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I miss having a guilt free glass of wine and being able to jump in the car in any weather and just go!

I LOVE the look of love in the eyes of my babies ( one is 4!) when they look at me - I truly have never been as loved as I have been by my two kids ( sorry DH )

I LOVE how my 4 year old tells me I am the best mommy eDer!! and how she runs through the classroom at preschool squealing mommy mommy when I pick her up

I LOVE how my 7 month old holds my finger in his when he falls asleep and how he grabs my face with both hands and "eats" me.

I LOVE how amazing of a father my DH turned out to be .

I feel like I have a true purpose in life before whereas before this I did not.

I LOve, Love, love my life now.

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I miss sleeping in and my flat tummy

I LOVE my little boys and their faces when I pick them up from daycare. It makes all the trials of the day disappear

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miss: alone time, running, my body, less worry, sleep

BUT

that said...i wouldn't trade my kids and know that one day in the FUTURE...i will have a little bit of that back-except for the worry thing!!!!

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I miss being able to go out and grab a drink when I want (with DH or friends) - but the truth is, it was never just one or two drinks, and I do NOT miss the hangovers!

I do miss sleeping in. But I like that I have more hours in the day to get stuff done now.

I miss staying up late. But I don't miss bad late-night TV

I can't even begin to describe the depth of love I have for my son, and for my husband, especially seeing how he is with our DS. Every single teeny tiny thing he does is amazing and funny and wonderful and perfect to me, and that makes it worth allllllllll the nights of broken sleep and so many more I know will come!

My favorite thing has to be hearing his laugh and seeing him so happy when the three of us play together. Nothing beats that.

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I miss a lot of things, but I do get to indulge in them sometimes, so it's not a total loss.

There are many satisfying things about being a mother, but sometimes you want to do things for yourself too, which I think is totally healthy and needed!

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Honestly? I really don't miss anything about my "old" life! In my old life, I didn't have a house, a gorgeous little girl, the connection I now have with my husband, and honestly, we do all the same things now that we did then, only with a kid.
We were never bar people or going out kind of people, we've always been the type of people who hang out with friends at home or go to a restaurant for dinner, etc., and we do that now all the time.
I really, honestly and truly can say I miss nothing about my old life!

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Old life what is that? It's been so long ago.......


Well I do miss Fire Island on certain sunny Fridays in the summer...sigh

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I miss sleeping in.
I miss going away with our friends.


I LOVE everything about my "new" life.
I would NOT change a thing.

I love the early morning "Mommy's" and then from my DDs room the "Aaaaaahhhh Pfffft (raspberries) AaaaaH".

I LOVE our family vacations.
I LOVE our weekends together.

I LOVE watching them learn and teaching them to learn even more.

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Old life- I miss sleep. I miss being able to run out and get a mani pedi, I miss being able to read a book without passing out because I am so tired. I miss going to the gym all the time and not just when the babysitting hours coincide with DS's schedule. I miss alone time with DH. I miss having more time to groom and put myself together.

new life- I live for his laugh. My heart does flip flops every time he smiles at me and gives a hardy laugh

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I miss going out alone with DH. We can't swing a babysitter too often, so our dates are few and far between.

I also miss having time to do fun things on my own--running, bike riding, etc. I do these things sometimes, but not regularly anymore.

But I love my child, I love being a family. I adore seeing DH and his son interact. Though the con end of my list is longer than the pros, I do enjoy being a mother tremendously. It's hard to describe, though I remember people telling me this would be the greatest love I would ever know before he was born, and it's true.

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I miss going to the movies w/DH or eating dinner out late and not having to plan so much....some of the spontaneity, also SLEEP (most obvious)

I love seeing DD smile, her play, babbling....its all cute. I feel so lucky to have her!

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i miss everything old and i love everything new

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I miss:

Sleeping late
Going out to all hours (and then sleeping late )
Going away for the weekend, week, etc
Having money
Shopping
Being able to get regular manis/pedis/ hair did/etc

But I wouldn't trade being a mommy for anything. I am glad I had the chance to do all of the above. I'd rather miss it than have it everyday and wish to be mom, if that makes sense.

