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MrsSunflwr29
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Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
Ok so tonight we are going to my inlaws for dinner and my parents are going to be alone..my sister passed away last year...Now the inlaws want us to be at their house tomorrow for 9 am to open presents. I have 15 month old twins who I feel they should enjoy opening their presents and have a chance to play before we meet up with my parents tomorrow at 3...My DH feels we should go to his parents tomorrow so everyone can exchange gifts by 9 and then go to my parents house and then my aunts...Not only does this not give the kids a chance to play but it also doesnt give them a chance to take a nap. I feel like we are spending tonight with his family why should our family and my family pay the price tomorrow of pure crankiness because his family wants to open presents...
How do you ladies do it and how do you eliviate all the running around....I just want to spend some quiet time with my kids and let them enjoy the day and all I want to do right now it freak out and call it quits...
Please help..
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Posted 12/24/08 10:22 AM  |
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
Just say no. Tell them to come to you. If your DH doesn't agree, tell him to go alone. People need to understand that you want to spend Christmas morning with your kids without being rushed around.
This is why I'm glad I don't live in the same state as my family anymore. No more hustle and bustle and we truly get to relax and enjoy the kids!
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| Posted 12/24/08 10:29 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
Personally if I was going to the IL's house tonight I would want ot be home tomorrow with my kids to do OUR Xmas morning. 9 am is early to be out with 2 kids and be perky after a long night tonight. Sorry they will get over it. You need your family time too. JMO
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| Posted 12/24/08 10:30 AM |
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Elbee
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
We do the same thing you do kind of - we spend Eve with my family, christmas morning with my family then christmas day with DH's family.
This year we declined christmas morning with my family. It's the first time since I am born that I am not spending christmas morning with them. I feel terrible, but I have a 15 month old who is going to have a crazy day today and tomorrow and he NEEDS A NAP tomorrow morning. I will not let him forgo that morning nap just so my parents can give him presents - it is not fair to my IL's or to me.
It was hard to put my foot down but I am doing what is BEST for MY CHILD.
I know my mom is sad about it but deep down she understands (I think, LOL)
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| Posted 12/24/08 10:31 AM |
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Karen
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
IMO, since you are seeing them tonight there is absolutely no reason to run around tomorrow to see them. You need to enjoy Christmas morning as a family.
Why can't you guys just exchange gifts with them tonight?
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| Posted 12/24/08 10:32 AM |
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IrishLasss334
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
I would not go in the morning. If you weren't going to see them at all, then ok, but since you will be there tonight it's ok. They may not see it that way, but it is.
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| Posted 12/24/08 10:34 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
Melissa... if it were us.. i would definitely stay home on Christmas morning with the kids... its very special to share that with just the 4 of you..
i hope it works out!!
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| Posted 12/24/08 10:37 AM |
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MrsSunflwr29
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
There are other grandchildren and they want them all to be together to open...some will not be there today and I feel like I shouldnt have to suffer because of that..My SIL has older kids and has been doing this for years and now I am the bad one because I am trying to change everything...
I feel bad enough that my parents are going to be alone tonight and now they have to suffer with 2 screaming kids tomorrow...
I am really starting to hate the holidays and I am so tired of running like a nut...
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| Posted 12/24/08 10:39 AM |
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seaside
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
Because you're asking, I say prioritize your parents this year--for obvious reasons. Your DH and IL's should understand that whatever's gone on in previous years or will go on in future yearsm this is a year to think about their feelings and comfort first and foremost---honestly, yours too.
Do what you need to do.
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| Posted 12/24/08 10:48 AM |
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
Posted by seaside
Because you're asking, I say prioritize your parents this year--for obvious reasons. Your DH and IL's should understand that whatever's gone on in previous years or will go on in future yearsm this is a year to think about their feelings and comfort first and foremost---honestly, yours too.
Do what you need to do.
I agree.
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| Posted 12/24/08 11:02 AM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Need Advice for today and tomorrow....Please help
Posted by Summerrluvv
Just say no. Tell them to come to you. If your DH doesn't agree, tell him to go alone. People need to understand that you want to spend Christmas morning with your kids without being rushed around.
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Now is the time to set your own family traditions. My DH used to wake early to go to his parents to open gifts, once we had Damien I told him it wasn't fair to expect Damien to open presents from "Santa" at his GP house and not his own. Everyone understood (we spend every Christmas Eve with DH family too)
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| Posted 12/24/08 11:03 AM |
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