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wantsababy
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Opinions please....kinda long sorry
So xmas eve we(dh,me,ds) spend the day at inlaws.(mother in law, sister in law and her boyfriend, small family no kids except my son)
xmas am we wake and do gifts home,(ds 1st xmas) then meet at my moms with my bro,sis,sis in law,bro in law and neice,nephews to open gifts with eachother.
then we go home relax till we get ready to go to my bro's for dinner.
all sounds good and easy, xmas eve spent with inlaws, xmas day with my family.
well my mother in law didnt ever want to open gifts on eve night cause she says she does it in the morning. so she would make my dh go back in the am. and for the 1st few years that was fine we werent married with family.
last year we were married and prego and she made him feel bad so we drove from my moms to his in the am and it was a lot(plus i had to leave while my nephews and neice were still opening gifts to get there when mother in law wanted us there) and we said its to much we were just here all night, so next year with a baby we arent gonna do it.
well the time has come and my mother in law hasnt talked to my DH about it yrunning around xmas morning. mother in law said she will wait to speak to DH cause she will be very hurt if we dont come back over.
i mean i am hoping my DH tells her sorry but we are there all night and not at her families at all so xmas day is with her family, and its to much but well see.
im just so mad cause i know his mom is gonna make him feel awful and probably cry and i think that is sooo selfish and rude to do to him.
do u agree??et but told my sister in law she isnt opening gifts xmas eve night and wants us to come back in the am. my sis in law told her that i said it would be easier to do it on eve night so we arent
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Posted 12/20/10 9:31 PM  |
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Re: Opinions please....kinda long sorry
I think she sounds like she is being unreasonable.
I'd never stand for that nonsense. It sounds like a BS excuse just so she has control that you come over her house again in the morning to do things her way.
I hope it goes the way YOU want it to go. 
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| Posted 12/20/10 9:34 PM |
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wantsababy
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Re: Opinions please....kinda long sorry
I know and she is single so i know she is gonna tell dh she doesnt want to be alone xmas morning but her daughter isnt married and doesnt have kids and said shell go back over so she cant even say that but she will.
and i spend every thanksgiving at her house. this is my DS 1st holidays and we spent thanksgiving at her house,so i wont give in with this one at all trust me..
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| Posted 12/20/10 9:36 PM |
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Re: Opinions please....kinda long sorry
Could she come to your family's house for Christmas?
I know how MILs can be.. I always find the more you give in, the worse it gets. The expectations get greater, the bar is higher, the obligations are endless.
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| Posted 12/20/10 9:41 PM |
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wantsababy
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Re: Opinions please....kinda long sorry
She was invited and did last year, but this year she is going to her daughters house to spend it with them.
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| Posted 12/20/10 9:59 PM |
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wantsababy
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Re: Opinions please....kinda long sorry
sad thing is everyone knows she is like this, my sister in law understands completely and feels bad for me cause she knows xmas eve is gonna be crappy now cause mother in law is gonna be in a bad mood,
and dh's aunt who is mother in laws sis just laughed and said she agrees this year its different and my mom in law needs to understand, then she told me to watch everyone loves raymond that is her......ughhhhhhhhhhhhhh
but my problem is my DH will feel bad and try to get me to go back there and im not giving in this year but dont need an arguement on my sons 1st xmas kwim
Message edited 12/20/2010 10:02:10 PM.
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| Posted 12/20/10 10:01 PM |
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Re: Opinions please....kinda long sorry
 don't give in.
this is your baby's first christmas. have things go your way.
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| Posted 12/20/10 10:04 PM |
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wantsababy
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Re: Opinions please....kinda long sorry
Thanks for responding i just needed to vent :) have a happy holiday I will no matter what for my baby.
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| Posted 12/20/10 10:06 PM |
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SofiaBella
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Re: Opinions please....kinda long sorry
I agree with you. No need to go back on Christmas Day.
Not like you are always putting your fam first since you spent thanksgiving with her.
Maybe if this is an issue every year. Alternate Thanksgiving & Christmas. (& whoever does Thanksgiving that year gets Christmas Eve)
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| Posted 12/20/10 10:14 PM |
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Re: Opinions please....kinda long sorry
F that. Seriously.Holding Christmas gifts hostage is childish. It's come time to either invite everyone over your house on Christmas morning or alternate where you spend your holidays. One year your mom gets Christmas & your MIL gets Christmas Eve, the following year you switch.
Splitting the holidays is difficult but you have your own family now & running around from house to house is no longer ideal.
The torch has been passed.
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| Posted 12/20/10 10:29 PM |
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