Need your advice--DH and work related

So I just (as in 20 minutes ago) got a promotion and a raise at the place I work (started here in February, got a 15% raise). It's not 100% where I want to be financially but at the end of the day the promotion and raise was nice considering I have not even been here a year. He wanted me to get bumped a lot more.....So when they told me about the raise, it was lower than I thought and they told me we can review again in april

He is upset. He thinks the raise is BS, says I do much more than I get paid for and that I should have stuck up for myself. I am so upset right now. I thanked them---what was I SUPPOSED to do???????

Now he is upset with me. Told me I have no idea how to "play the game" and what upsets me the most is I am okay with the money--I mean who doesn't want more but...

And he and I had such a good night last night--he surprised me with dane cook tickets (see morning post)

What do I do when I see him tonight?

Edited to say: I was told more a few weeks ago by my direct report, meaning that is what she was going to ask for.

Message edited 10/31/2007 3:14:55 PM.

Re: Need your advice--DH and work related

Wow, way to steal your thunder there. Were you promised more then you received? Is it an appropriate salary for your responsibilities? Something like that would hurt my feelings and I would tell him that I was disappointed by his response.


Congrats on the promotion!

Re: Need your advice--DH and work related

If it's not that much money we're talking about, sometimes it's not worth stirring up the pot...if it doesn't break the bank and you can still live on what you're getting, he should be happy for you...

Re: Need your advice--DH and work related

Speaking as a former compensation person, a 15% promotional raise after less than a year, is very high.

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I agree...15% is alot unless you were promised more when hired. Most people only get 3-5% a year if that.

Re: Need your advice--DH and work related

First off, Congrats Nancy!!!!

Sorry to hear Jim is not so happy, but a 15% raise is high, no?
Unless you were promised more earlier.

The way I would see it from an outside POV, and if Kevin said that to me, he would be meaning that I deserved way more because of everything I do for my company.
I am saying this in my POV because Kevin has actually said these things to me in the past and I have gotten upset by his lack of "pride" in the raise itself.

Go home, explain to Jim that you are very proud of yourself and while you are sure he's proud of you too, it upsets you that he cannot just be happy, but made you feel bad.....

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Posted by curliegirl

First off, Congrats Nancy!!!!

The way I would see it from an outside POV, and if Kevin said that to me, he would be meaning that I deserved way more because of everything I do for my company.
I am saying this in my POV because Kevin has actually said these things to me in the past and I have gotten upset by his lack of "pride" in the raise itself.

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Congratulations on your promotion and raise. I think 15% for only 8 months is pretty decent. When you go home tonight, I would just be straight up with him. Tell him he hurt your feelings and took the wind out of your sail. He downplayed the fact that your hard work was recognized and rewarded. You may deserve much more, but the fact of the matter is, you still were recognized for working your butt off and he should be proud of you for that.. not disappointed that you didn't gun for more or stick up for yourself.

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Posted by jxnoscar

Posted by curliegirl

First off, Congrats Nancy!!!!

The way I would see it from an outside POV, and if Kevin said that to me, he would be meaning that I deserved way more because of everything I do for my company.
I am saying this in my POV because Kevin has actually said these things to me in the past and I have gotten upset by his lack of "pride" in the raise itself.

yeah same here I guess. But I am not him, I am not a big wig VP in corporate america. I work in nonprofit, I give every job my 100% and I think that makes him insane, bc he sees what I do and I basically make half of what he makes.

Re: Need your advice--DH and work related

Posted by curliegirl

Posted by jxnoscar

Posted by curliegirl

First off, Congrats Nancy!!!!

The way I would see it from an outside POV, and if Kevin said that to me, he would be meaning that I deserved way more because of everything I do for my company.
I am saying this in my POV because Kevin has actually said these things to me in the past and I have gotten upset by his lack of "pride" in the raise itself.

yeah same here I guess. But I am not him, I am not a big wig VP in corporate america. I work in nonprofit, I give every job my 100% and I think that makes him insane, bc he sees what I do and I basically make half of what he makes.

Then you should ask him what type of rais he would give one of his employees. I sincerely doubt it would be evn close to 15%.

He just wants you to play hardball like he has to.....
Tell Mr. Opportunity to be nice!

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I think a 15% raise is very good, I don't get that kind of raise where I am, and I've been here almost 4 years. I wish!

Congrats on your promotion.

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I'm in sales, so I can't really relate to the whole raise thing because "we can make our own raises", but I would be a little upset with DH for reacting that way. There is only so much you can do, and obviously your performance warrented a raise, but you can't control how much they give you. My mom goes thru this a lot with her job, and she feels like she should get more, but you get what you get. My dad never gives her a hard time about it. I personally feel like a 15% raise is pretty good. I would love a 15% raise on my salary. I say congratulations on a job well done. Be proud!!

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I work for a not-for-profit. 15% is unheard of around here. We are union and fight for a mere 3% whenever the contract comes up for renewal (management's opening offer is usually less than 1/2%).

My DH has been at his job for 2 years, and in that time his salary has gone from $5K less than me to $10K more than me (and his next raise is in a few weeks), and he doesn't get it either.

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Congratulations on the promotion and raise!

i agree with the PP that he probably feels you are worth way more, but he may not know how different "the game" is in a non-profit, it's not the same as a for-profit company. Raises can also vary depending on what industry you are in.

I was recently given a promotion and a 15.5% raise, it was such a significant raise that the VP who offered me the position had to justify to the Pres. of the company why I deserved the raise.

I would be very happy with your raise and promotion and let DH know that he was hurtful rather than supportive.

Congrats!

Re: Need your advice--DH and work related

Posted by jxnoscar

Posted by curliegirl

First off, Congrats Nancy!!!!

The way I would see it from an outside POV, and if Kevin said that to me, he would be meaning that I deserved way more because of everything I do for my company.
I am saying this in my POV because Kevin has actually said these things to me in the past and I have gotten upset by his lack of "pride" in the raise itself.

yeah same here I guess. But I am not him, I am not a big wig VP in corporate america. I work in nonprofit, I give every job my 100% and I think that makes him insane, bc he sees what I do and I basically make half of what he makes.

Re: Need your advice--DH and work related

Sometimes "playing the game" isn't part of who you are and sometimes, it's not right. It depends on the field...your DH might not know how it works where you work--does that make sense? My DH says that to me, too...but he works in a finance-driven place; I work in a creative atmosphere...and not the most high-paying job. You handled it how you handled it and I'm sure it was great. And congrats! Tell him to be happy for you, because YOU are happy for you.

Message edited 10/31/2007 4:48:06 PM.

Re: Need your advice--DH and work related

15% is a lot IMO. and if you get reveiwed again in April, that's less than 6 months away. I'm not really sure what he expects

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Congrats Nancy!!!!!

Coming from another non-profiter over here, 15% is an amazing raise for a promotion, especially in less than a year. It is an entirely different world than corporate america and he needs to be schooled on that!

Message edited 10/31/2007 5:06:14 PM.