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nov04libride
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Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
DS rarely sleeps. During the night I feed him every 3-4 hours, and try to get him to fall back asleep...It usually takes me 2 1/2 hours to get him to fall asleep, which means 1/2 hour later, it's time to wake up to feed again. He's somewhat like this during the day as well, but not as bad--fights sleeping.
At night I change and feed him in the dark nursery, then rock him for hours...But nothing seems to work.
Any advice? It's only been 2.5 weeks but I am so sleep deprived I feel like crying. He just fights sleeping so much--his eyes roll into the back of his head but then he pops his eyes wide open to stay awake...
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Are you swaddling him? If not, I would swaddle him tight, maybe use a sleep positioner as well. This seemed to work with DD. Also, is he gassy? Try giving him some mylicom before or after he eats.
 It does get better!
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
We've all been there
Do you swaddle? I suggest you try that as well..Miracle blanket was my savior for #2.
And what i did with both girls..middle of the night was all business, just like your doing..no lights, no diaper changes unless it's poopie, i used to feed them and put them back in bassinet whether they are awake or sleepy...
I promise you it will get better, and every 3 to 4 hours at night is great..my dd's woke up every 1-2.
Hang in there
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| Posted 7/9/09 2:45 PM |
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Posted by MrsRbk
Are you swaddling him? If not, I would swaddle him tight, maybe use a sleep positioner as well. This seemed to work with DD. Also, is he gassy? Try giving him some mylicom before or after he eats.
It does get better!
Yea I would try the swaddler if you are not using it.
Also....I found that the smaller the bassinet they are in the better.
We had a bad night right in the beginning with  and it was b/c the cradle was way too big for her. We went and bought a smaller bassient and she loves it so much more.
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nov04libride
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
I've tried swaddling, and he fights it and cries to get his arms out. Swaddling just the legs didn't seem to do anything.
Do they usually fight the swaddling?
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Posted by MrsRbk
Are you swaddling him? If not, I would swaddle him tight, maybe use a sleep positioner as well. This seemed to work with DD. Also, is he gassy? Try giving him some mylicom before or after he eats.
It does get better!
ditto!! my dd fights the swaddle but sleeps much better once she is in it. we also used the sleep positioner the first week or two as well as mylicon! Also have you tried using a sound machine???
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Posted by nov04libride
I've tried swaddling, and he fights it and cries to get his arms out. Swaddling just the legs didn't seem to do anything.
Do they usually fight the swaddling?
YES they do..My DD fought it in the beginning and then when the blanket came out she'd get so happy, coo and kick her legs knowing it was bedtime.
It needs to be tight, tighter the better...Do you know how to swaddle?
goto www.miracleblanket.com
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| Posted 7/9/09 2:51 PM |
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Posted by nov04libride
I've tried swaddling, and he fights it and cries to get his arms out. Swaddling just the legs didn't seem to do anything.
Do they usually fight the swaddling?
yes definitely.
my dh would have to swaddle her for me sometimes b/c i felt so bad she hated it so much but once she was it in she calmed down and usually slept much better.
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Posted by nov04libride
I've tried swaddling, and he fights it and cries to get his arms out. Swaddling just the legs didn't seem to do anything.
Do they usually fight the swaddling?
DD is almost four months old and I still swaddle her! She's been swaddled from the beginning. I first used a swaddle me blanket, but now use the miracle blanket (sooo much better!). DD has ALWAYS fought being in the swaddle the first few minutes she's wrapped up. However, once she settles down, she sleeps 100 times better! It definitely seems like she hates it (when you first wrap her up) but once I rock her for a bit she settles down and sleeps very well. My only problem now is that she's getting out of the blanket and waking up in the middle of the night because she's out of it!!
I would definitely try swaddling (tightly) again. Hold DS tight, rock him until he settles down, and try putting him down to sleep. GOOD LUCK!!
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Posted by nov04libride
I've tried swaddling, and he fights it and cries to get his arms out. Swaddling just the legs didn't seem to do anything.
Do they usually fight the swaddling?
Yes!!! for some reason they all seem to fight the swaddle. My DD was the same way, but now at 5 months, she will not sleep without it. Try to give a few minutes and see if he settles down. Also, one of the things I learned (we had a baby nurse from week 3-6), was that sometimes or most of the time, newborns need to cry to settle themselves down, it has to do with the hormones that are still present in their bodies. I'm not saying to let him CIO, he's way too young for that, but a minute or two won't hurt him one bit.
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Everyone gave you great advice already, but I just wanted to suggest laying him down wide awake. My DD has always looked wide awake in the middle of the night. I would swaddle her, put on white noise and walk out of the room. She would fall asleep on her own...sometimes it would take about 15 min or more. Other times I didn't and still don't know how long it takes her because I go back to bed.
I realize that this may not be a feasible suggestion for you, but you never know! Now that my DD is a little older, she will kick her legs high up in the air over and over again. It's a pretty funny sight, but I leave the room and she falls asleep.
