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Hopefulmama
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Moms of two or three boys...
Are you going to "go for the Girl" as they say? I am undecided. Three boys here. I wouldn't be devastated at all to have another boy, they are all I know after all and I love mine to pieces. But I find the "physical-ness" of them so exhausting...the wrestling, throwing, climbing,jumping, etc. the other day one lept into my lap to give me a hug (aw) and literally sheered off one of my toenails. Literally, just tore it off with the force of his jump. How does that even happen?!
So it's not that I would be sad to have another boy though I do question if I can "handle" another one.
Then I wonder about regret...it's hard now but one day it will be so much easier...will I regret not giving it a go once more??
And don't even get me started on all the "I hate my mother in law and don't want her anywhere near my children even though she babysits for free and is actually pretty nonoffensive all things considered" threads I see on here all the time...;) I can't help but think if I don't want to spend every holiday alone in my old age, maybe I should try once more for a girl.
Curious as to what other boy mamas are thinking :)
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MrsO
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
I think about it; I have 3 boys as well but most days I wonder if I could handle a 4th child. Part of me wants to be able to do things with the older ones as you can't do everything with a baby. My 3rd is only a 1yr. I am also the only girl in my family and have 3 older brothers so I wonder if I am not meant to have a girl around.
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Naturalmama
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Moms of two or three boys...
I have 2 boys but am currently 31 weeks PG with twin girls. When DH & I decided to try for a 3rd (and as it turns out our 4th), we agreed that we should only try if we wanted a 3rd child- not a girl. To be honest, when I found out they were twins I was secretly hoping they were boys because I thought being a mom to 4 boys sounded like so much fun. But, we are having girls and I am super thrilled to have two of each. I know 4 kids is going to be tough...boys or girls. But I also know that it will be so much fun and so much joy.
As for the MIL thing, my MIL means well and she is an amazing grandmother to my boys. They are her world. We don't always see eye to eye and sometimes she says things to me that leave me scratching my head, but we love and respect each other. She is the mother to the person I love most in this world, how could I not love her?
All of that stuff will work itself out. If you & DH really want another child I say go for it. Yes, you may have a house full of rough & tumble boys and you may end up being the MIL 4 times over. But all the love those boys bring to your life is totally worth it! Good Luck!
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Babylove10
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
We have two boys and one on the way. This was pretty much our go for the girl. To be honest, I'm already in love and so attached to this little guy in my belly. I wouldn't want it any other way. I'm 26 and dh is 28 so there is always a possibility of a 4th child in the future but we are pretty set on being done for good after this one.
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JDubs
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
I would only go for it if you are OK with the possibility of having another boy. Good luck whatever you decide!
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hopingforbaby
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Posted by Naturalmama
I have 2 boys but am currently 31 weeks PG with twin girls. When DH & I decided to try for a 3rd (and as it turns out our 4th), we agreed that we should only try if we wanted a 3rd child- not a girl.
ITA!! I have one DS and am currently pregnant. We are choosing to stay  although I have a strong gut instinct that it's a boy. If it is, I would be absolutely thrilled with that. I would also be just as happy with a girl. Due to finances and space issues, I don't know if a third baby is in our future. If we DO decide to have one, it would not be because I want a specific sex.
To be honest, I worry a LOT about the whole MIL/DIL dynamic myself. Every time someone posts about how they hate their ILs, I cringe. I just try to remember that everyone's situation is different. just because they have a difficult relationship, doesn't mean everyone's have to be that way. My ILs are absolutely wonderful with DS and we are super close with them. They even watch him 4 days a week and he is absolutely in love with his grandparents. So there is hope that our DILs will love us one day after all! 
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DaniJude
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Do what Zac Brown did -- he kept having girls. I think he finally had like four or five. They asked if he wanted a boy. He said he just wants them to be healthy BUT he's just going to "Keep going until we get a boy"
HAHA!!! He's one of thirteen so it's no biggie to him to have six kids 
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oneday
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
We are done at 2 boys. I honestly had wanted a girl. We were originally planning to never have any kids - then we decided to have one, it was a boy and we were one and done b/c I didn't want to "try for a girl" and still not get one. But, then we decided to give it another go - knowing full well we could end up with another boy but still kind of hoping for a girl.
