Please tell me that this is a VERY brief phase - UPDATE on bottom...

... Because I'm about to lose my mind...

Everytime he sees me, he cries... I can't walk away without him going into hysterics, and then when I'm with him he sits there and screams and cries...

I feel like he is turning into the biggest brat (please forgive me - you know I love him) but it is really getting hard to handle...

The whining and crying all day is like chinese water torture. I'm really afraid I'm going to snap. I used to enjoy spending time with him, and now its like he is a 5 week old all over again and I just look for any opportunity to get away from him....

I know he is teething and hasn't been feeling well, but its like he will be FINE, and then he'll see me and start screaming...

The other day I felt so bad, I said in a loud voice "ENOUGH!!!" and he jumped and of course cried more. I know that wasn't going to be soothing and comforting for him, but after an entire day of it, and he stopped for a few minutes and then started all over again, I really was going to have a breakdown....

When does this stop??? He usually is so happy and playful. I miss that Cailen...

Message edited 1/3/2008 10:40:02 PM.

Re: Please tell me that this is a VERY brief phase

I'm sure it's teething-related. I hope it gets better for you!

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Posted by Mrs. Patticakes

I'm sure it's teething-related. I hope it gets better for you!

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I can only sympathize as I am right there with you! DS screamed ALL day yesterday. I was about to lose it. I even told my DH I would go put gas in his car just to get out of the house for 15 minutes. I don't know if my DS is so out of sorts b/c of teething or what it is but it is soooooooooo draining. I have no advice, can only offer hugs b/c I'm at a loss myself and hoping this phase goes as quickly as it came...... Hang in there!

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Liza...Im dealing with this now and I also in the same boat where I felt like OK I have a brat on my hands.

She cries and only wants me....around the family its only me. It was really hard during the holidays when everyone wants to hold her esp grandma, aunts and uncles and she cried.

Right now I know she is definitely teething, she clearly has all the signs.

I do hope its a phase too because It becomes difficult with me, at home I cant put her down without her crying or chasing after me and I dont get anything done.
It also gets fustrating.

Hang in there and hopefully once the teething is over, it will be just a phase.

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It could be teething or he's just not feeling well.

Then again. Bryan is fine if I leave the room, but, if he sees me pass by the room or come back in (and there are others in the room, including DH) he starts crying and whining.

I hope he feels better soon.

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Chris is almost 8 months and I am also starting to notice a change in his behavior. He constantly needs someone around and he was never like that before. I dont like cranky kids and I hope both of them dont stay this way

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Separation anxiety can start around 9 months...


as for crying when he sees you - I read you should take it as a compliment, since he feels comfortable enough with you to be cranky around you.

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It is a normal phase...my dd cries when I leave the room but also cries when I walk INTO the room....

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Another one here!! DD is whiny and crying and clingy and has been waking up during the night crying! Its exhausting! Hopefully this is just a phase!!

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Totally normal....it's the beginning phases of separation anxiety. Try doing peek-a-boo with him by leaving the room and then coming back so that he can start learn that you will be back (Object permanence). This phase unfortunately lasts and varies with each child.

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Oh I rem it well...I was just talking to my DH about this last night....saying "remember when I couldnt go upstairs without DD as she would have a fit if she didnt have me in her line of sight...."...and we laughed about it.

So yes this too will pass and something else will come along to replace it!!

I do also remember though how much fun the 9mths mark was so hopefully the good will start to outweigh the bad for you soon.

hang in there.....we have all been there, thought we were ready to jump, didnt and survived

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It is a phase - teething for some babies can turn their whole world upside down. Even to this day, at 2.3 years old, Alex has days like this when her 2 year molars are giving her hell.

Hang in there - and as hard as it may be, appreciate the fact that he's all about mommy. Sooner than you realize the day will come when he'll no longer want to cuddle, and no longer will run to your arms in comfort

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I'm going to go with Separation anxiety & milestone thing.

When was his last physical miilestone?

Separation Anxiety - My Stages

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Jacob did this too...I would sit next to him and he would still cry...I couldnt even move a muscle. And then...3 teeth pushed through The crying eventually stopped...until he gets more teeth

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Tyler has gone through this phase off and on. I tell him "enough" in a stern voice and if he is just whining for no good reason I ignore him. If you react to it he will think if he continues to do it he will get his way.

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You are certainly not alone

Even with the raising your voice part

Re: Please tell me that this is a VERY brief phase - UPDATE on bottom...

Here are some thoughts...

Cailen has been in a much better mood since he started going back to daycare... They told me he has been crying too when one of the teachers leaves the room

I'm wondering if one of the reasons he was so miserable was maybe he missed going there? Maybe he missed them? The 1st day I dropped him off, he crawled around and screeched so happily, climbing over one of the teachers... It was so cute...

After all, they have been in his life consistently since he was 2 mts old... I could imagine him being pretty miserable if he was away from me for a week without knowing why....


What do you guys think?

Ever since he came back, the crying has gotten better - he will whine and whimper when I leave, but not get hysterical, and calms down immediately when he sees me.

I'm wondering if it was traumatic for him to be away from daycare? He has seen these people for many hours everyday for 7 mts...

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I am glad to hear it's getting a little better. Maybe he missed the routine that he's used to?

Im glad he's doing better.