Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

I would be annoyed too if I were you, and honestly would NEVER do that. I would tell my DD a flat out NO, it's not yours. Lesson is you can't have everything you want in life. I think this parent is doing her child a HUGE disservice honestly. You cant always get what you want, when you want, esp if it's someone else's. JMO, but then again, i dont coddle my DC about things like that. And thankfully she has learned not to throw fits and can accept when I say no about most things.

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

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Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

No. I wouldn't ask nor would I let a friend take a toy. It sounds ridiculous. But kids need to deal with a little dissapointment. I agree with the op, I'd say no to my dd and they'd carry on, but them they would get over it.

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

I would not allow my son to borrow a toy because I think that he needs to learn that he is not allowed to take other children's toys home, but at the same time, this has happened a few times where someone asked to borrow a toy of his. He has gotten very upset but I think it's a good lesson in sharing for him, so I allow it. I actually think that it has taught him that someone can borrow something and then give it back and you don't even miss it in the meantime.

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

I would absolutely not allow my child to "borrow" it. If it was there when we got there, it stays when we leave.

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

I say no. My DS has to learn limits and "borrowing" or taking another child's toy is NOT okay. If DS was to throw a tantrum, so be it. He'll learn that lesson soon - you can't have all that you want just because you want it. Sorry you had to deal with that today. Hopefully the toy gets returned.

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

I would never ask BUT if I were the other mom ie. the mom whose kid owned the toy and it was only a small toy ( and lord knows we have a ton of those) and it was not a favorite toy then I would volunteer the toy and say "its totally fine with me if you want to take it and bring it back next week".

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

I think it depends. Jack gets super attached to stuffed animals. If we are at my cousins house and they are my nephews animals (the kids are older now) he will usually take them home with him.

If I have a playdate here and a kid is attached to a particular car or something like that, that my boys don't like, I'll tell the mom to take it home. I know the tantrums that can happen and we have a zillion toys.

If we were at a playdate at a friends house and one of the boys wanted to take something home I would tell them no.

So - family yes, friends no, but at my house - sure!

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

I've never done that, I would just distract DS by reminding him of something to play with at home or another place we were going. I have offered my DS's toys to other moms though on playdates at our house. I will help them avoid tantrums at all costs! Who am I to judge? If that's how they want to deal with it, fine. Sometimes you have to pick your battles. On that day, at that moment, maybe its not a battle they want to fight.

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

Ummm no. It's not my kid's toy and they need to know that they can't have whatever they want. JMO, not in my house. Now if this happened and someone asked me - I would give them the toy but.............

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Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

Honestly I wouldn't give it a second thought. As a mom of 3 I know how tough it can be.

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

Not a chance. Say bye bye to the toy, we are going home. That's it. Not up for discussion.

Re: Would you ask if your toddler could "borrow" a toy from a friend because they refused to give it up when you were leaving?

No. I would ask dd to give it back. If she refused I would take it out of her hand & carry her out kicking & screaming. She would get over it.

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Update: For those who knew the story... We got the toy back today! I'm glad too because it was an old toy that was mine as a kid. Had I known it was that, I may not have let it leave the house.