Moms I need planning advice on a situation (especially moms of a toddler and infant)

Thanks for the advice ladies!

Message edited 7/16/2009 4:06:25 PM.

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I would be honest and say you can't commit to anything right now. Explain your situation, and tell her to plan it and if you can make it, you will be there.

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I would call the bride and tell her directly that you will not be able to attend her bachelorette party. Explain your situation, and tell her that you hope its lots of fun!

I skipped my BEST friends bachelorette party because I was 7 months PG at the time and was just not into it. She understood completely.

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I think I'd contact the bride and give her the heads up that you cannot commit right now, but, when the time gets closer, you can give her an answer.

I would prob. mention that you'll be there for everything else (bridal shower, help in planning, etc).

Hopefully, she will understand!

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I would email the girl and explain that at this time you cannot commit to anything b.c of your situation and ask where the party is being held - if it isn't too far maybe you could just go for the day - and decide when it gets closer. Otherwise I'm sure the bride would understand giving the situation (2 kids -one who is an infant and BFing) that you couldn't go on a 2 day party.

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Thanks ladies - can I also ask those of you that have an infant and a toddler - is this something that sounds doable to you? Like am I silly for thinking it might be too much? It's hard b/c I feel like I have no idea how life is going to be! TIA!

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I was in a similar situation in May although I only have an infant. I was in my cousins wedding and they were doing a weekend away for her bach party. I did not attend because for one I did not have the $, I just went back to work from maternity leave and I just couldn't be away from DS that long. I think she understood because I never got a mad vibe from her.

IMO I think the other BMs might be a little irritated at first but they'll get over it. You can't please everyone and it's not them that you need to worry about. As long as the bride understands then you're good to go. Also, my sister didn't go to my Bach party which was a weekend away and I completely understood. Other people didn't because it was my sister but it didn't matter what they thought.

Good luck.

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Posted by MrsGmomof3

I would call the bride and tell her directly that you will not be able to attend her bachelorette party. Explain your situation, and tell her that you hope its lots of fun!

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to answer your q re: an infant/toddler...I have a 2 yr old & a 2 month old; I've left them overnight at my mom's when we had a wedding; but not sure if I would have for a few nights. Also are you going to be up for 2 nights of partying? I know I've been exhausted more often than not at the end of the day (I'm a teacher & been home w/ kiddies the last month).

Also being that I'm nursing/pumping--I think that situation would be tough too. What is the MOH planning? What type of trip is it? Woiuld you be able to go somewhere & pump?

If anything I'd say you can't commit, or say you'd like to make it to the dinner or for part of it. I wouldn't contact the bride except if you know that she knows about it

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Posted by MrsGmomof3

I would call the bride and tell her directly that you will not be able to attend her bachelorette party. Explain your situation, and tell her that you hope its lots of fun!

I skipped my BEST friends bachelorette party because I was 7 months PG at the time and was just not into it. She understood completely.

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Nope- I'd opt out- Especially that early in DC's life and while BFing. I wouldn't even bother attempting to commit by offering best available dates.

Send a nice check maybe to help defray costs if yo want. They should understand.

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I would not speak to the bride about her bachelorette party unless she was on the email that was sent. The MOH sounds like she's in the planning stages & may want to surprise the bride.

I would respond that I'd love to attend but would need to know more details (location/costs) before fully committing. It's hard to work out childcare issues that far in advance but I'll do my best.

Is it feasible to go away for a weekend without a toddler & infant...yes! Will you want to go....maybe. I know that usually your fun/entertainment is the first thing to fall to the wayside after you have a child. If it's a spa thing, I'd say absolutely go.

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Thanks so much ladies! I just responded to the email incorporating all of your very helpful advice