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Stacey1403
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
I don't get why Boosh was invited. It is weird. I am thinking the girl doesn't have many friends or something. Very irrational to get upset with you for this. Don't get it at all. Even though you have to deal with her at work I would start to distance myself from her she sound like a loon.
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J9-13
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by chikita315
I don't think it's the female psyche as much as your friend being a little needy.
Does she have many female friends?
Maybe she was hoping to turn you two into "couple friends"?
yeah...I have to agree. Also sounds like since she was mad at the world over her shower, your DW got thrown into the mix. Weddings can be an emotional time for a woman especially when you are faced with the reality that some people who you thought you could count on, don't come through. She is just going through a rough patch and took it out on you and your wife. I don't think it is personal at all. She is just upset over the whole thing.
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| Posted 8/1/07 2:54 PM |
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lilacwine
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by lilacwine
decline due to the conflict.
If you're really interested in making her feel better, you could take the co-worker and fiancee out to dinner sometime between now and the wedding.
for the crap she's putting me through - she should be taking ME out
well, yeah. But she's the bride; it's all about her!  
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| Posted 8/1/07 2:55 PM |
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J9-13
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
i feel like recording soundbites of being all mad at me
and add in the voiceover:
COMING UP NEXT ON BRIIIIIIIIIDDDDEEEEEZILLAS!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Posted 8/1/07 2:57 PM |
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J9-13
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
i feel like recording soundbites of being all mad at me
and add in the voiceover:
COMING UP NEXT ON BRIIIIIIIIIDDDDEEEEEZILLAS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Haaaaaaaaa........I tell ya....sounds like it would make a great episode.
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| Posted 8/1/07 3:05 PM |
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Kara
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Well, it's obvious WHY she doesn't have many friends now...
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| Posted 8/1/07 3:07 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
she's still moping back and forth 
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| Posted 8/1/07 5:19 PM |
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beautyq115
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by chikita315
I don't think it's the female psyche as much as your friend being a little needy.
Does she have many female friends?
Maybe she was hoping to turn you two into "couple friends"?
Totally agree! How could she expect your wife who she has met only twice to come to this shower? As you said this girl is your friend, your wife hardly knows the woman and not to mention it is far away!
I bet she was pi$$ed with the turn out, needed a scapegoat and sorry to say it was you! That is my take on it. This has nothing to with your wife at all.
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| Posted 8/1/07 5:26 PM |
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beautyq115
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
i feel like recording soundbites of being all mad at me
and add in the voiceover:
COMING UP NEXT ON BRIIIIIIIIIDDDDEEEEEZILLAS!!!!!!!!!!!!
OMG...wonder if she applied to be on the show Maybe that is why is is ******...she got rejected from bridezillas
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| Posted 8/1/07 5:27 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by beautyq115
Posted by chikita315
I don't think it's the female psyche as much as your friend being a little needy.
Does she have many female friends?
Maybe she was hoping to turn you two into "couple friends"?
Totally agree! How could she expect your wife who she has met only twice to come to this shower? As you said this girl is your friend, your wife hardly knows the woman and not to mention it is far away!
I bet she was pi$$ed with the turn out, needed a scapegoat and sorry to say it was you! That is my take on it. This has nothing to with your wife at all.
I agree...and hey, maybe there's an underlying reason why she didn't have alot of friends show...hmmmnn, because she acts like a big baby and that the world revolves around her?  I think you guys acted above and beyond by sending gifts, etc. She's a co-worker, not your BFF.
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| Posted 8/1/07 5:29 PM |
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munchkinbugs
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
I think she sounds a little psycho to be honest. I would not have even invited your wife...they barely know each other. And it most certainly wouldn't bother me if she didn't come...I would completely understand.
It sounds like there is something else bothering her, whether it's you or something else in her life.
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| Posted 8/1/07 5:33 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
After reading through the whole post, I would now email her and say 'Honestly, you need to vent about your friends, fine, but don't take it out on me, or I won't want to be your friend either. Now get over it, get over here so I can hug you (or pat you on the back if you feel better) and move on!!!!!'
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| Posted 8/1/07 6:14 PM |
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DebG
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
I was watching The View one day (did you hear? Whoopie Goldburg is going to be on the show now  ) and there was a story about how women turn a little nuts and quite selfish around thier wedding. Apparently we get tunnel vision and become irrational
Honestly, you guys don't sound that close and I would not expect an invite to either the shower or the bp. Odd, very odd. This would make me re-think my relationship with her and I would probably not persue anything further.
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| Posted 8/1/07 6:30 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
I think this is still your friend. You like her, no? (as a friend) So forget about all the "shes crazy, nutty etc...". Bottom line...she was hurt. Not by you or boosh but by everyone. Why? bc she had an expectation and it wasnt fulfilled. Me personnaly...I would feel bad. I would feel bad tht my friend was crushed the way she was crushed. I am feeling that maybe this post was written because she made you feel guilty bc you do genuinely feel bad for her. What kind of friend wouldnt. I think you need to take those feelings of what did I do wrong and change them into a positive by thinking "how can I make her feel better". She is crushed! Again, not by you but by everyone. Also, I think boosh was invited probably bc she doesnt have a considerable amount of friends. I know you are probably not angry by how she is acting but rather confused. Give it some time. Maybe tommorrow say to her "Look, i am sorry that this happened to you...I might have been upset myself". Right now its not about you. In fact you werent invited anyhow. Your wife has every right to decline. Give it a week...she will be laughing and joking with you in no time.
