Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

I'm trying to figure out how to handle father's day. Between dh, his dad, and my dad, and my 2 year old who takes a long nap right in the middle of the day, I don't know if we can get to both dad's on the day of father's day and still allow dh a little time for himself to enjoy the day with dd. Is it bad to see my dad the day before or after father's day? I feel guilty, but at the same time, it would allow us to have a more relaxing and quality visit with him, rather than rushing to get to the next place or while DD was sleeping.

Before DD, I would go see my dad while dh saw his dad, but now that we have DD, I don't want to take DD with me (since on father's day of course DH deserves to have all day with her), but I know my dad would like to see DD,so it's better to go a different day, right? Or just rush through visits with both dad's all on the same day?

What does everyone else do?

We don't have this problem for mothers day since it's just DH's mom.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

For Mothers Day and Fathers Day my Dh takes our DD to see his Mom/Dad for lunch and I go see my Mom/Dad for lunch. DD sees my parents all the time and rarely sees my MIL/FIL. Then after DH, DD and I have a family dinner just the three of us. It works out nicely.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

Usually it will be just me, DH and DD for Mother's Day and Father's Day. I do a bbq with my parents and MIL either the weekend before or the weekend after. While my MIL lives 5 minutes from us, my parents are about 30 minutes without traffic. It is easier for us this way so they are not sitting in traffic forever.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

Not usually. Once in a while we will go to my in laws for a bbq if we have nothing really planned, but it's very spur of the moment.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

Yes. This is our first year. My grandmother passed away less than a month before mother's day this year, so no one really wanted to do much of anything, but it was my first, so I still wanted to do something. We had the family over for a bbq. DH's mom is in Hong Kong, but in years passed, we've gotten together as one family, MIL with my family. This Sunday, in the morning we are going to the cemetery for DH's father (he passed away many years ago), and then as a big group we are all going to dinner with my grandfather and family. These kind of days were never big in DH's family - they didn't really celebrate annual days, only big life events, like weddings, graduations, etc. In my family, any excuse to get together and celebrate. You got straight A's again? Big dinner. It's summer? Big dinner. You get the picture. I am VERY lucky how everything works out so well and DH's family has meshed in with mine.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

BC (before child) we would see our parents separately. Last year was my first Mother's Day and it was awful. We had IL's and my mom's side of the family over and DD was hogged by everyone (she was 2m old) and I was upset that I could barely see my own baby on my first Mother's Day. So this year we spent the day just me, DH, and DD. Last year for Father's Day, my dad invited IL's to his house for a bbq and DH didn't mind but DD also wasn't hogged by everyone since they were more respectful than my family about allowing DH be with his daughter on his first Father's Day. This year were going to my dads again but IL's will be in Florida. If DH wanted to do something just us, then that's what we would do but he claims he doesn't mind.

Message edited 6/16/2015 10:59:19 AM.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

We host a BBQ for the family on father's day. Neither DH or I have a father but everyone else that is invited does. This is also how DH would like to spend his father's day.
We don't have mothers either. For mother's day, we stayed home. Since my mom passed 3 years ago, I just don't want to celebrate the day. This year I used the day to rip out some huge bushes in my backyard.

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Before kids, DH and I would usually see both of our dads on Father's Day. We'd have brunch with my family in the morning and swing by his parents later in the day.

Since having kids we either spend the day alone with the kids (this year we're going away Father's Day weekend) and see our dads another day OR sometimes I'll have everyone to our house for a BBQ. It just depends. DH and I are always together though on Father's Day, we don't separate and do our own thing.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

My Parents live in FL so I don;t see them but we see my ILs if it fits into our plans. I do't go crazy trying to see them as our immediate family is the focus now.

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Yes. I've never gotten to celebrate Mother's Day the way I wanted to.

DH plays golf or goes fishing on Father's Day and is home by the afternoon. If my father is available earlier I will see him then, if not I'm not sure what I'll do.

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Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

Our fathers arent with us but DH and i celebrate Mothers Day by doing a BBQ and inviting our mothers, cousins, aunts etc. Whoever wants to come can come. Its pretty much open invitation so anyone can bring whomever they want. Culturally, i was never raised by splitting holidays etc, whereas my husband's family likes to do everything separately. Its tough to navigate sometimes.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

My SIL has her IL's, her parents, aunt/uncle/cousins, DH and I and has started inviting my parent's as well for a BBQ on Fathers Day.

Mother's Day, my family does Saturday night so we can all be together and we go out to eat (this way it's not rushed and not pre-fix).

This will be my last childless Holiday. Hopefully it will be the same next year (with inviting my parents).

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unfortunately, no one seems to care that DH and I are parents now it's still all about our paretns for mothers/fathers day

Re: Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

We see one mom the day before and one mom the day of. Same goes for the dads (granddad so should say). We don't really celebrate us, just the OG parents

It has to be that way because all of us have children now

Message edited 6/16/2015 5:08:52 PM.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

Yes, we see all the grandparents

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Can you have a BBQ at your house and have both dads come over to celebrate? Sometimes its easier when everyone gets together so noone rushes anywhere.

Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

Before having DS we would go to my parents one day and my ILs the other. This is our first year with DS, so we are seeing my parents on Saturday (my brother's birthday is Sunday as well) and seeing ILs next weekend. We decided to spend most holidays with just our family the day of, and worry about every else on other days.

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For the past two years (since DH has been a dad) we have hosted Father's Day and invited both my dad and my in-laws. This way anyone who wants to attend can. I am absolutely not hurt in the least if my father or FIL isn't able to attend.

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Re: Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

Yes, we do see all of our parents on both Mothers and Fathers day. But my parents and my in laws live very close by eachother.

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Re: Once you become a parent, do you still always see your mom/dad on mothers day/fathers day?

I will always see my mother on mother's day. I would never put myself above her while she is still alive. Maybe I have a different perspective because I lost my father when I was young, but I find it very strange when people make the day all about themselves. It's an entire day, I think that you can make time for yourself, your mom and your mother in law (as long as they are all somewhat local). Everyone's family dynamics are different though, maybe it's also because I wouldn't want my mom to be completely alone on Mother's Day. I look at my SIL and BIL though and they will not come see my husband's parents on the actual day because "it's their day too." I find it odd. I would personally rather take the Saturday to myself and celebrate the actual day with my parent.

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I can def see how hard it's for u to divide the time in 3, I actually don't see anything wrong with visiting one dad either the day before or after, especially when u have a little one, I'm sure either dad will understand ur circumstances. My case is a little different, my dad lives in another country and my FIL passed away, so for Father's Day we only celebrate with DH. For Mother's Day is a little different, my mom passed away so we do try to make a big effort to spend the day with my MIL (thank goodness I'm one of the lucky ones that have a really good MIL), and then we also make sure to visit my mom in the cemetery, as for right now, time has worked for us during that day even though the cemetery is in Nassau and we live in Suffolk.

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My dh and I try and do mother's and father's day at our house. We find it to be easier instead of running around to 1 house and then another. Even if we don't do it for some reason we would still see them. We all live very close. I couldn't imagine not.