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Need help potty training my 3 1/2 year old DS

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Pooka
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Need help potty training my 3 1/2 year old DS

DS will be 4 in September. He's had a lot of change and transition as his dad and I went through a divorce, moved out and in with my parents and then out and into our own place 9 months later. Then ExH moved 3 times as well. My pediatrician said not to even bother starting until things have calmed down. I tried several months ago, but DS had NO interest at all. But, recently I've been successful at getting him to pee a few times per day, but only if I ask him if he can go. He never asks to go on his own. I bribe him with a "prize" which always works. But he still doesn't ask to go on his own.

Can you guys give me some pointers? I have the 3 day potty training method in my email but I'm not home for 3 days consecutively b/c I work 5 1/2 days per week and every other weekend he is with his dad. Any suggestions?

Posted 5/15/12 3:00 PM
 
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MarisaK
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Re: Need help potty training my 3 1/2 year old DS

My ped told me not to worry about it -
He just turned 3 last month and I was stressing b/c a lot of his daycare classmates were trained @ 2 .......He said he could be as old as 4 .......

He could phycially go, knew when to tell me etc etc. - he just had zero interest and wanted to do it when he wanted to do it .......it was random.

Last week he just flipped a switch and started telling me "Mommy I need to go pee pee on the potty now" - I never ask him anymore or nag - I keep the diaper on him for now as well b/c he didn't want to wear the pull ups or underwear .......so whatever works IMO. He won't poop yet - but I'm not going to push my luck - it's only been a week

Mine can't be bribed, or threatned or even made a HUGE deal out of ......he just needed to be ready on his own terms. (although he does like the fact that my dad literally pays him when he goes. - always money in his piggy bank)

Maybe just keep the potty out , and mention it every once in awhile, but don't force the issue ?? I don't know, I guess every kid is different. Mine is a control freak (like me) maybe your feels like this is something he has control over? - He'll do it when he's ready. I know it's frustrating !

Message edited 5/15/2012 3:52:25 PM.

Posted 5/15/12 3:50 PM
 

EricaAlt
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Re: Need help potty training my 3 1/2 year old DS

DS will be 3 in a couple of weeks and NO interest in going on the potty either. Actually, his whole class in daycare is in diapers too. His teacher said this is the first year she has a whole class where not 1 kid is potty trained.

As people will tell you... when he's ready. My DS seems to have NO interest at all either. He seems to concentrate on one thing at a time and focus on that. He sees a Speech Therapist for Speech and has been THRIVING. Going from a few words a year ago to lots of sentences. I noticed with him that he wants to concentrate on language so when he's more comfortable with that then hopefully the potty will be next.

Your DS sounds like my nephew. He wasn't trained till close to 4. My sister was divorced shortly after he was born. They lived at my parents and then my sister got her own place when my nephew was about 2. She was dealing with her Ex issues and other things. He finally got trained with the help of her new BF (now husband). Maybe the security helped him. Who knows?! He is really close with my BIL now. He really never had a father figure b4 except for my dad.
So... since I totally went off. I think when he's ready. He's been through a lot. Chat Icon

Posted 5/15/12 4:03 PM
 

chikita315
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Re: Need help potty training my 3 1/2 year old DS

I believe when they are ready, they are ready. Forcing it on them, only pushes them away.

What worked for us was going cold turkey to underwear/naked. Fortunately for me, I was home on maternity when DS turned 3, so we were able to stay home consistently for 3 days and he was successfully potty trained at the end.
For my DS what worked was the underwear/naked becuase he didn't like being wet.

Since that's not an option for you, my old babysitter suggested putting a pair of underwear UNDER the pull-up. What that does is let them feel the sensation of being wet (which most dont' like) but doesn't make a mess. That might be a good solution for you since you can't stay home all day to do the training. The diaper/pull-up pulls the wetness away from the body, so they don't really feel it.

Posted 5/15/12 4:27 PM
 

MrsO
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Re: Need help potty training my 3 1/2 year old DS

I think as the kids get a little older training needs to be on their terms and when they are ready. My older ds will be 4 in August and only about 2 months ago was he trained. This is what we did. He was against underwear and pull-ups we had tried off and on with no success.
One day my babysitter told him that there are no more diapers and she hid them all. Then we put a pull up on him and we haven't looked back. He searched for the diapers for a few days to no avail. He wore the pull ups until i ran out of the packages but he treated them the same as underwear. He always went on the toilet and asked. He was ready. He wears special night night diapers for night still. That is my next project.
Good Luck! He will do it.

Posted 5/15/12 5:43 PM
 

Pooka
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Re: Need help potty training my 3 1/2 year old DS

See, I think he is ready but just more afraid than anything else. He will sit on the potty with the potty seat but sometimes doesn't go. But, recently I started having him stand b/c it was "fun" to aim the pee pee in the potty. This seems to work for now. But still, he's not telling me he has to go. Should I try getting a small potty? i was trying to avoid it #1 b/c it was just something else to transition him from (from little potty to big potty) and #2 b/c his dad doesn't have a potty seat and I'm pretty sure won't get one so I wanted to try to be consistent between the two houses. WDYT?

Posted 5/16/12 1:37 PM
 
 

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