Moms of "easy" kids...

Do you ever get annoyed when people make comments...
For example, I was in a store the other day, and DS was sitting in the cart and this is how the conversation went:

Lady: Your son is so good, you are so lucky.

Me: Yes, he is a good boy, I am lucky.

Lady: But he is sitting and behaving so well

Me: Yes, he is pretty good.

Lady: (to DS) "aren't you such a good boy, mommy is sooo lucky to have a son like you that lets her shop in peace!"

Me: Yes, he is good, I am lucky

Lady: Yeah, but do you really don't know quite how lucky you are, I mean he is being very well behaved.

Me: OK, but we have only been in here 10 minutes, and I know he is a good boy, I work very hard at my parenting to make sure he stays that way, thank you very much!

It is just so annoying sometimes!! Yes, in a sense I am lucky that he was born with a calm demeanor, but I also work very hard to nurture that demeanor to keep it that way. Enough already with how "lucky" I am. It is really annoying after the 2nd or third time!!!


ETA - I know, if this is the worst thing I have to complain about, someone should shoot me, but I really do find it to be irritating!

Message edited 11/4/2009 7:13:27 PM.

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I don't find that annoying. I take that compliment and smile (even after the 2nd and 3rd time).

I don't think compliments are irritating, bu that's me

Message edited 11/4/2009 7:07:44 PM.

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Can i shoot you?

Coming from someone who's had a very difficult baby/child... I'll switch places with you at any point in time. I'll gladly take those comments.

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Posted by aliwnec10

Can i shoot you?

Coming from someone who's had a very difficult baby/child... I'll switch places with you at any point in time. I'll gladly take those comments.

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Um.

Haven't we HAD this conversation?

I actually hate when people say "just wait for...." or "it'll end"

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I get those comments a lot, and it can get annoying, but I generally find it a good thing....at least they aren't telling me to shut my kid up.

Message edited 11/4/2009 7:10:01 PM.

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I'd be over the moon with a compliment like that!! They could tell me 100 times over and I'd appreciate it every single time. My daughter was an easy going infant but everything changed when she turned a year old. I work EXTREMELY hard with her as well..but her personlity shines through. Nothing I can do to stop that. Yes, of course she is not ALWAYS wild and as far as manners goes, at 3, she has them down pat. When anyone tells me anything like that, I am just purely happy!

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mine is really easy. he was a hard infant but turned into this easy as anything toddler.

most of the time i just say thanks...he is a good boy...so then he hears me say it.

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Posted by DomesticDeeva

I get those comments a lot, and it can get annoying, but I generally find it a good thing....at least they aren't telling me to shut my kid up.

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Posted by 1stimemom

Posted by aliwnec10

Can i shoot you?

Coming from someone who's had a very difficult baby/child... I'll switch places with you at any point in time. I'll gladly take those comments.

I know it sounds trivial to someone who deals with a "difficult" child, but it almost makes it sound like I lucked out and have no clue what I am in for if I have another. I *like* to think (I may be wrong) that I have a ***little*** something to do with his behavior.

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I personallly think that it was nice of her to notice your ds' behavior and compliment him on it.

Honestly, my first baby was EASY. He was such a good toddler and still is a good kindergartener. I thought it was just my awesome parenting. Well it turns out my awesome parenting does not work on my dd. I remember being on the ferry at disney world and my 2 yr old dd screaming her head off. People staring and getting annoyed that I could not shut her up. I also remember realizing that I had never once been through anything like that with my son...and realizing that other moms were not doing a poor job just because their kid was not easy and realizing woah how lucky I was that my son could go anywhere, even to the finest restaurant. Wow then I became thankful. And now I appreciate every compliment my kids receive a million times over. I applaud them when they are good, because hey I am lucky.

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Posted by aliwnec10

Coming from someone who's had a very difficult baby/child... I'll switch places with you at any point in time. I'll gladly take those comments.

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Posted by carolyns4cupcakes

Posted by nycchic24

I'd be over the moon with a compliment like that!! They could tell me 100 times over and I'd appreciate it every single time. My daughter was an easy going infant but everything changed when she turned a year old. I work EXTREMELY hard with her as well..but her personlity shines through. Nothing I can do to stop that. Yes, of course she is not ALWAYS wild and as far as manners goes, at 3, she has them down pat. When anyone tells me anything like that, I am just purely happy!

I live in your world.

Dina- I will speak for the lady n the store and say it for the 4th time....You are really lucky!

Message edited 11/4/2009 9:04:13 PM.

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SO....you're lucky then?

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Posted by Stefanie

SO....you're lucky then?

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I wouldn't say my son is easy exactly, nor is he difficult. But he is generally at his best in public (unless we go shopping for clothes or shoes, he hates that). So when we are out and about, people see him at his finest, and if they compliment me on his behavior, I say or think, "Yeah, he's easy until he's not." They don't see him throwing a moster tantrum when we come home and it's time to go in the house but he doesn't want to.

I would just take this as a compliment and figure you are blessed.

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This happens to me all the time and I take it as a compliment DS is only 10 months, so I can't say I have really done any work to make him one way or the other, it is just his demeanor. I do feel lucky that we were blessed with such an easy going little boy. I take him to all day quilting workshops and he is content to hang out in his porta-crib, or to have my quilting friends pick him up and play with him. We are lucky to have such and easy going boy!

My sister says it is because I have taken him everywhere with me since day 1 and he is comfortable in new surroundings, I think it is just who he is.

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I also get annoyed. It's like people think I am clueless about how what my son's disposition might have been. Just because he is easygoing does not mean that I would have a breakdown if he wasn't.

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Posted by 1stimemom

Posted by aliwnec10

Can i shoot you?

Coming from someone who's had a very difficult baby/child... I'll switch places with you at any point in time. I'll gladly take those comments.

I know it sounds trivial to someone who deals with a "difficult" child, but it almost makes it sound like I lucked out and have no clue what I am in for if I have another. I *like* to think (I may be wrong) that I have a ***little*** something to do with his behavior.

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I can see where you're coming from. It's like a really thin woman being told Oh you're so lucky that you're thin but really, she's in the gym 2 hours a day and all she eats is salad. It's not luck! It's hard work!

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I understand. Liam is generally a very very happy baby. The comments don't bother me.

I'm petrified that baby #2 won't be as easy and happy.

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I won't say it'll end (well, because Kate hates that).

I do think to some extent it is luck. Sure keeping them on a decent schedule & keeping behavior in check has a lot to do with it in infancy but ...I wish I had luck for my "easy baby" during toddlerhood, preschool & elementary school

On the flip side, my more difficult clingy baby has been a slice of heaven to deal with.

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i had this with my ds..and its funny, whyen im out with dd, shes usually VERY good, to the point where people comment that way..BUT..in all reality..shes BEASTY :)..so only THEN am i annoyed, cause i feel like saying.."yea? Why dont you come home and witness h e l l with me?"

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