Re: Observation about the Parenting board lately

Of course eveyone has a right to their opinions. THAT is a given. And if someone here ASKS for one, they should be prepared for anything.

BUT..i have to say, if the person ISN"T asking for an OPINION, maybe keep it to yourself.

I was offended by the "horrendous" comment. The thread asked WHAT WOULD YOU DO. Not what do you think of those that disagree with your opinion. IMO it was unnecessary. And proves to why people feel badly about their parenting choices.

Yes that thread was HIGHLY personal. And at this point i am wishing i didn't bother posting on it. BUT i do not know the person who wrote it, and maybe she is or someone she knows is in that situation and needs help. Well calling someone horrendous or the to the people that answered as such, IMO is just sad.

I would think that calling people names is just something i would avoid and would hope others would too.

No we don't have to like everyone, that would never happen. But, and this is just a thought here, if you don't like the poster, DON"T POST ON THEIR THREADS, Don't answer their questions, instead of answering with a rude tone. Making the person feel like an idiot for asking the question. Because just because you don't like the person, doesn't mean the question isn't in need of advice and support. Even if it was asked yesterday by someone else.
I would venture to guess that EVERY single poster here posted a repeat thread.

I personally don't mind when people bump posts that answer the question i asked. I find it just as helpful. But i have seen (although not experienced personally) the rude like comments that go with that.

jmO

ETA: just the other day i was in a really bad place, scared of another illness and thought i was going to lose it. I posted here for support. I let it sta for a bit and got some WONDERFULLY supportive FMs. But i took the post down. Thinking people here would just look at and say "oh jeez there she goes again whining". And i knew if i saw someone post something rude at that point, i would have lost it.

Message edited 6/1/2008 9:32:07 AM.

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Other than the bf/ff posts I haven't seen much judgment thrown around RECENTLY.

I didn't find the word "horrendous" offending at all (for the record I posted that I would abort a confirmed diagnosis). Obviously anyone who is pro-life would vehemently disagree with a post about abortion. I don't know if it was a random question or an actual concern on the OP's part. If she was struggling with a decision, the word horrendous would have been hurtful. However, the reality of it is pro-lifers believe it is a horrible act. I happen to know & adore the OP & her son. I also know that she has the intelligence to recognize that as a hot topic some people are going to feel very strongly & post their feelings.

I do agree that this board is for support and that there is a way to answer in disagreeing with a poster while still offering support. There are always going to be responses that are going to be stronger than others because people feel strongly about subjects (pro-life for example). They don't have to be downright rude - which is why I rarely respond to posters that I don't like or want to smack upside the head.
This board is Parenting. Personally I would not want to whack a person with a baby in their arms anyway.

Message edited 6/1/2008 9:54:30 AM.

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Ok, so lets not discuss...God, BF, FF and dogs in stores...

Agreed?

Ok...moving on.

Re: Observation about the Parenting board lately

Posted by Stefanie

Ok, so lets not discuss...God, BF, FF and dogs in stores...

Agreed?

Ok...moving on.

Re: Observation about the Parenting board lately

To be honest, I have been picking and choosing what I have been posting and responding too lately. I understand that this is a community board and when writing over the internet sometimes your point doesnt come across necessarily the way you want it to or someone reading what you wrote may not interpret it the way you meant it, KWIM? When reading posts and responding, I take that into consideration, whereas I dont think some do and can be a little harsh at times. I have said many times before, I am not going to form opinions of people I "know" over the internet...I would rather meet them and get to know them in person before I make up my mind...but not everyone feels the same. There are a lot of great moms and woman on here, some I have become good friends with IRL. I understand we are all different, have different opinions, different ideas and I except people for their differences. I tend to think I am a very open-minded person and think you need to be on these types of boards.

I love these boards and the great people on here. It is great to know that if I dont know how to do something or have a question regarding DS I can come on here and ask and will get advice and help from others moms who have been there. I like to know that I can help people and ease their minds when they are going through a tough situation as well. I like these boards b/c people are able to voice their opinions, share their stories and ideas...I just wish people weren't judged as often as they are...but then again, I guess it's part of human nature.

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This isn't a utopia....people will respond and give their opinion and sometimes others won't like it.....but I would much rather this board be real than fake fluff anyday

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I would love to hear others opinions..esp if they are Different from mine..this way I can have an opportunity to learn something

but, you are right...sometimes it gets out of hand and the drama starts...no need for that

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this is soo well said! I for one ask a question and see that no one or very few answer me when other posts have 20 + replies.. that frustrates me. I also notice that a topic like mine gets posted and that post gets more replies I feel like people dont like me on here and not sure why. But that is just how I feel and I keep posting becasue I enjoy the information that comes with this site.

I do feel we all should be kind and I know I come across strong at times and I try not to.

We have to remember that posts can be misinterpreted bc we dont hear the person talking. So we have to take it like it is and go with it.

i enjoy LIF and have made freinds on here also. I just want everyone to get along and be there for one another,

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I don't really notice drama unless it's very obvious. I usually view the posts as their opinion and nothing more. I respect that everyone has a right to their own opinion.

I have noticed a few posts all over the boards that make me because it's blatantly obvious what the OP wants people to say/think.