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Cheeks24
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My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
My mom was just diagonsed with advanced stage pancreatic cancer that has spread to other organs  My sister and I are really concerned about my father and depression. My parents have Medicare and their secondary is AARP. Does anyone know where I could look to see if therapy is covered?
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ANewDayHasCome
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My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
Fm me if you need anything at all. My mom passed of cancer in 2007. My dad was, I would even say suicidal. Look into cancer care. They offer free counseling to anyone affected by it. I did group and individual counseling with people my age who lost a parent and found it helped. My dad did it as well on Long Island (I was in the city at the time).
The commack y (Suffolk jcc) also offers bereavement groups which also helped him.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Losing my mom was the worst thing in my life
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| Posted 1/31/15 8:16 AM |
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Fm me if you need anything at all. My mom passed of cancer in 2007. My dad was, I would even say suicidal. Look into cancer care. They offer free counseling to anyone affected by it. I did group and individual counseling with people my age who lost a parent and found it helped. My dad did it as well on Long Island (I was in the city at the time).
The commack y (Suffolk jcc) also offers bereavement groups which also helped him.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Losing my mom was the worst thing in my life
I was also going to recommend cancer care. My mom has stage 4 breast cancer that has spread to multiple other places. Watching all of this has been very hard on me- but I know it must be even worse for my dad. He has been drinking a lot and when she passes, I do worry he will need a lot of help and support. Cancer care said they help connect you with free therapy and support groups in your area. Google them and call them for more info.
 Cancer is the worst and it has def. changed my life =(
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SusiBee
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
I am so sorry. I know what you are going thru, my mom died of cancer in 2004, my MIL in 2008.
Your mom's health team can make recommendations as well as Cancer Care. AARP Medicare can also make recommendations.
Have your mom contact her insurance company giving you permission to talk with them about her medical coverage. Very important. Same with the doctors.
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ANewDayHasCome
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My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
For us, cancer care didn't give us suggestions. We were actually seeing therapists working at cancer care. Individual sessions and group. And it was free.
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Tulips915
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
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Ayne11
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
I'm so sorry Mici! My Aunt passed away from Pacreatic Cancer 6 years ago. I'll ask my cousin if they had used a therapist.
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| Posted 1/31/15 9:15 AM |
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apwmjc
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
No advice just wanted to say so sorry you & your family are going through this
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| Posted 1/31/15 9:50 AM |
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PurpleC
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
so sorry!
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LSP2005
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
I am so incredibly sorry. My grandpa died of pancreatic cancer. Hugs to you.
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| Posted 1/31/15 9:58 AM |
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Mrs213
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
I do t know what to say just want to offer 
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| Posted 1/31/15 10:36 AM |
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
I don't have a suggestion, unfortunately, but I did want to tell you that I'm so sorry and offer you and your family prayers.
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| Posted 1/31/15 10:50 AM |
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LIRascal
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you.
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| Posted 1/31/15 1:13 PM |
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ThreeforTea
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
So sorry to hear about this. My prayers are with you and your family.
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| Posted 1/31/15 2:19 PM |
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Cheeks24
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My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
Thank you all for the suggestions and support.
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waterspout4
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
So very sorry. My prayers are with you.
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| Posted 1/31/15 6:12 PM |
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BunnyWife
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
I'm so sorry
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| Posted 1/31/15 6:26 PM |
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LI-Joy
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
To the OP and others going through. I'm so sorry. for all of you.
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gina409
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
I am so sorry.
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| Posted 1/31/15 8:31 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
If your mom is being treated at a larger hospital (LIJ, MSK, NYU, etc) they will have therapy available for spouses (as well as for you and you sister). I would absolutely look into seeing if that is an option.
I am so, so sorry to hear this. While I don't know the extent of the spread, please keep in mind that many people can live for a year, 2 years, and sometimes a lot more even with stage 4 cancer. There are so many treatment options and clinical trials out there.
Lots of prayers to you, your mom and your family 
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| Posted 1/31/15 8:52 PM |
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Jenn627
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
Oh God. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I don't have any recs but please don't forget to take care of yourself too.
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| Posted 1/31/15 8:58 PM |
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Cheeks24
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My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
We've since learned her organs are starting to shut down so it is only a matter of time. She is at NorthShore.
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Sparrow
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
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sunnyflies
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My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
Can a social worker at North Shore guide you to where you can get help for him? She would know if AARP covered therapy, and if her hospital offered it free of charge as some others do.
I am so sorry for you and your family.
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casey31
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Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad
I am so sorry about your mom. My mom died of cancer in 2013 and my dad was very depressed. I care for him on my own. He got cancer too but has recovered. I found a social worker that took Medicare in smithtown- also the Y has support groups and I also found him another support group for widowers. But he has refused everything. FM me if you ever want to talk. Caring for my dad has been one of the hardest things I have ever done. I am praying for you and your mom.
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