Just wanted to add...my DD also always fought being swaddled, but it's exactly what she needed. She always settled afterwards.
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
you just described my life hon....please know first and foremost you are NOT ALONE....
When she's having her colicy 4 hours - that's exactly what Emma does... She'll LOOK like she's asleep - eyes closed and the second you stop doing what you were doing to calm her down - BLAMMO
- WIDE OPEN EYES AND SCREAMING....
Swaddling with arms IN helps sometimes...though she does fight it (though the more we do it - the less struggle there is)....do it within an inch of their lives....
the white noise is HUGE - Emma will be LOSING it - my back will be aching from holding her and i'll go to the sound machine and her eyes almost immediately get heavy (though when i need it most - they don't)... if you don't have a machine - turn on the radio to static - use the vacuum near him, hair dryer...anything that's LOUDER than the sound of him screaming/crying...that's the KEY - it has to be louder than he is - or he won't hear it...
many many and again - remember you are NOT alone - i personally had a horrifying morning and am just coming out of the fog of it all...
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
that was my baby. I went insane.
I think I made the mistake of never wanting to co-sleep, I was adament about routine and not having bad habits.
Me and DH fought for 8 mos. I was beyond exhasted. We should have just brought him into bed with us.
sorry, its not forever.
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
I don't have any advice because what you just described is EXACTLY what I am going through. My DD is one week old and is doing the same thing at night. I will feed her, she will fall asleep in my arms, I will put her down in the bassinet and 3 minutes later she is crying and I have to pick her up and start the process all over again. And like you said sometimes I will do this for like 2 hours which pushes us into the next feeding.
I will say that my DD did fight the swaddle for a couple of days, but just in the last two days she is laying still when we put it on, and isn't fighting anymore. So definitely keep trying with that.
If you ever need anyone to talk to who is going through similar stages, I'm here!
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nov04libride
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
thanks evryone, glad to know i am not alone. if anyone wants to FM at 3/4 AM, i am here!
i'll try swaddling again....anything to get some sleep... dh is no help from 10PM on while he is working, so it's all me, and i just sit there rocking him and crying.
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
that was me, rocking and crying.
hating when he would fall asleep with a slightly poopy diaper that I would have to change
one night I got my shoes on and started out the door, I was going to beg the lady next door, I did not even know her name!, to just hold him for 15 minutes......
I knew she was a smoker, that's the only thing that stopped me.
not having anyone to pass them off to is a horrible feeling.
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Swaddle + swing + alcohol (for you).
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| Posted 7/9/09 4:24 PM |
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Will he take a paci? Try the swaddle real tight and calm him with a paci
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Beth - do you have a papasan swing? We used to put Lily in that to fall asleep...then let her sleep in there for a few hours before we transferred her to the crib. Worked like a charm for 8 months!
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| Posted 7/9/09 4:51 PM |
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
it's rough.... hopefully you'll find something that works for you.
Couple of suggestions.. Swaddle, paci, white noise machine/fan, sleep positioner, classical music.
Good luck... I hope you get some soon!
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Posted by nov04libride
thanks evryone, glad to know i am not alone. if anyone wants to FM at 3/4 AM, i am here!
i'll try swaddling again....anything to get some sleep... dh is no help from 10PM on while he is working, so it's all me, and i just sit there rocking him and crying.
I did the same thing a couple of mornings...she would be crying and I would be crying along with her. Swaddling was the key for DD....she slept so much better with it. That and a sleep positioner so that she felt enclosed.
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
If DS does that, i bring him to bed with us. I didn't want to do it and was really against it. But, it works like a charm. I fear that I may regret this one day.
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Posted by nov04libride
I've tried swaddling, and he fights it and cries to get his arms out. Swaddling just the legs didn't seem to do anything.
Do they usually fight the swaddling?
Yes they do! DS fought the swaddling too at first. Now he doesn't mind it. Sometimes he kicks or tries to get his arms out but I find that the swaddling works well at night.
I swaddle DS and use a sleep positioner. I also play a white noise CD and that seems to work. It will definitely get better I promise. Now at a month older DS is much better at sleeping than he was a couple of weeks ago. Hang in there.
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
We got enormous relief from The Happiest Baby on the Block DVD. It's Dr. Harvey Karp and I swear I would kiss him if I ever met him. Swaddling is a huge part of his thing but also shushing and the side hold. I strongly recommend checking it out of the library or picking up a copy. It literally saved my life, my dh's, and our marriage!
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Re: Newborn moms...desperate, need advice...
Definitely swaddle - and do so tightly - that helps. DD was doing that for a while - waking some nights every 45 mins to BF - not fun when you have a 2 year old to take care of the next day who doesn't want to nap any more.
DD fights being swaddled but after about 2 mins she gets very relaxed. My DD (and DD#1 also) has reflux and bad colic. My DH sleeps thru it all at night so I'm up all alone for all the feedings.
It is VERY hard when they don't sleep at night and you are alone to care for them. Can you feed your DC then put them in the swing? This way you can get some sleep even if he is awake for a while before falling back down.
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