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nyteacher13
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by nrthshgrl
I know this isn't what you want to hear but I agree with their decision.
I agree.
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
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MrsERod
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by roxygrl8
Posted by nrthshgrl
I know this isn't what you want to hear but I agree with their decision.
I agree with their decision as well, it just stinks for your sister they always say "guilty by association" this is what happened in this situation
i agree
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| Posted 6/23/07 11:07 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
holy cow! that's horrible
i agree that the school board should not let the drinkers attend graduation since they signed a form, but if your sister and friend weren't drinking and others stand by that, they shouldn't be punished
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let's be realistic. i'll bet all of us drank before prom. i know i did! and one of the girls in my limo got very sick AND threw up in my bed at home AND at graduation the next day! in fact, we got kicked out of our post-prom party in nyc because of her.
so i don't think we should pretend that we're all above drinking at the prom. i am a teacher, and i know things are different nowadays, but i think it's wrong to not allow 2 hardworking students to attend graduation because of some idiot.
ETA: i just saw maybebaby's other post on drinking at our own proms...so we can discuss this there.
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nov04libride
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by MrsERod
Posted by roxygrl8
Posted by nrthshgrl
I know this isn't what you want to hear but I agree with their decision.
I agree with their decision as well, it just stinks for your sister they always say "guilty by association" this is what happened in this situation
i agree
I agree. And I did not drink before or during my prom.
But this does all remind me of "Let Donna Martin Graduate! Let Donna Martin Graduate!" Ironically I don't remember if Donna Martin was allowed to graduate....
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Wow that is sad. I dont think the punishment should have been that harsh. This hurts your parents too....
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hazeleyes33
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
I don't understand how she was placed in a limo she was not supposed to be in-??
We rented a limo for 3 couples and that is who went in the limo.
Why was she in another one??
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Your sister didn't even ask to be put in that limo and just ends up being in the wrong place/wrong time.
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| Posted 6/24/07 9:03 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by hazeleyes33
I don't understand how she was placed in a limo she was not supposed to be in-??
We rented a limo for 3 couples and that is who went in the limo.
Why was she in another one??
The way they did it this year in our town (lynbrook) was to have a big parade party in town and then all the limos arrived to pick up the kids.
My sisters group which was HUGE ended up getting a car that couldn't accomodate all of them...there just wasn't room. So there was another group that had room for 2 more...my sis and her friend went with them because they were friendly with 2 girls in the limo..
It was messed up from the beginning-my sister was so mad to be displaced from her friends. She should have stood her groud and never went with the others...
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| Posted 6/24/07 9:04 AM |
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Moehick
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
I feel bad for your sister, wrong place wrong time...but totally agree with the schools decision
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| Posted 6/24/07 9:13 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
My high school actually rented one of the large buses with the nice seats and made everyone who was going to the prom go on that. We were all searched (bags included) before getting on the bus. At the end of the prom we all had to leave on the bus. After we could do whatever, but I can safely say there was no alcohol whatsoever at my prom.
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| Posted 6/24/07 9:20 AM |
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DaniJude
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by Karen
Posted by nrthshgrl
I know this isn't what you want to hear but I agree with their decision.
I do, too - but it's mainly based on the fact that I am a teacher. Sorry - but the second someone brought alcohol in the limo, all bets were off. It's illegal!! People should have gotten out and found another way to the prom.
Totally harsh - but unfortunately in the "sue-happy" society we live in - I don't blame the limo driver one bit! If something happened the driver, school, catering hall - all could have been sued!
As for the school board - I think a no-alcohol policy is pretty standard. I would be shocked if students and parents were not made aware of it beforehand.
ETA: It does totally suck and I feel for you and your family. I'm relieved to see you are able to see both sides of it.
Agreed.
I really don't blame the driver- he was trying to protect his own a$$ b/c in a second it could have been sued if anything had happened and it's just not worth the risk.
Shame on the person who brought the alcohol in.
