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I do have to say there is about 1 day in maybe 2 months where I'll say, ugh I hate this and want to stay at home w/DD, cook, clean, etc...but its a passing feeling

Plus when I'm home w/DD for a long period of time I feel like I need a break...even just a drive or going to the store etc

Plus when I see DD again, I feel mentally refreshed and all excited to see her...I love that!

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Awesome, I can vent. well here it is I HATE MY JOB! I despise what I do now.
I wanna be home so bad, I miss my baby all day! I wish I didn't have to work but financially we have no choice.....I count the days and minutes until the school year is over!!!! Thank goodness I have off the next two days Im so sick of this place!!!! Thank you so much I feel much better now.

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Message edited 11/4/2009 1:54:52 PM.

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Posted by davenjess

Posted by babyonthebrain

Awesome, I can vent. well here it is I HATE MY JOB! I despise what I do now.
I wanna be home so bad, I miss my baby all day! I wish I didn't have to work but financially we have no choice.....I count the days and minutes until the school year is over!!!! Thank goodness I have off the next two days Im so sick of this place!!!! Thank you so much I feel much better now.

i hear you so loudly & clear that i sincerely teared up reading your post.... i just counted today - i have 21 photos of emma in my office...and i just feel so horrible...

i don't hate it here....i don't mind my job - it allows me to be online all day, chatting with you girls....but i miss my baby...i miss our cuddle time on the couch... last night - she fell asleep in her swing and i decided to nap. i woke up to her crying - and i picked her up - cuddled with her on the couch and she fell asleep - and i then fell aslep too - because just listening to her tiny baby breath is so calming...

and now i can't stop crying..

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I've been working from home 2 wks PP and go into the office 1 day a week. I'm going back to work in the office full time after 12 weeks. I don't know how I'm going to handle being away from him.
ETA: My parents watch him 1 day a week. When I go back to work he will be in day care the other 4 days a week.

Message edited 11/4/2009 1:57:34 PM.

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OMG!!! SOOOO happy about this thread getting started! I feel your pain. I am going back to work and leaving my 2 girls.... UGH. The thought of it turns my stomach. They will both be in daycare for 1/2 days and my MIL for the rest of the day. I will be picking them both up at 1pm everyday and I am going to treasure that hour I have w/ them before I go back to work.

to all you working moms!! It is very hard to balance and you all deserve a toast!!

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Posted by browneyedgirl

Posted by babyonthebrain

Awesome, I can vent. well here it is I HATE MY JOB! I despise what I do now.
I wanna be home so bad, I miss my baby all day! I wish I didn't have to work but financially we have no choice.....I count the days and minutes until the school year is over!!!!.

i hear you loud and clear!!!

i HATE HATE HATE working with a passion and want nothing more than to be home with DS. if one more person says to me "well you have the summer of" i seriously will scream. i usually have a snarky comeback to it, but it's worse when it comes from someone who IS home with their kids or who was home with their kids when they were babies.

no one who is home can possibly understand what it's like working when you don't want to. i think it's great that some people love working, but for me, i hate every second of it.

i need to win the lotto

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Posted by prncsslehcar

As a full-time working mom who likes it that way, I will definitely suggest looking at it from the angle of all the good things that come from being a working mom. What other choice is there? To be miserable over something you can't change? Perspective is a very strong thing, so here are some things that I personally LOVE about being a working mom:

I love that I have time to myself to drink coffee in the morning without feeling guilty. I sit at my desk and bs with my girlfriends for a few minutes each morning.

I love that I can use the bathroom without someone opening the door or screaming for me.

I love that I can stop at the store on the way home without having to lug her in and out of the car.

I love that I can play a game on my computer when I have a few minutes of downtime and not feel guilty that I'm ignoring her.


I love that she's formed bonds with other people besides me and learned to trust other people besides me.

I love that she is independent and knows that when I leave, I will always return.

I love that our time together is never taken for granted because we know how precious it is.

I love that I get a paycheck that I have worked for and earned.

I love my job, period.

I love interacting with other adults in my field and having good discussions on a daily basis about my field.

