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MommaDina
LIF Infant
Member since 8/12 315 total posts
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DinaMarie
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My friend had bad news today..
And I need help ... We were due a day apart in february and today at her 20 week appt there was no heartbeat and no movement .. she is at the hospital as we speak. I want to do something nice for her, so me and another mutual friend were thinking of going to her house this weekend and bringing her some goodies to help and make her feel better ... I'm just scared she will not be happy to see me being that we were going through everything together. But I want to make her a basket... what kind of stuff do you think I should put in for her ... I didnt want to put any wine because that can cause more emotions, I definitely want to put chocolate... but what are some other creative ideas or suggestions??? I am so upset for her right now.
TIA
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babylove628
mommy of two!
Member since 11/09 2733 total posts
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Maggie
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My friend had bad news today..
Right now I would just be a shoulder for her to lean on. You can always do something nice for her when she feels a little better. I'm so sorry for her, this is so tragic and sad. I will keep her in my prayers.
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| Posted 10/2/12 7:00 PM |
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jennarose023
Jack's gonna be a big brother!
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Posted by babylove628
Right now I would just be a shoulder for her to lean on. You can always do something nice for her when she feels a little better. I'm so sorry for her, this is so tragic and sad. I will keep her in my prayers.
ita 
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| Posted 10/2/12 7:21 PM |
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Mrs213
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My friend had bad news today..
I would write a nice card saying u are there for her. I don't think I'd want any gifts if It were me. I am so sorry for your friend. 
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| Posted 10/2/12 7:24 PM |
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stargazerlily
LIF Adolescent
Member since 12/11 706 total posts
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Lara
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My friend had bad news today..
I would think the same way you are, but I've seen a lot of people say that gift are maybe not the thing to do so soon. Certainly your choice but I just thought I would share. Maybe just a thinking of you card to let her know you are there when she is ready. This must be devastating.
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| Posted 10/2/12 7:31 PM |
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ModDot
PUMPKIN ALL THE THINGS
Member since 8/11 2196 total posts
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Trissy
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My friend had bad news today..
I am so sorry your friend is going through this. I agree, a shoulder to cry on is the best right now.
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| Posted 10/2/12 7:33 PM |
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MommaDina
LIF Infant
Member since 8/12 315 total posts
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DinaMarie
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
thanks everyone.. I just didnt want to show up at her house empty handed... 
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| Posted 10/2/12 7:40 PM |
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gdubs
This baby is awesome!
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My friend had bad news today..
I am so sorry for your friend's loss... I have my 20 week appointment tomorrow and if I were in your friend's shoes I think I would just want someone to be there... possibly not even to talk about it right away. A shoulder to cry on is the best way to go here.
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| Posted 10/2/12 7:40 PM |
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AngnShaun
Sisters
Member since 1/10 21015 total posts
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Posted by Mrs213
I would write a nice card saying u are there for her. I don't think I'd want any gifts if It were me. I am so sorry for your friend.
Agreed!
Im so sorry for your friend
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| Posted 10/2/12 7:44 PM |
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Puppy-Love
LIF Adult
Member since 7/10 1394 total posts
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J
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Aww so sad. I think a nice card and maybe a mani/pedi or massage gift card.
Also I just want to say this...she made need some space so don't be alarmed if she withdraws. She also may have a hard time hearing your updates and progress so I would limit that type of talk for the next few months. Even if u think she is doing better after 2 months...it will still hurt for her to hear about your baby and what is going on.
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| Posted 10/2/12 8:44 PM |
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ANR1211
My loves
Member since 2/11 2131 total posts
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My friend had bad news today..
I don't know about a gift, but I don't think I would want to see your right away. I know that might be harsh and your friend might not be the same as me (only you know her). When the doctors told me I was having a miscarriage, the last person I wanted to see was my very good friend who was pregnant. It just reminded me of what I lost and it made it so much worse.
I would send a card and chocolate. That's what I feel I'd want, but you know your friend better than any of us! Good luck and very sorry for you friend.
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| Posted 10/2/12 8:46 PM |
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StaceyWill
It's a girl!!!
Member since 6/10 21539 total posts
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Stacey
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My friend had bad news today..
I would just give her space right now. Let her know you're there if she needs you.
I'm so sorry she's going through this.
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| Posted 10/2/12 9:03 PM |
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gina409
TWINS!
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by Mrs213
I would write a nice card saying u are there for her. I don't think I'd want any gifts if It were me. I am so sorry for your friend.
Agreed!
Im so sorry for your friend
ita
i am so sorry for your friend
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| Posted 10/2/12 9:17 PM |
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mlny
blessed <3
Member since 10/09 2113 total posts
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Ugh that is so sad
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| Posted 10/2/12 10:19 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Member since 7/06 12020 total posts
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My friend had bad news today..