In my life, unfortunately, there were many times where I had to just get up and leave places where the things that were going on were SO bad that I knew- if anything happened- I would be guilty by association... Like the time I walked into a simple party at a friend's house and they were snorting cocaine and vicadin... I was like, yeah-NO!!!!! and turned right around and walked out and went home. There were times I had to walk home because the people I were with wanted to stay and I would not allow myself to be in a position like that...
Am I better than most people? Absolutely not. Could things like what happened to your sister still could have happened to me? Maybe. It stinks and there's no way around it... Nothing to say but that it stinks.
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by browneyedgirl
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let's be realistic. i'll bet all of us drank before prom. i know i did!
I didn't and I didn't drink afterwards either.
And just because "everybody does it" doesn't make it right - or legal.
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Karen
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
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Posted by browneyedgirl
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let's be realistic. i'll bet all of us drank before prom. i know i did!
I didn't and I didn't drink afterwards either.
And just because "everybody does it" doesn't make it right - or legal.
I didn't either!! We started the night at my parents' house and they never would have allowed that. Afterwards we went to a comedy club in the city that was geared for after-prom parties, so there was no alcohol there either.
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MrsS2005
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Was your sister allowed to tell her side of the story to the Board or Prinicpal?
I understand where the district is coming from and I support their decision with respect to the kids who drank and brought the alcohol into the limo. However, your sister had nothing to do with the drinking and wasn't even supposed to be in the limo. IMO, those circumstances don't warrant punishing her.
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by nrthshgrl
I know this isn't what you want to hear but I agree with their decision.
Ditto
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hazeleyes33
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by hazeleyes33
I don't understand how she was placed in a limo she was not supposed to be in-??
We rented a limo for 3 couples and that is who went in the limo.
Why was she in another one??
The way they did it this year in our town (lynbrook) was to have a big parade party in town and then all the limos arrived to pick up the kids.
My sisters group which was HUGE ended up getting a car that couldn't accomodate all of them...there just wasn't room. So there was another group that had room for 2 more...my sis and her friend went with them because they were friendly with 2 girls in the limo..
It was messed up from the beginning-my sister was so mad to be displaced from her friends. She should have stood her groud and never went with the others...
I agree. I would have never gone with another group.
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NewlyMrs
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by Princessmaris
It totally sucks that your family is going through this- however Im happy for once a school is doing the right thing...
The children who were drinking/attempting to drink should be punished andsince there was no way to actually prove who that was... the "you are who you hang around with" comes into play....
I would be so mad about the whole limo situation as well... BUT she was friendly with those in this limo- no? How else would've she ended up in there?
I cant begin to tell you how many times I have declined invitations to things that I really wanted to go too- because
I KNEW that inapporpriate things (whether it be drugs, drinking and driving etc...) would go on- AND GOD FORBID the cops were called... I want no association with any kind of negativity!
I have to agree. She learned a hard lesson, didn't she have a cell phone on her where she could have called someone when there was a problem, like the limo, or knowing these people had alcohol?
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
I guess I am in the minority here but I think the school board over reacted. They are kids and someone made a stupid mistake, to ruin everyone's graduation over one person is wrong, imo.
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maybebaby
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by NewlyMrs
Posted by Princessmaris
It totally sucks that your family is going through this- however Im happy for once a school is doing the right thing...
The children who were drinking/attempting to drink should be punished andsince there was no way to actually prove who that was... the "you are who you hang around with" comes into play....
I would be so mad about the whole limo situation as well... BUT she was friendly with those in this limo- no? How else would've she ended up in there?
I cant begin to tell you how many times I have declined invitations to things that I really wanted to go too- because
I KNEW that inapporpriate things (whether it be drugs, drinking and driving etc...) would go on- AND GOD FORBID the cops were called... I want no association with any kind of negativity!
I have to agree. She learned a hard lesson, didn't she have a cell phone on her where she could have called someone when there was a problem, like the limo, or knowing these people had alcohol?
Would YOU have called someone mid limo drive and been responsible for everyone else getting in trouble?
Maybe you would have, but I think you would be in the minority.