Of course now, I can't imagine not having either of my guys. But we won't try for a third. For one b/c I have convinced myself that DH cannot produce girls and for two, b/c we just don't have the money, space or energy for another one and...well, there's the ADVANCED MATERNAL AGE thing that one of the doctors I saw last time enjoyed referring to - until I kind of called him on it (jokingly) and he apologized and didn't push it anymore.
As far as the MIL thing - I can tell you I LOVE my MIL. She is wonderful to me and treats me like her own. But, I know how you feel - I do worry a little that DS's could marry ******* who are awful and try to take DS away from me, but I just try not to think about it that way.
Good luck whatever you decide - but definitely don't GO FOR THE GIRL - I think that only sets you up for disappointment. But if you want another one and can handle it - go for it!
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MrsS2005
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
I have 2 boys. We had always planned on having 3 kids. I'd love to have a girl, but I would be happy with another boy too. My boys are best friends. I love seeing them interact. I definitely worry about adding to the craziness, but I don't feel our family is complete yet.
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Millie3
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
I can't decide if we should try or not. I'm leaning toward not. DH really wants another baby. As awful as it sounds, boys are physically exhausting, and I can't handle another one.  I've already decided I will not be watching any grand children I really want a girl but may not be in the cards.
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SHOPAHOLIC
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Not a mom of all boys, but wanted to throw it out there that quite a few of my friends had two boys and went for the third... and had a girl that was MORE physical then the boys were! I think they learn from and try to keep up with their big brothers and as toddlers can be just as tough and physical.
I would like to also add that after the toddler age I find boys to be MUCH easier then girls. I'm jealous of my all boy mom friends. Everything is DRAMA with them and the things I see from my older friend's daughters scares the poop out of me. My boy is so easy peasy. I tease DH we should have quit while we were ahead
It's not all sunshine and hair bows that's for sure!
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MarisaK
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
No never. - I have 2 boys and didn't want a 3rd child at all. I'm 100% happy with the family I have (meaning that I've never had the twinge for another, NOT to say that you are not happy with what you have)
Am I sad at times that I don't have a daughter? Absolutely - I KNOW there are going to be times I am left out of things w/ the boys and forget when they are older - married etc ..........I don't even want to think about it.
But I also tell myself giving birth to a girl does not automatically mean you are going to have a BFF - she might have hated me !
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LotsaLuv
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Moms of two or three boys...
I only have one girl but I will tell you, she is just as rough as a boy. She charges me, growls at me, never sits down, is great at sports. BUT she loves dresses, getting her nails done, dolls etc If you have a girl, she may not be dainty lol
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MeowMeow2
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Moms of two or three boys...
To be honest, yes. I have 2 boys and I love them more than anything and wouldn't trade them for all the girls in the world.
I had to do IVF for my last Ds and I know I'll get flamed for this, but Im going to (hopefully) do iVF with pgd for a girl. I know 2 people who have done it, one for a boy and one for a girl, and they have no regrets. The one friend I have who did it for a boy was told by her fertility doctor that a huge number of his patients do Ivf for family balancing.
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maybebaby
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Posted by MeowMeow2
To be honest, yes. I have 2 boys and I love them more than anything and wouldn't trade them for all the girls in the world.
I had to do IVF for my last Ds and I know I'll get flamed for this, but Im going to (hopefully) do iVF with pgd for a girl. I know 2 people who have done it, one for a boy and one for a girl, and they have no regrets. The one friend I have who did it for a boy was told by her fertility doctor that a huge number of his patients do Ivf for family balancing.
I'm not about to flame you, to each their own..but I have to say the term "family balancing" irks me. Like you're unbalanced if you have more of one gender than the other, lol..
I'm mom to three boys and wouldn't trade it for the world. I figure we are meant to have what we have and I got three adorable, beautiful boys who make me happier than anything in this world. I am blessed!!!
