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BaroqueMama
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Please help me. Time outs....
Is 19 months old too early for this? She knows when she does something wrong and thinks it's hilarious. I really need some advice because she's so smart, and I don't know how to discipline her other than saying no and stop, which isn't workign much these days
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
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| Posted 1/15/08 10:27 PM |
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Palebride
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
I don't have a whole lot of experience here....but on those nanny shows (not that I rely on them for parenting advice!) they say you can give time out for one mnute per year old. So maybe a minute or two would teach her something?
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| Posted 1/15/08 10:31 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
Ugh...I remember that stage! My son would smirk when he was put in time out.
One piece of advice we got did make a difference.
We put him in the chair, set the timer & then didn't speak to him during that time.
He would try to get out or engage us in conversation (for attention).
He would be put back in & ignored.
If we spoke to him during time out, he got what we wanted which was attention (albeit negative attention).
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| Posted 1/15/08 10:37 PM |
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Elizabeth
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
Yes, I think she's too small to understand the concept. They say time outs are effective starting around 2 yrs old. My DS does know what a time out means though and he's 19 months. At least he knows where to go. My DD got a time out today and we have a spot on the main floor near the front door that they go for time outs. Well before she can even get over there, there goes my DS and he plops down right on the floor near the door. Solidarity against Mom! Rock on! 
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| Posted 1/15/08 10:38 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
I don't even think I'm looking for her to sit in timeout, persay, but I want to start to introduce it because she's starting to hit when she gets mad, and I'm not having that. And all those magazine articles can bite me because "Firmly saying 'No hitting,'" is a crock of sh-t. She laughs in my face and runs away
ETA: I forgot to say thank you for your advice
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| Posted 1/15/08 10:41 PM |
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Faithx2
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
No I think Ava is ready. From what you post here she is more on the level of a +22 month old. I just started this month with my almost 22 month old. Her time out spot is the step. I explain to her what she does wrong, walk her to the spot, make her sit for a minute or 2. It makes her upset but when she comes back she says sorry and corrects whatever she did wrong--that is how I know she is getting it.
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| Posted 1/16/08 6:08 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
With things like this, I usually start them before they are completely ready for them. If you start now, when they are mature enough to "get it", it's already part of their routine. If you wait, you'll never really know when they turn that corner to being "ready".
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| Posted 1/16/08 7:37 AM |
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JavaJunkie
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
My DS is 21 months and we have been doing timeouts for a few months. I do not think it's too early.
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| Posted 1/16/08 7:47 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
Yup, I started timeouts at 18 months, but only for a very short period of time. At first what I usually do is I just remove her from me (if we're cuddling, hugging or playing around), put her on the floor, say NO firmly and will walk away. As I walk away I tell her that I will not play with her until she can be a good girl. The walking away part is VERY effective, in fact, I just did it last night and she came running after me saying I'm sorry mommy 
If she keeps up with her behavior I give her ONE warning before I put her in timeout, then I will walk her to her corner and place her there and tell her the reason why I'm putting her there.
Good luck!
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| Posted 1/16/08 7:53 AM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
I think its too young for a structured time out, but I find that if I stop paying attention to Noah after he is naughty, that usually works. Its the attention they are seeking, so take that away and it does help.
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| Posted 1/16/08 8:21 AM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Please help me. Time outs....
Posted by racheeeee
I think its too young for a structured time out, but I find that if I stop paying attention to Noah after he is naughty, that usually works. Its the attention they are seeking, so take that away and it does help.
I think so too. My 20 month old has been doing unstructured time outs since my young one was born, she was about 14 months old.
When she does something wrong, she gets a strong no we don't hit,,etc. and i make her sit down wherever she is and i walk away.
She gets upset and i don't make eye contact for about a minute then we hug and kiss and and i show her how to do nice and she goes on her way.
It's been working, and she can tell when she's in trouble.
EtA: Ava is very verbal just like my DD so she'd def get and understand your change in tone, facial expressions and the verbal cues just like my DD does.
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