Ok... another breakdown! (long)

Well, not really a breakdown, but I had a nice cry last night. I actually felt better afterwards. At least emotionally.

I am just sooooo overwhelmed with what has to get done before the baby comes. I'm trying to tell myself that it will get done, but in the reality of it, I don't see how? We're in the process of painting the living room, big project because it's a big room, then I have to clean my room and the room where the baby will be. I need to make room in my room for stuff from the baby's room, then we have to paint the baby's room. I was originally suppose to be painting my son's room and my room as well. I know that's not going to happen anytime soon! Then I have to decorate the baby's room. Don't forget clean the rest of the house. Clean the carpets, couch and loveseat. There is just too many things to do and not enough time. I work 2 jobs, my DH works 2 jobs, we have a 2.5 yr old and 2 big dogs. It's just sooo overwhelming for me right now. I'm trying to get stuff done but physically when I'm done with something I'm very achey and the next day I'm just plain exhausted.... like today!

I've tried to explain to my DH and my mom (only one's here to help) that this needs to get done before the baby comes and this was back in March. Everyone kept making excuses, etc., and procrastinating and now I'm the one who's paying for it. I told them this was going to happen, and that was what I was trying to avoid. Waiting until the last minute for everything!!! I just can't do it! Emotionally and physically I can't! I'm a lot more achey and uncomfortable so much earlier on than I was with Caiden. It's so different the 2nd time around. I guess it doesn't help that my belly was already measuring at 39 weeks when I was only 33 weeks last week. My DH keeps saying and acting like he's soooo exhausted from working so much! I'm tired of hearing it! I work FT and PT and taking care of my son and I still have to find time to try to do things. Why can't he? Anyway, sorry to vent for so long. I just needed to get it out. Thanks for listening and I'm sorry if I bored anyone!!!

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Sorry you are feeling this way. I think we have all felt what you are feeling. Have you tried making a list of all the things you would like done before the baby comes and then prioritize it? This way you can start with just one task and cross it off the list, then go to the next one. It may not seem so overwhelming when you have it written out and a plan.

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I am soo sorry you are feeling like this

Make a list, put everything on there that needs to get done. Put the list into categories relating to priority and them ASSIGN them to people!

Put that list on the fridge, and cross things off as they get done. When you cross things off you feel such a feelingn of accomplishment. AND everyone in the house can see what needs to be done, and who is responsible for it, instead of just hearing you tell them about it.



If the less priorities don't get done before the baby is born, they will be done sooner or later.

Try to take it easy, you are wayyy pg, you need to rest and take care of yourself and that little one

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First:

I am not even in your situation & I'm already starting to feel overwhelmed too.

I agree w/ everyone- make a list and assign.... just keep in mind if somethings don't get done b/f baby- that is OK too- the most important thing baby needs is YOU!

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So sorry this is happening to you.

I agree with the list suggestion. We moved into a house at the end of June, and I'm due the 22nd of this month. I made a list of all the house stuff we had to do. It makes it so much easier, and it's so nice to cross stuff off!! Good luck and hang in there!

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I am so sorry! Definitely try to delegate things for people to do. I totally know how you feel. MY DH is the biggest procrastinator in the world and I'm the one trying to get everything done. Sometimes I feel like he is working against me.

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Thanks!!!

I'll give it a try. I don't know if it'll work though! I definitely feel like I'm the only one trying to get things done! MEN!!!

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I don't have any advice, just

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i am so sorry

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I agree that a list and assigning projects will help.

I'd concentrate on the baby's room. The living room, cleaning the couch, etc. can all be done after the baby's here. JMO.

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No offense at all but your DH needs to get off his azz-not only are you working the SAME amt of jobs he is but you are carrying around an extra person and taking primary care of your son. I have read your posts before and I really feel for you. I would suggest you break up your tasks-do you ave any friends that can help you? Good luck!

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Posted by FelAndJon

I don't have any advice, just

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I don't really know your money situation but maybe DH, mom, whoever can chip in and hire a cleaning person to come in and help you get all of this done. You can even put an ad on craigslist and list what you need done and how much you are willing to pay. I am sure someone will answer.