There are so many times where others are doing stupid things and if you aren't involved, you just stay quiet and be the good one (you meaning anyone in the situation).
My sister wasnt able to be responsible for everyone else. Looking back and knowing what she knows now, maybe she would have ...
And she didn't have much of a choice. If you are told to hop in someone elses limo to get to the prom and thats that, well then, most people would just take the ride and get to their prom.
She is human...a good kid, like i've said a million times, but human. I would have done the same thing as her if i were that age and regarding circumstances.
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maybebaby
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by lullabella
I guess I am in the minority here but I think the school board over reacted. They are kids and someone made a stupid mistake, to ruin everyone's graduation over one person is wrong, imo.
One huge factor in their decision was because the person with the alcohol claims everyone had some. My sister said a million times (through tears) that her and her friend never had it. The others kept their mouths shut knowing full well they didnt' participate.
AND..get this...there is a pic on myspace of them in the limo....all were drinking, and there is my sis and her friend with poland spring bottles in their hands.
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
I'm sorry but it's not fair for your sister to get punished for someone else's stupidity. The idiot and jacka$$ that brought the alcohol into the limo should be punished! It's disgusting to treat a hard working student like that! It's things like this that discourage good kids from doing good in school. The school made the right decision but punished the wrong student.
It's unfair to your sister!
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by NewlyMrs
Posted by Princessmaris
It totally sucks that your family is going through this- however Im happy for once a school is doing the right thing...
The children who were drinking/attempting to drink should be punished andsince there was no way to actually prove who that was... the "you are who you hang around with" comes into play....
I would be so mad about the whole limo situation as well... BUT she was friendly with those in this limo- no? How else would've she ended up in there?
I cant begin to tell you how many times I have declined invitations to things that I really wanted to go too- because
I KNEW that inapporpriate things (whether it be drugs, drinking and driving etc...) would go on- AND GOD FORBID the cops were called... I want no association with any kind of negativity!
I have to agree. She learned a hard lesson, didn't she have a cell phone on her where she could have called someone when there was a problem, like the limo, or knowing these people had alcohol?
Would YOU have called someone mid limo drive and been responsible for everyone else getting in trouble?
Maybe you would have, but I think you would be in the minority.
There are so many times where others are doing stupid things and if you aren't involved, you just stay quiet and be the good one (you meaning anyone in the situation).
My sister wasnt able to be responsible for everyone else. Looking back and knowing what she knows now, maybe she would have ...
And she didn't have much of a choice. If you are told to hop in someone elses limo to get to the prom and thats that, well then, most people would just take the ride and get to their prom.
She is human...a good kid, like i've said a million times, but human. I would have done the same thing as her if i were that age and regarding circumstances.
The bottom line is she was hanging out with the wrong crowd... if they werent her friends, and she knew what kinds of people they were, she shouldve found an alternative ride...
Im sorry when it comes to kids and drinking- there never should be a loop hole- not for anyone!
I have FIRST HAND PERSONAL EXPERIENCE with an alcoholic, drugatic teenage brother- and many instances where the school district turned the other way...
I truely feel bad for your mom- as a parent I cant imagine not seeing my child graduate... but I think the school districte should be applauded for standing their grounds!
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CaMacho
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
I feel horrible for your sister... anyone could be caught in a situation like that. I know if it was me I would have done exactly what she did.
That just $ucks that she can't attend graduation b/c of something she wasn't even involved in, but at least your parents and family know she was innocent. I hope the school took everything into consideration before they made their decision.
Maybe you guys can throw her a grad party?
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Re: My sister and friends were not allowed to attend their high school graduation
Posted by Kara
Posted by browneyedgirl
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let's be realistic. i'll bet all of us drank before prom. i know i did!
I didn't and I didn't drink afterwards either.
And just because "everybody does it" doesn't make it right - or legal.
ITA. I didn't drink and I don't think it is right.
Someone posted the argument about going to war and you can't legally drink. Maybe that should be looked into as far as lowering the drinking age to 18. But 18 isn't 16 and it isn't legal right now. If it becomes legal, then that is a different conversation.
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