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Karen
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
I am so sorry to hear about your ring!
It's so hard to do anything - are you really sure your stepdaughter took it? Because honestly, if she did - that is 100% unacceptable and I would sit her down and tell her so. Tell her that you seriously have to question the arrangement you have with regards to her living with you guys.
And I hate to go here - but is it possible she is stealing things to pay for drugs? It seems to me like with everything you have posted about her - something is going on that is more than just typical teenage stuff.
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
 I hope you find it.
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| Posted 12/5/07 6:29 AM |
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Stacey1403
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| Posted 12/5/07 6:51 AM |
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
I pray it turns up Liza...and also that your stepdaughter did not take it. 
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| Posted 12/5/07 7:08 AM |
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
Posted by Karen
I am so sorry to hear about your ring!
It's so hard to do anything - are you really sure your stepdaughter took it? Because honestly, if she did - that is 100% unacceptable and I would sit her down and tell her so. Tell her that you seriously have to question the arrangement you have with regards to her living with you guys.
And I hate to go here - but is it possible she is stealing things to pay for drugs? It seems to me like with everything you have posted about her - something is going on that is more than just typical teenage stuff.
I think she is taking my things because she is mad at me....
All she has taken so far have been my makeup - I am missing so much its ridiculous - I thought I was careless, but now when I think of all the nice makeup I had that is now gone, I'm sure she took it - but makeup is one thing.. it can be replaced.
this ring can never be replaced - even if we buy an identical one...
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Diane
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
I hope you find it
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| Posted 12/5/07 7:21 AM |
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
Well, her mom asked her this morning and she was shocked and asked why she would ever touch my rings (but she also sounded shocked when asked if she was cutting class.) She searched her bag and came up with nothing.... So I don't know what to do now. I knew she wouldnt fess up, and maybe she hid my things somewhere else, so that means my ring is gone forever. I am so heartbroken, I can't even function....
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Bxgell2
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
I'm so sorry Liza - I know this is heartbreaking on so many levels - just try to remember that the ring does not symbolize the marriage, it's your relationship that matters. I hope you find it, and I truly hope that if your stepdaughter takes it, she finds it within herself to give it back to you
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SweetCin
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
Oh Liza I hope it turns up...I too would try scaring her saying you're going to file a police rept & they'll look for fingerprints, etc.
I truly hope it is misplaced..
Any chance it fell on the floor & Cailen got to it??
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| Posted 12/5/07 7:43 AM |
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pinky
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
Oh Liza I am so sorry
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| Posted 12/5/07 8:06 AM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
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Oh, Liza- I have no words- you have had enough tramua for one person lately.
I think a little guilt tripping is in order. I would say all the things you said here in front of her- make her realize that she is hurting you. Underneath evil teenage angst is some feelings- you just have to access them. Let me know if you want some help.
ITA.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
If your step-daughter did this then she's really upping her cries for attention. If this doesn't get DH and her mother to once and for all be consistently on her then I don't want to know what she will do next She's is heading for, and very well might already be on, a very dangerous path.
The makeup is one thing but the ring is entirely another. To steal someone's engagement ring is equivalent to a stab in the heart. She is definitely old enough to know better.
My gut tells me she did it, why? Because you are the only adult in her life right now who is trying to get her on the straight and narrow and calling her out on her irresponsibility. You are the one calling her school. She resents you for it and at the same time is probably in tremendous pain that her own parents are not the ones taking the initiative.
Your DH and his ex have to realize that all of her actions are just symptoms of a much larger problem.
I am so sorry. You do not deserve this
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drewsgirl
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
im sorry..dont give up looking just yet you never know you may find it - take a beak and look again. i hope you find it
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Posted by CkGm
Oh, Liza- I have no words- you have had enough tramua for one person lately.
I think a little guilt tripping is in order. I would say all the things you said here in front of her- make her realize that she is hurting you. Underneath evil teenage angst is some feelings- you just have to access them. Let me know if you want some help.
ITA.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
If your step-daughter did this then she's really upping her cries for attention. If this doesn't get DH and her mother to once and for all be consistently on her then I don't want to know what she will do next She's is heading for, and very well might already be on, a very dangerous path.
The makeup is one thing but the ring is entirely another. To steal someone's engagement ring is equivalent to a stab in the heart. She is definitely old enough to know better.
My gut tells me she did it, why? Because you are the only adult in her life right now who is trying to get her on the straight and narrow and calling her out on her irresponsibility. You are the one calling her school. She resents you for it and at the same time is probably in tremendous pain that her own parents are not the ones taking the initiative.
Your DH and his ex have to realize that all of her actions are just symptoms of a much larger problem.
I am so sorry. You do not deserve this
Yes, teresa - I think you have nailed it 100% - this has been going through my mind all night and all morning - and on top of everything, I am so miserable, it is taking away the happy and fun mommy that Cailen is accustomed to every morning!
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krashnburn
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MrsR
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
I am sooooo sorry - that is heartbreaking. I really really hope it turns up!!!
