOL
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