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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
Thank you EVERYONE who answered! You are all making me cry because you are all so sweet and wonderful with your stories. I can't help but feel like a failure and I am scared out of my mind.
Everyone's words made me feel so much better.
And I want to see this book.
Maria-thanks so much for your story. I do remember when you were ready to shoot someone! And Miss Diva really is so worth it!
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
Just know that you're not the only one and you shouldn't feel guilty or bad or anything like that. I feel the same way, although I'm not nearly as uncomfortable as you are. I hate the physical consequences of being pregnant and some of the emotional ones too.Sure, people will say being pregnant is a gift and blah blah blah (and it is) but that doesn't mean we have to enjoy it!
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| Posted 1/13/10 11:39 AM |
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NervousNell
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I'm sorry you are going through so much.
It's definitely enough to make anyone go crazy!
I cannot imagine the pain you are in... you are a hero in my eyes just for being able to function each day. I dont' know if I could... I'm horrible with pain, discomfort, etc. I"m a weak person and I know it.
Don't feel bad that you don't love being pregnant. I am sure even girls with the BEST pregnancies have their moments where they hate it... and you have extenuating circumstances.
I am having a great pregnancy so far- and I'm still earlyon - and I hate it. Then I feel guilty for hating being pregnant because there really is no reason for me to hate it- and others have it so much worse. But I can't control my feelings.
Bottom line- your feelings are your feelings. And like everyone said, in a few short weeks this will all be a distant memory and totally worth it when you are holidng that gorgeous little 
In the meantime just hang in there and do what you have to do to survive!
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| Posted 1/13/10 11:43 AM |
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
Posted by NervousNell
I'm sorry you are going through so much.
It's definitely enough to make anyone go crazy!
I cannot imagine the pain you are in... you are a hero in my eyes just for being able to function each day. I dont' know if I could... I'm horrible with pain, discomfort, etc. I"m a weak person and I know it.
Don't feel bad that you don't love being pregnant. I am sure even girls with the BEST pregnancies have their moments where they hate it... and you have extenuating circumstances.
I am having a great pregnancy so far- and I'm still earlyon - and I hate it. Then I feel guilty for hating being pregnant because there really is no reason for me to hate it- and others have it so much worse. But I can't control my feelings.
Bottom line- your feelings are your feelings. And like everyone said, in a few short weeks this will all be a distant memory and totally worth it when you are holidng that gorgeous little
In the meantime just hang in there and do what you have to do to survive!
Thanks, it means a lot
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| Posted 1/13/10 11:44 AM |
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
Michelle - Do not feel guilty for feeling that way. I will admit it with my other 2 I had SUCH easy pregnancies, I used to wonder how people could complain about being pregnant.
This time around I am so miserable - all I do is complain and 6 weeks cant come soon enough. I even told DH a few weeks back this (getting pregnant - ON PURPOSE lol) was the worst mistake I ever made!  I dont feel guilty for saying it, because in the end it wont make me any less of a mother than someone else.
JUST REMEMBER - the end result IS worth everything we are all going through right now (although I feel crappy complaining after hearing what you're going through). It may not be easy at first with a newborn, but in the end it will be worth it.
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| Posted 1/13/10 11:54 AM |
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
I feel ya, I have had two flare ups of a herniated disc since falling pregnant in July, I see a Physio and take a low dose of a painkiller when I really need to.
But in general, I feel pretty good, so I look on the brightside! I am lucky to be where I am and I can't wait to hold that baby!
Hang in there!!! Things can only get better!!
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| Posted 1/13/10 11:59 AM |
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Deedlebugs
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
I dislike being pregnant (this pregnancy) so freaking much. Ive been trying to put myself into labor since 35 weeks to get it over with LOL. There is nothing wrong with not loving pregnancy. I think of it as a means to a wonderful end. Loving and watching my baby grow is the part I love, all this other crap is just misery.
I actually liked being pregnant with Nina so I was kind of surprised how miserable I am this pregnancy. I feel no guilt about it, it is what it is. I cant wait to have my body be just mine again.
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| Posted 1/13/10 12:00 PM |
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Thanks again! Mich-don't feel bad complaining-you are going though a lot as well!
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| Posted 1/13/10 12:06 PM |
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
I loved being pregnant up until 25 weeks and then it was all downhill. I was fine with the nausea and the growing belly until 5/6 months. I am just about as far along as you are and I am not digging pregnancy as much either these days. I do feel guilty at times but it is in NO way shape or form a reflection of how you will be as a mother or how much you love your baby. I always thought I'd love it and although my body hasn't changed too much my anxiety has made this experience nerve-wracking and unpleasant. I have a lot of BH and had a horrible doctor experience which I think contributed to my anxiety-because of all this I am counting down the days until my peanut comes!