I could go on, but my point is, it's all how you look at it.
I know it's hard, I really, really do. But I also know that it's good, too. You just have to look for the positives sometimes, even when it's hard to.

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DD is almost 15 months & I went to PT 3 weeks ago. I wouldn't work at all if it wouldn't make life much harder to not work. I am lucky that DH is home a lot during the day but his shifts change (he is NYPD) & with me being in retail the FT full flex wasn't working for us. He was the one with her most of the time & many days I went to work miserable. It got to the point where she would cry if I tried to take her from DH. People said it was a phase but it lasted more than 6 months until I stepped down from my mgmt position & went PT. it's been 3 weeks and I started seeing a change after just about a week of being home more. This is almost definitely (definitely .......almost) my last baby (my others are 16 & 13) & I want to savor every last drop of her. This means that we "sacrifice" some of the things that we thought we had to have but it's not a sacrifice at all for me when I pick her up & she puts her head down on my shoulder or i sit on the floor & she immediately snuggles up on my lap. It's worth the money I am giving up.

That being said, I have a picture of her on my apron i wear at work & it drums up a lot of convo about her. Everyone I work with knows her & asks about her & my others so I get to talk about them a lot & her pic is my BBerry wallpaper! Sometimes on the weekends when I work a full shift her dad will bring her by for a visit or to have lunch!

Working FT was very hard with our schedules, especially when I was nursing. I don't miss the hours

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What a great thread! I just found this.

I really enjoy my job as well and I am fortunate that I have a lot of flexibility and DS gets to bond with his grandparents and younger baby cousins while I am at work.

He also is unbelievably independent now and he never went through a phase of seperation anxiety.

I feel that personally, working provides me the best of both worlds. I can still interact with adults and do work that I enjoy, I am paid quite well for what I do which means I can get DS the things that he needs as well as save $$$$ for his future. Since I have flexibility at my job, I can still spend a lot of time with DS, but also get the "break" that I need from him.

I thought I would love to be a SAHM but when I was on maternity leave, I was going absolutely nuts and had to get back to work. I went back when he was only about a month & a 1/2 old by choice.

I also take great pride with the amount of things I can handle in my life, including being a F/T working mom.

Message edited 11/12/2009 11:02:17 PM.

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bumping for Mia

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this is supposed to get easier - right???

i'm having a BAD BAD day....i just want to go and hug her... i was editing some pics of her while at work (something i do a LOT - i have oodles of downtime)...and today it just hit me... i miss her.

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Today is a bad one for me also. DD has been sick since Sunday with a mild fever (like 99-100) and a runny nose, no other symptoms. It has been so stressful trying to figure our work schedules in order to keep her home. I pray she is feeling better tonight, but then I just worry about what she will pick up again from daycare. It seems to be a never ending cycle. We get 1, maybe 2 weeks of things going smoothly, then bam.

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I like working - I like getting up in the morning and getting dressed up and trekking into the city and all that comes with it -

I like going out w/ my DH and bringing Sean along, I like going out w/ DH and leaving Sean w/ Grandma -

I like getting out w/ my friends and bringing Sean to play w/ their kids, and I like getting out w/ my friends when EVERYONE's kids are w/ Grandma !!

I like having a life that is not 100% baby, 100% of the time.

I LOVE my son, I LOVE my husband - but I wouldnt' be any good to either of them if I never got a break from being Mommy -

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I love this thread

I have tons of pics of him on my computer and desk

Im lucky as I only work 4 days a week (but its from 730 am - 530 pm) Im home all day with him on Wednesdays by myself.

I do like working though. I need that adult interaction! lol But we need it financially so there is no way I could stay home. I wish I could though. He is growing up so fast and I feel like I am missing so much!

DH gets home about 630-7 and Seamus goes to bed around 730 so he hardly gets anytime with him during the week. DH has to catch a train at 625 every morning and I am the one who gets Seamus up, dresses him, takes him to daycare or my parents, etc

Its SO hard. Plus on the days we come home from daycare, I have to make him dinner and by the time that is done, he is only awake for another half an hour! I cant keep him up longer because we leave the house at 630 every morning and I always have to wake him up to leave. I feel horrible about that :( Luckily he makes up for sleep on the weekends

DH INSISTS on getting up with him on Sat & Sun and lets me sleep another hour to hour and a hlaf. He says its their time together and he cherishes it

But I DO enjoy the way his face lights up when I pick him up at my parents and at daycare. He yells MaMa, MaMa and comes running at me. It just makes me melt!!