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PatsBrat
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
2 boys and done. I'm more than enough girl for any family. 
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Kate
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Moms of two or three boys...
I have three boys. When people ask if I'm going to " go for the girl", I tell them that I went for a girl three times! I'm 0 for 3!
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drpepper318
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Yes! But, not really to have a girl, more because we just like the idea of having a big family. I'm having my second boy in a few months & I think it would fun & I'd feel really lucky to have 5 boys if that's what ended up happening! Though it would be great too to have a girl some day & was initially a little bummed at first that my second was another boy because I wanted to be assured of having at least one of each gender.... but I'm not feeling that anymore & I'm so excited now about having another boy. I don't think I'd go for more if I were trying just for the purpose of having a girl though, because if it's not a girl, then what? I wouldn't want to set myself up for that kind of disappointment. Although I think in the end once you met that child you wouldn't regret having him/her no matter what.
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Annie91606
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
I have two boys. I was never tempted to try for a girl. The idea of three kids exhausted me, regardless of gender. This is likely because I had my kids on the older side ( turned 38 shortly after my second son was born.
As far as being someone's mother in law, I am really not worried about that. I certainly wouldn't let that be a factor in deciding how many kids I have!!
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baby22012
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Mom of three boys....people ask me if I'm going for a girl and I say then I'll have four boys. I'm meant to be a boy mom. #2 and 3 are twins, we were always unsure of having a 3rd so I know I'm not equipped for a fourth anyway. Where would I put her?
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gina409
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Just wanted to say it's girls too so if you did have a girl she can be just as active
I have a boy and a girl and they are both crazy lol but she is the one to dive off the couch. Wrestle her brother. Climb on he table
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Lucky09
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Moms of two or three boys...
I have two boys & I have been wrestling with the idea of a 3rd. Here's the thing that I keep asking myself, if I had one of each, would I want another child? & truthfully the answer is mostly "no". I am very girly & always thought I would have girls, but DH loves to remind me that a girl may have turned out just like him (a sports enthusiast and member of the military). My Mom & I are night & day, & DH & his Mom actually have a very close relationship. It is time where I have to sh*t or get off the pot with regards to a #3, & mentally, financially, physically & emotionally I think I am just ready to move out of the baby stage of life.
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Dolphinsbaby
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Posted by baby22012
Mom of three boys....people ask me if I'm going for a girl and I say then I'll have four boys. I'm meant to be a boy mom. #2 and 3 are twins, we were always unsure of having a 3rd so I know I'm not equipped for a fourth anyway. Where would I put her?
This is me too! Except #1 and 2 are twins. DH says he only makes boys People ask us all the time if we are going to try for the girl. DH is dead set on no! He said we are not going to have a boy, a girl, a dog. Nothing! Life is insane enough with our 3 crazy boys. Plus, we have no more room.
I just look at it as I am surrounded by men and I will always be queen of the house  .
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Millie3
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by MeowMeow2
To be honest, yes. I have 2 boys and I love them more than anything and wouldn't trade them for all the girls in the world.
I had to do IVF for my last Ds and I know I'll get flamed for this, but Im going to (hopefully) do iVF with pgd for a girl. I know 2 people who have done it, one for a boy and one for a girl, and they have no regrets. The one friend I have who did it for a boy was told by her fertility doctor that a huge number of his patients do Ivf for family balancing.
I'm not about to flame you, to each their own..but I have to say the term "family balancing" irks me. Like you're unbalanced if you have more of one gender than the other, lol..
I'm mom to three boys and wouldn't trade it for the world. I figure we are meant to have what we have and I got three adorable, beautiful boys who make me happier than anything in this world. I am blessed!!!
You can't use that "meant to have " argument when speaking of IVF. If you are doing IVF anyway, does it really make a difference if you choose the gender? I personally don't think so. You are intervening anyway, so I don't see a big deal.
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Millie3
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Re: Moms of two or three boys...
Posted by Kate
I have three boys. When people ask if I'm going to " go for the girl", I tell them that I went for a girl three times! I'm 0 for 3!
I say the same, I did try for the girl and here HE is
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