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sleeping through the nite
and going to dinner with DH on the weekends.

other than that so much has changed, but for the better!

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I miss:
Just getting up and going, not having to find a sitter and doing it months in advance-lol!!
My money-lol!! All my spending money goes to the kids for something.
Sleeping late because my kids, who are older still get up at 6am :0 and while I stay in bed, I can still hear them fighting-lol!!

I love:
doing things with the kids, you can be a kid too-lol!! Bringing them places, letting them discover the things we love.
The hugs and kisses and I love you's

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I sometimes think about how I miss traveling.. I haven't been out of US since before my oldest son was born. And I think about how I used to be able to blow an entire paycheck on a weekend with friends.. clothes, drinks, fine dining, gambling.. And every now and then I get nostalgic for weekends holed up in a room with a pile of books, my journal and my computer.. reading, writing, reading, writing, writing.. writing...

But now.. now I don't do any of those things. Now getting ready for a big trip does not involve picking out my cutest boots to show off in Amsterdam.. it is yelling at my husband to make sure he throws some extra string cheese in the cooler for the ride out east to pick apples. My paycheck goes to bills and any extra goes to a new pair of sneakers that Robbie's been craving or tickets to that cool 3D movie that Noah has been asking to see. My birthday parties aren't weekend long events that start on happy hour on Friday and don't end until I wake up in a strange place with a hangover and a missing bra on Monday - they are simple affairs with a small cake and 2 sets of grubby hands rushing to snatch the candles off the cake and claim the blobs of icing attached to them.

My life has substance and form. I don't know that I can explain that when I breathe.. it feels more real. I feel a sense of importance that I never felt before. I feel a sense of pride that is more than anything I had ever experienced in the life before these boys.

I am loved in a way that is impossible by these children. I am trusted and I am honored and I have this responsibility to be a better human being because of it.

I love when my boys fall into an exhausted sleep in a puppy pile of tangled arms and legs.

I love when they wake up bleary eyed and only want a few moments to sit with me quietly - little hands reaching under my shirt to feel the warmth of my belly - touching their original home with tender reverence, head resting against my heart, melting into me.

I love sitting on my deck with a pitcher of lemonade, watching them run through the yard we bought with them in mind.

I love how they have transformed my husband from a man into a father. The way he plays with them, the way he talks to them and the way he disciplines them.

I love our family dinners.. family prayer followed by silly and serious conversations.

I love to complain about their mischief. I love dragging them from pillar to post - games, practices, parties, playdates..

I love re-living my childhood with every beat of their hearts. Staring with wonder at a Praying Mantis, trying desperately to catch a butterfly, learning to find the joy in snow days filled with snowball fights, snowmen and sleds.

I loved my old life. But I am not that person anymore. I am not that Jeannie. And I love this me and this life so much that I can't even imagine going back.

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I miss just being able to jump in the car to go to the supermarket.....now it takes actual planning to get out to just get milk!

I love spontaneous hugs from my adorable little girl. I love singing in the car with Lily. I love seeing her drawings. I love so so much about my life now that I can't even describe it.

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miss--being able to come and go as I please (ie running out without thinking twice)

love--having somebody in my life that just his smile makes my day!!

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Posted by Jen2999

I dont miss much at all.

Once and a while I am envious of my friends who can make spur of the moment plans and meet for drinks etc, but other than that...everything is pretty much the same, but better!

ditto. the hardest for me is not being able to just pick up and go wherever.

...oh and i miss straight, continuous, consecutive hours of sleep.

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I miss: sleeping late, being able to just make plans and go, having lots more $$, getting silly drunk with DH and friends.

I love: seeing a mini me and mini DH playing together; hearing "I love you mommy"; watching Sesame Street; realizing what a great team my husband and I are.