Message edited 12/3/2009 3:34:47 PM.

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I am a FT working mom, and I have a relatively demanding and stressful job, so my days are long. We are out the door by 8am (not too bad), and then I'm not home until 6:30 (ugh).

Weeknights are toughest. I walk in, and its time to feed Jake, make dinner for us, and do bedtime all within 2 hours.

Weekends are our time together. He is still young, so I do take him whereever I need to go.

I try to simplify the rest of my life by doing things like peapod, extra dry cleaning, cleaning service and take out. We spend extra $ for all of these things, but at least I know my job is alllowing us to have a comfortable lifestlye.

At the end of the day, although I am not the person he sees most (which is the HARDEST part), I think I am still the person he LOVES most (which is the BEST part).

We're moms, and I think they love us almost as unconditionally as we love them.

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Posted by prncsslehcar

As a full-time working mom who likes it that way, I will definitely suggest looking at it from the angle of all the good things that come from being a working mom. What other choice is there? To be miserable over something you can't change? Perspective is a very strong thing, so here are some things that I personally LOVE about being a working mom:

I love that I have time to myself to drink coffee in the morning without feeling guilty. I sit at my desk and bs with my girlfriends for a few minutes each morning.

I love that I can use the bathroom without someone opening the door or screaming for me.

I love that I can stop at the store on the way home without having to lug her in and out of the car.

I love that I can play a game on my computer when I have a few minutes of downtime and not feel guilty that I'm ignoring her.


I love that she's formed bonds with other people besides me and learned to trust other people besides me.

I love that she is independent and knows that when I leave, I will always return.

I love that our time together is never taken for granted because we know how precious it is.

I love that I get a paycheck that I have worked for and earned.

I love my job, period.

I love interacting with other adults in my field and having good discussions on a daily basis about my field.

I could go on, but my point is, it's all how you look at it.
I know it's hard, I really, really do. But I also know that it's good, too. You just have to look for the positives sometimes, even when it's hard to.

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Posted by browneyedgirl

Posted by babyonthebrain

Awesome, I can vent. well here it is I HATE MY JOB! I despise what I do now.
I wanna be home so bad, I miss my baby all day! I wish I didn't have to work but financially we have no choice.....I count the days and minutes until the school year is over!!!!.

i hear you loud and clear!!!

i HATE HATE HATE working with a passion and want nothing more than to be home with DS. if one more person says to me "well you have the summer of" i seriously will scream. i usually have a snarky comeback to it, but it's worse when it comes from someone who IS home with their kids or who was home with their kids when they were babies.

no one who is home can possibly understand what it's like working when you don't want to. i think it's great that some people love working, but for me, i hate every second of it.

i need to win the lotto

Message edited 12/26/2009 4:44:59 PM.

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bumping!

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I work full time and went back after DS was only 3 months old - I cried the first couple of days. however, I love my job. I miss DS terribly, but I am not so sure I would be content staying at home every day. P/T would be perfect, but not available in my position. I think the hard part for me is juggling everything - dr's appointment, shopping, errands, etc. When DS is sick, he can't go to daycare and I have to take off from work - very difficult. i wish it was just easier.

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I was home for the first time since my maternity leave with DS - just him and I. He was sick, very phlemy and double ear infection. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. On Monday I did not know if I would survive the week. But I did. There were moments I thought I might kill my DS, but the were short lived. By the end of the week, I thought I wouldn't wait to go back to work, but you know I wanted to stay home, even though life was ten times harder staying home. Now I am back trying to get use to the grind. Picking DS up at 6 and him being seriously cranky and overly tired as I try to feed, bathe and put him to bed by 7. I missed the really happy side of him I saw during the day, now that time is spent at daycare. Yeah its suppose to get easier and I guess it many ways it has, but it some very real ways it's still very hard.