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Diane
Hope is Contagious....catch it

Member since 5/05

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D

Re: Need advice

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Posted by worriedmrs

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Posted by THEINFAMOUSMRS.OTG

Does he work close enough for you to check things out? Is he in an area that you would go unseen?




could you trade cars with a friend and stake him out?

or even rent one? it's dark out when he is done working right?



I may do this one night next week... it is dark out when he is working...



Just please be very careful. This is not worth getting yourself hurt over. I'd be so upset seeing something to confirm my ideas that I would not be able to drive carefully.

Your DH sounds like a real coward. I have no use for liars or sneaks and he sounds like BOTH a liar AND a sneak. Again, you deserve SO MUCH MORE than this.

Red is right... DON'T lose sight of YOUR dreams because this "man" has no use for you. I really hope you guys don't have kids involved in this...




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Posted 8/28/06 10:29 PM
 
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Tumbalina
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Member since 2/06

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Name:
Angela

Re: Need advice

How have you been? Find out anything new?

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Posted 8/28/06 10:42 PM
 

Libragal07
Loving Summer.....

Member since 8/06

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Name:
Samantha aka Sammy Bones

Re: Need advice

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Posted 8/28/06 10:44 PM
 

Moehick
Ready for the sun!

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Properly perfect™

Re: Need advice

Hope your OKChat Icon

Posted 8/28/06 10:46 PM
 

Kierasmom
I love my kids

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Jenn

Re: Need advice

First I wanted to say that I'm sorry you're going through this.

I would track the times that he is calling her to the days that he is working late and see if there are any coincidences. If he's calling her at 11:15 and telling you that he's working late, then you know there's something going on.

It all seems strange to me that he would be calling a woman at her house at 11:15 at night, but I wouldn't jump on anything yet. Wait for a week or two and see what kind of information you can get.Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/28/06 11:10 PM
 

DebG
Pick a cause & stand up for it

Member since 5/05

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Name:
The cure IS worse!

Re: Need advice

thinking of you.

Posted 8/28/06 11:22 PM
 

BellaRock
I am all the Me I will ever Be

Member since 5/06

9746 total posts

Name:
She who shall remain nameless

Re: Need advice

Just here to say that I am thinking of you and praying for you.

I don't have any good advice to give just to keep you head up and be strong. Lots of Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/29/06 12:51 AM
 

LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Sonia

Re: Need advice

Worried,

I wish I had words of comfort for you but I don't. All I can say is that you must trust your instinct. I know many woemn who like you started suspecting and all the clues were there. I can relate to what you are feeling and you want to to do anything possible to keep your marriage from falling apart. But it's NOT you. The easiest thing for him to do is blame it on you & make you feel guilty. Don't...we all have issues & difficulties in our marriages, but it takes two. There are times when things can be worked out because there is love & respect coming from both parties. But if he is adamant about being unhappy as difficult as it may be I would say to go your own way. Keeping you in my prayers. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/29/06 8:54 AM
 

skygirl
Our prayers were answered:)

Member since 6/05

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Name:
Erica

Re: Need advice

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Posted 8/29/06 9:11 AM
 

imagin916
LIF Adult

Member since 6/05

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Name:
Valerie

Re: Need advice

Im so sorry that you are going through this. You are a wonderful person, and its too bad that your husband is making the worst mistake of his life by messing up his marriage to you. I agree with the others, get proof of your suspicions before you confront him, otherwise he will deny and cover his tracks better in order for you not to catch him.

Do NOT let him convince you that this is your fault in any way, nobody is responsible for "driving" anyone to cheat. A mature adult does not do things that they dont want to do, and if he tries to blame you after you catch him in the act, tell him where to shove it.

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Posted 8/29/06 10:30 AM
 

nferrandi
too excited for words

Member since 10/05

18538 total posts

Name:
Nicole

Re: Need advice

Posted by imagin916


Do NOT let him convince you that this is your fault in any way, nobody is responsible for "driving" anyone to cheat. A mature adult does not do things that they dont want to do, and if he tries to blame you after you catch him in the act, tell him where to shove it.

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I totally agree. Get the proof you need and get your stuff together and move one. I do't thnk there's anything to work out at that point. I'm sorry you're going through this. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/29/06 10:33 AM
 

My3Shmoos
Me and my Monkey

Member since 7/06

2437 total posts

Name:
K

Re: Need advice

My girlfriend went through this too. You need to get good proof. You said you found her email address. Do you think he emails her from your home computer? If so you can buy a program that shows you everything he types in and what other write back to him. When my girlfriend went through this another colleague at work told het about this software. She used it to track her kids online activity. My girlfriend bought it and caught her husband making plans to meet his affair. She was able to print it out and confront him and then used it to show her divorce lawyer which helped her prove her case. She got the house, car and many ther things. I talked to her just before and the software is from Spector.

www.spector.com The software is Spectorpro You can load it on your computer and it can't be found. it loads in Stealth. It will show you all his online activity. There are different versions you can buy so look at them all and then choose. You need the proof before anything. FM me if you need more info. I'll ask my GF if you have anyother questions.

Posted 8/29/06 11:00 AM
 

DRMom
Two in Blue

Member since 5/05

20223 total posts

Name:
Melissa

Re: Need advice

Posted by KAbs

My girlfriend went through this too. You need to get good proof. You said you found her email address. Do you think he emails her from your home computer? If so you can buy a program that shows you everything he types in and what other write back to him. When my girlfriend went through this another colleague at work told het about this software. She used it to track her kids online activity. My girlfriend bought it and caught her husband making plans to meet his affair. She was able to print it out and confront him and then used it to show her divorce lawyer which helped her prove her case. She got the house, car and many ther things. I talked to her just before and the software is from Spector.

www.spector.com The software is Spectorpro You can load it on your computer and it can't be found. it loads in Stealth. It will show you all his online activity. There are different versions you can buy so look at them all and then choose. You need the proof before anything. FM me if you need more info. I'll ask my GF if you have anyother questions.



I also know someone who used this-it was a male friend of DH's looking to catch his girfriend which he did. This is teh SWEETEST guy you could ever meet and this girl was just abusing his kindness-he confronted her with the evidence and moved out of state and met a great girl he is living with now. No Matter what--you do not deserve this. Please take care of yourself and your heart FIRST! Good luck

Posted 8/29/06 11:33 AM
 

Tany
Becoming a different woman

Member since 5/05

24460 total posts

Name:
Tania

Re: Need advice

I just saw this, I'm so sorry you are going through this. but if you feel in your heart, that there is something wrong, go your instinct.

I hope that things can be resolved.

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Posted 8/29/06 12:12 PM
 

LaurenExp
Waiting patiently for baby sis

Member since 8/06

11613 total posts

Name:
L-Diddy EDD 11/11/11 :)

Re: Need advice

I just saw this as well. I'm so sorry that this is going on. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/29/06 12:34 PM
 
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