It's very sweet of you to want to do something but I would not show up at her house this wknd unless you are explicitly invited. She likely will need some time and space, particularly with someone who was just 1 day apart in the pregnancy. Maybe send a card, but I would probably not go there...at least I wouldn't visit for at least a week or two. Let her know you're there for her when she needs it between now and then.
Message edited 10/2/2012 10:35:33 PM.
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| Posted 10/2/12 10:34 PM |
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TyReseGreen
Lil Prince is here
Member since 8/11 6338 total posts
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Coming from a person that had a fetal demise @ 28 weeks I didn't want to see anyone after. I stayed secluded in my house for 4 weeks exception for the funeral so a card would definitely be best.
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| Posted 10/3/12 12:34 AM |
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PennyCat
Just call me mommy :)
Member since 7/08 19084 total posts
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Jib
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Posted by MrsPJB2007
It's very sweet of you to want to do something but I would not show up at her house this wknd unless you are explicitly invited. She likely will need some time and space, particularly with someone who was just 1 day apart in the pregnancy. Maybe send a card, but I would probably not go there...at least I wouldn't visit for at least a week or two. Let her know you're there for her when she needs it between now and then.
Crashing, but I agree with this. Just let her know you are there for her and then keep your distance. She may not tell you because she won't want to hurt your feelings, but she may feel VERY sensitive being around you right now, especially with you both being due so close together.
I had my first loss at around that time as well and even though I didn't see the women here in person, even seeing people posting who were due around the same time made me feel bad I'd lurk and see someone I was due near was having their shower .... or feeling the baby move..... and although that was great for them and a part of me was happy they were taking in the moment, another very large part of me wanted to jump into a cave and never come out - and that was from online people I never even met! .. Long story short.. just give her space.
Friends of ours planted a tree in our baby's honor which I thought was beautiful.
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| Posted 10/3/12 7:53 AM |
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MommaDina
LIF Infant
Member since 8/12 315 total posts
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DinaMarie
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Thanks so much everyone ... her husband texted me last night that she wanted him to let me know what was going on but she was so devastated so i told them that we loved them and would give them space but to remember that we were here when she needed us. I feel horrible for her and anyone that had to go through this.
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| Posted 10/3/12 8:19 AM |
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lulugrrl
My 3 Blessings
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
This is so upsetting.. I am so very sorry for your friend
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| Posted 10/3/12 9:43 AM |
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jams92
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
im so sorry for your friend
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| Posted 10/3/12 9:44 AM |
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NurseMommy09
LIF Infant
Member since 6/12 167 total posts
Name:
Kate
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Posted by gina409
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by Mrs213
I would write a nice card saying u are there for her. I don't think I'd want any gifts if It were me. I am so sorry for your friend.
Agreed!
Im so sorry for your friend
ita
i am so sorry for your friend
ita im so sorry for your dear friend. God bless her, and her baby. 
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| Posted 10/3/12 12:01 PM |
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Sparrow
LIF Adult
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
That's so awful, I'm so sorry for your friend! I agree with the people who said to give her space. Everyone is different of course and I can't even imagine being in her shoes but I don't think I'd want to see anyone, let alone a pg friend who was due the same time as me. I would call her (maybe in a few days to give her time) and let her not answer if she doesn't feel like talking. I wouldn't be offended if she pushed me away for a while. I think it just might be too painful to see you still pregnant. I certainly wouldn't invite myself there any time soon. I would only go if she asks you to, although I would tell her that I'm here for her in any way she may need.
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| Posted 10/3/12 12:31 PM |
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neener1211
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Member since 4/07 22952 total posts
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Just give her a shoulder to cry on, maybe a nice plant or flowers. Speaking from experience, any food people brought I didn't eat, I was just sick to my stomach for a long time.
I'm so sorry for your friend.
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| Posted 10/3/12 12:34 PM |
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NYCGirl80
I love my kiddies!
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
Posted by MrsPJB2007
It's very sweet of you to want to do something but I would not show up at her house this wknd unless you are explicitly invited. She likely will need some time and space, particularly with someone who was just 1 day apart in the pregnancy. Maybe send a card, but I would probably not go there...at least I wouldn't visit for at least a week or two. Let her know you're there for her when she needs it between now and then.
ITA. I wouldn't want someone showing up at my door nor would I want gifts to remind me how sad I am. Let her process and just let her know you're there for her when she'd ready.
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| Posted 10/3/12 12:37 PM |
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mnm918
LIF Adult
Member since 10/10 1209 total posts
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Michele
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Re: My friend had bad news today..
So sorry for your friend's loss.. That is heartbreaking
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