Ok seriously, I find myself getting annoyed with DH...

He's been home with me since I gave birth and is going back to work next week. At first I loved having him home with me, but then started to get frustrated with him when he would not wake up to take turns helping to feed the baby at night. For the most part it's been me, so I told him we have to take turns at least until you go back to work, because once you do it's all on me. So he agreed. Well....DD woke up at 12:30am and 2:30am and guess who got up. Yep..ME!! First time he didn't move, second time he rubbed my back when he heard her crying, but didn't move. I got so angry with him that I stormed off to the living room and he comes out and says what's wrong? Oh NOTHING, except that I am JUST as tired as you are, and yet I am the ONLY one who gets up to feed her!!!

I guess I should get used to it, because he won't be here to help out anymore..only on his days off. So now I"m REALLY going to be a complete beotch!!!

Ok that's it..vent over.

Re: Ok seriously, I find myself getting annoyed with DH...

Hmmm, how heavy is he and how strong are you? I would have just push until my dh tumbles out of bed. And I will nurse again, but when he is not working I expect him to bring me the baby and return her to her cradle and diaper changes too. I will be recovering from a c-section so e will even have to help out sometimes in the beginning when he has work the next day. I guess I am just beotchy. But my hubby did it with my son, no complaints.

Message edited 8/25/2007 7:55:29 PM.

Re: Ok seriously, I find myself getting annoyed with DH...

I think you need to decide on who is getting up for what feeding that way you don't lay in bed and play the "lets see who caves first game" and angrily gets up with baby.

Even when my DH went back to work he still helped out at night especially with baby #2 since I had not only the baby but a two year old to take care of all day. Anyway, when my kids were newborns and infants DH would do the early evening 7ish feeding and then go to bed. I stay up to do the 11pm feeding. Then DH got up for the 2ish feeding and me for the 6ish. That way we both got an equal chunk of sleep and each knew what their time slot was.

I would try that approach...set a schedule of who does what including making bottles. etc.

Everything is 50/50 in our house as far as the kids, chores, etc. We started that from the beginning and now almost three years later, it still holds true.

Not sure what your DH's work schedule is, but ever since my son was a baby, DH always gave him his evening bath. Now he manages two in the tub!

Re: Ok seriously, I find myself getting annoyed with DH...

Posted by ddunne2

I think you need to decide on who is getting up for what feeding that way you don't lay in bed and play the "lets see who caves first game" and angrily gets up with baby.

Even when my DH went back to work he still helped out at night especially with baby #2 since I had not only the baby but a two year old to take care of all day. Anyway, when my kids were newborns and infants DH would do the early evening 7ish feeding and then go to bed. I stay up to do the 11pm feeding. Then DH got up for the 2ish feeding and me for the 6ish. That way we both got an equal chunk of sleep and each knew what their time slot was.

I would try that approach...set a schedule of who does what including making bottles. etc.

Everything is 50/50 in our house as far as the kids, chores, etc. We started that from the beginning and now almost three years later, it still holds true.

Not sure what your DH's work schedule is, but ever since my son was a baby, DH always gave him his evening bath. Now he manages two in the tub!

Re: Ok seriously, I find myself getting annoyed with DH...

Posted by ddunne2

I think you need to decide on who is getting up for what feeding that way you don't lay in bed and play the "lets see who caves first game" and angrily gets up with baby.

Even when my DH went back to work he still helped out at night especially with baby #2 since I had not only the baby but a two year old to take care of all day. Anyway, when my kids were newborns and infants DH would do the early evening 7ish feeding and then go to bed. I stay up to do the 11pm feeding. Then DH got up for the 2ish feeding and me for the 6ish. That way we both got an equal chunk of sleep and each knew what their time slot was.

I would try that approach...set a schedule of who does what including making bottles. etc.

Everything is 50/50 in our house as far as the kids, chores, etc. We started that from the beginning and now almost three years later, it still holds true.

Not sure what your DH's work schedule is, but ever since my son was a baby, DH always gave him his evening bath. Now he manages two in the tub!