I'm so sorry to hear this. My mom passed away from very aggressive cancers in 2013. It was so, so hard to go through. Chat Icon

I saw a counselor for free through Cancercare.org. The office I went to was in the city (near my job), but they also did phone sessions with me when I couldn't make it in. I would try their website to see what they can offer for your dad. The services were free.

Is your mom on hospice? If not, I would look into putting her on hospice asap. It covers a lot of care, even for family members. A hospice social worker would definitely be able to point you in the right direction for your father, or yourself.

I can't speak for everyone, but as my mother's sole caregiver, what helped for me was getting away from it and doing things that didn't revolve around cancer and death. Since I was around that 24/7 for a year. Maybe you can take your dad out for outings together even if it's just lunch. Or maybe a baseball game etc. It might not take your minds off of it completely, but it will help clear your heads for a little while.

If you want to PM, feel free.