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| Posted 12/5/07 8:29 AM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
Liza,
I am so sorry this happened. I am another believer in the prayer to St. Anthony and I will definitley say a prayer for you your ring turns up, somewhere, somehow!
I am going to agree with what Theresa has posted. You are doing so much for her (your stepdaughter) she is probably pizzed her parents aren't putting their foot down as much or caring as much. (Does that make sense?).
Very silly question..Did you try checking any pants pockets? Coat pocket?
I lost a diamond, to a ring once..Like finding a needle in a haystack..It was in the washing machine.
Check everywhere..even odd places.
I you find it soon and your step daughter did not take it.
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nmp070106
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
O no I am soooooooooo sorry!
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Ang-Rich
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
Oh Liza...I am so sorry that the ring is missing. I really do hope that it turns up soon.
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GenLCSW
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
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Posted by CkGm
Oh, Liza- I have no words- you have had enough tramua for one person lately.
I think a little guilt tripping is in order. I would say all the things you said here in front of her- make her realize that she is hurting you. Underneath evil teenage angst is some feelings- you just have to access them. Let me know if you want some help.
ITA.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
If your step-daughter did this then she's really upping her cries for attention. If this doesn't get DH and her mother to once and for all be consistently on her then I don't want to know what she will do next She's is heading for, and very well might already be on, a very dangerous path.
The makeup is one thing but the ring is entirely another. To steal someone's engagement ring is equivalent to a stab in the heart. She is definitely old enough to know better.
My gut tells me she did it, why? Because you are the only adult in her life right now who is trying to get her on the straight and narrow and calling her out on her irresponsibility. You are the one calling her school. She resents you for it and at the same time is probably in tremendous pain that her own parents are not the ones taking the initiative.
Your DH and his ex have to realize that all of her actions are just symptoms of a much larger problem.
I am so sorry. You do not deserve this
Yes, teresa - I think you have nailed it 100% - this has been going through my mind all night and all morning - and on top of everything, I am so miserable, it is taking away the happy and fun mommy that Cailen is accustomed to every morning!
I'm sorry
It's just as a 13 year veteran high school teacher I've seen the same pattern WAY too many times.
Unfortunately, at her age there is little that can be mandated for her.
Where she is now, did not happen overnight.
She hasn't had any consequences for a long time. I'd also venture to guess that on the rare occassion she has been punished it hasn't been consistently carried out. If that is the case why should she believe what she is told now.
I don't even want to know who her "friends" are. She's learning all of this from them.
She's also a pathological liar.
I've seen kids look myself, the superintendent of our district, their parents and police (who are standing over them questioning them and getting right in their face) DIRECTLY in the eye and completely lie about what several eyewitnesses saw.
I wish I was completely wrong and I hate to be telling you this but I think you and I already know that you know this is where she is at. I don't blame her parents for not wanting to believe their daughter is at this point. Who wants to have a kid who is acting out this badly?
BUT the reality is, this is the situation.
THEY are the adults. The situation has reached this point because of THEIR inaction. Yes, they are mostly to blame.
I really hope for everyone's sake, especially hers, that the adults in her life get with reality, put their differences aside (I know this is so hard in cases of divorce) and try to work on this as a family. This is a desperate crisis.
I know that is virtually impossible with what you have shared about her mother. It seems as if her own mother needs some serious intervention.
I don't mean this as a joke. You know my dad lives in the same town as your step-daughter and my brother was heading down the same path about 20 years ago... never got quite there but my father saw the "writing on the wall".
I swear, if my Dad was still able-bodied, he'd be over her house in a second as he would say, "getting everyone (including mom) in line".
This is a desperate situation.
All of the adults MUST know this is most likely the LAST possible chance to get her on the right track before she is 18 and they can then do absolutely NOTHING.
I she sees the light. I shudder to think what the next few years will bring if she doesn't. I've seen it happen to kids and we don't want to go there
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AndreaLMT
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
Oh Liza, I am so sorry.
I really hope your ring turns up, however it may be.
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| Posted 12/5/07 9:43 AM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
If she took your ring, THAT IS HORRIBLE!!!
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| Posted 12/5/07 10:06 AM |
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toni-mike
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
I sorry this happen to you, as a step mom too, Ive had a similar situation happen to me with my stepson. cept its was $ that was taken , alot of $ After our E party I put the $ in a envelope & a few days later that whole envelope was gone. Coinciendtly the kid bought 2 new bikes , games for his PS , I mean it was obvious. He knows my dad is a federal marshal & we told him that we had a camera in the house hidden, ( just to have it) he STILL didnt fess up, didnt break , cry nothing , Unfortunately step children sometimes dont do the rite thing. I dont know your situaion with your sd but I can only give u some that your ring will some how at somepoint re apear..
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pmpkn087
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
oh nooooooo
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: My engagement ring is missing... I am devastated...
I just want to give hugs!
I hope this only strengthens your resolve to be tough on her, and I REALLY hope you DH wakes up. I want to march her down to the recruiting station and enlist her into the service...she needs a good dose of reality. Of course you need to graduate HS...anywho, my point is that I really just feel awful she did this and your DH better wake up fast!!!
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