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Moehick
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
You didn't do anything wrong
This girl has a lot of emotional baggage that has nothing to do with you but women tend to at times take things out on the wrong person
She will eventually come around when she takes a step back and directs her feelings in the right direction
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| Posted 8/1/07 6:37 PM |
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by stephanief
she has some misplaced resentment about her shower and it taking it out on you....I would not lose sleep over it, she sounds a little nutty, IMHO 
what she said!
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| Posted 8/1/07 6:50 PM |
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sami
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Come on now really ..she met your wife twice..okay maybe she was just trying to be nice...whatever......but now you get invited to the bachelor party they sound very needy! they both need to get a grip!
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by PrincessP
I think this is still your friend. You like her, no? (as a friend) So forget about all the "shes crazy, nutty etc...". Bottom line...she was hurt. Not by you or boosh but by everyone. Why? bc she had an expectation and it wasnt fulfilled. Me personnaly...I would feel bad. I would feel bad tht my friend was crushed the way she was crushed. I am feeling that maybe this post was written because she made you feel guilty bc you do genuinely feel bad for her. What kind of friend wouldnt. I think you need to take those feelings of what did I do wrong and change them into a positive by thinking "how can I make her feel better". She is crushed! Again, not by you but by everyone. Also, I think boosh was invited probably bc she doesnt have a considerable amount of friends. I know you are probably not angry by how she is acting but rather confused. Give it some time. Maybe tommorrow say to her "Look, i am sorry that this happened to you...I might have been upset myself". Right now its not about you. In fact you werent invited anyhow. Your wife has every right to decline. Give it a week...she will be laughing and joking with you in no time.
this is a great point of view - thank you. But, I did everything you said. When she told me yesterday, I told her that I was sorry she was hurt.
I genuinely felt bad and I tried to make her feel better.
All attempts have been fruitless. Now, we're to the point that she's talking to others in the office, except me. Even though she said she was more upset at the situation than me. If that's the case, she should be OK talking to me.
I play doormat for NO ONE. I felt bad yesterday, still felt kinda bad today. But she's pushing it now.
She may come around and decide to be friendly - only this time, I may not be receptive. This wedding stress crap only goes a certain limit with me.
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| Posted 8/1/07 7:28 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by PrincessP
I think this is still your friend. You like her, no? (as a friend) So forget about all the "shes crazy, nutty etc...". Bottom line...she was hurt. Not by you or boosh but by everyone. Why? bc she had an expectation and it wasnt fulfilled. Me personnaly...I would feel bad. I would feel bad tht my friend was crushed the way she was crushed. I am feeling that maybe this post was written because she made you feel guilty bc you do genuinely feel bad for her. What kind of friend wouldnt. I think you need to take those feelings of what did I do wrong and change them into a positive by thinking "how can I make her feel better". She is crushed! Again, not by you but by everyone. Also, I think boosh was invited probably bc she doesnt have a considerable amount of friends. I know you are probably not angry by how she is acting but rather confused. Give it some time. Maybe tommorrow say to her "Look, i am sorry that this happened to you...I might have been upset myself". Right now its not about you. In fact you werent invited anyhow. Your wife has every right to decline. Give it a week...she will be laughing and joking with you in no time.
this is a great point of view - thank you. But, I did everything you said. When she told me yesterday, I told her that I was sorry she was hurt.
I genuinely felt bad and I tried to make her feel better.
All attempts have been fruitless. Now, we're to the point that she's talking to others in the office, except me. Even though she said she was more upset at the situation than me. If that's the case, she should be OK talking to me.
I play doormat for NO ONE. I felt bad yesterday, still felt kinda bad today. But she's pushing it now.
She may come around and decide to be friendly - only this time, I may not be receptive. This wedding stress crap only goes a certain limit with me.
I guarantee if you ignore it and dont go out of your way to pay attention to it...it will stop. BUT IMO...when she comes back...dont hold a grudge. She sounds like she needs friends like you. She just doesnt know how to act socially appropriate and honestly...shes not the first. I meet these kinds of people every day. Its kind of the borderline type personality. They see it black or they see it white. There is never an in between. But by no means should you be abused by one. Be friends with her because you want to. But you are not to be held hostage to her wedding/shower plans nor should your wife. If you like her be there for her but I agree with you...dont play her doormat.
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PrincessP
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Oh I also wanted to add that i DO NOT think you should go to his bachelor party. Like you said you dont know him so why would you go. IMO...if you went you would be held hostage to her behavior. Go to her wedding and have fun!
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| Posted 8/1/07 7:35 PM |
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by PrincessP
Oh I also wanted to add that i DO NOT think you should go to his bachelor party. Like you said you dont know him so why would you go. IMO...if you went you would be held hostage to her behavior. Go to her wedding and have fun!
i have no plans on it
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MelToddJulia
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by Jessica
hmmmm im going through a rough wedding process especially with my shower
almost all my close friends and more than have the family have declined
I am upset at them but would not if a coworker declined.
She might just be upset at the whole situation and not just you but shes being a child by taking it out on you
that's just it
I GET her being upset that her friends didn't show
but how can you be upset about a co-worker's wife who you met twice
and to answer the other question - I wasn't invited
I think she was just taking it out on you and was upset your wife didn't go to her shower because so little people showed up including her friends, if she had a BIG a$$ shower and lots of girls went, she probably wouldn't of even missed your wife she only met twice!
I would give her a little more time to cool off......I'm sure she was just a little ****** no one showed at her party, and was taking it out on everyone.
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june262004
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Re: OK, I'm just not getting it....(LONG)
I can understand her inviting Boosh.
I can understand boosh decling.
I can't understand her being pizzed about it 
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