You are not alone and I know once we see our little beans we are going to forget all about the misery pregnancy can bring for some.
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| Posted 1/13/10 12:13 PM |
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Katie111806
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Awww Michelle, I know how tough it can be. I happen tp strangely love being pregnant, but when DS arrived I was miserable and had a very difficult time being a first time mom, even though it is all I ever wanted!! I just couldn't understand it and still struggle even though he's almost 14 months. My point is - we all have our battles and struggles, but in the end we all receive the greatest gift of motherhood. Keep your eye on the prize because she'll be here so soon. In the meantime, take care of yourself and do whatever is needed to keep yourself comfy - even if its nothing at all!
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| Posted 1/13/10 12:14 PM |
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spa118
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
You have tons of hormones raging through your body right now, and you are physically miserable, so what you are feeling is TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY NORMAL AND NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF!
You will be a wonderful mommy soon, and it will be here before you know it. MY DD is 3 weeks old now - I can't believe it!
And I felt very similarly to you towards the end.
I was physically miserable and up 61 lbs.... and I started my pregnancy 15 lbs overweight.
I lost 25 lbs immediately and am down 30 now, not from doing any sort of dieting at all.
And, I just don't care what i look like at all - its amazing. All I care about is taking care of my DD.
Anytime you need to talk, feel free to send me a FM.
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| Posted 1/13/10 12:18 PM |
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
I completely sympathize with you. The idea of being pregnant is great - but in reality it does suck. And those who are so happy to be pregnant, are LUCKY. I too have TERRIBLE sciatica pain (also not from the pregnancy) and herniated discs in my neck, so the notion of comfort, sleep, happiness, has been long lost over the last 39 weeks.
Just keep in your mind that you have 6 weeks to go! That's it! SIX WEEKS! You're in the double digits for weekly countdown!
I wish I could give you a hug in person... but for now, I hope these little guys do the trick!
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| Posted 1/13/10 12:53 PM |
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bayla
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lots of I totally know how you feel...I have really rough pregnancies and this one was even harder then my 1st. The end is almost there for us!!! hang in there!!!
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| Posted 1/13/10 12:55 PM |
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It will all be worth it as soon as you get to hold her in your arms! Hang in there - you have come so far and only have a short way left to go
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| Posted 1/13/10 12:58 PM |
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It's better to get it off your chest...soemtimes saying what's bothering you helps everything!
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| Posted 1/13/10 1:40 PM |
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
Posted by Blissful
I HATED being pregnant... I spent the and started bleeding... secretly.... and strangely I thought... " I am having first 20 weeks Vomiting 15+ times a day. I puked so hard that at 12 weeks I burst some blood vessels in my cervixanother MC... oh good I won't puke anymore". I felt DISGUSTING for thinking this.
There were days I would lay on the bathroom floor sobbing and crying that it would all end... I still feel guilty for it.
At 20 weeks the vomiting stopped and I was 20 lbs LIGHTER than when I got PG. A few days later Alexa turned transverse (sideways) and pushed out 3 of my disks.
I woke up one morning covered in pee... Yeah I peed myself. She put so much pressure on some of the nerves in my back that I loss bowel control and couldn't move my legs. I called my midwife screaming because I was basically paralyzed. I spent the rest of my pregnancy going to PT 3 X a week to try and help the pain... There is NO HELP for that type of pain. My therapist kept telling me it will get better when the baby is born
Feb 11 I go into labor (38.5 weeks) I'm not prepared... I thought I had until 40 weeks darn her....
I am planing a homebirth..... after 40 hours of labor I throw in the towel and go to the hospital. After 54 hours and a failed epidural she came TEARING (literally, I had 3rd degree tears) into my world.... Oh good it will get better now....
NOPE... it got worse. For the first 20 weeks my baby SCREAMED.... nothing could soothe her. SHe couldn't Breastfeed and I was OCD on that so I pumped and we had to syringe feed her since she had issues with opening her mouth due to a pinched nerve in HER neck
I told people... "I know why shaken baby syndrome exists"... I would have to sit on my hands and take a break while she screamed cause I literally wanted to "shake the sh*t out of her"..... I know... HARSH
I felt like a COMPLETE FAILURE... as a woman, as a mother, as a human being....
But then the cloud of doom and darkness lifted and I started falling in love... No, not falling but SPIRALING into a deep love like I've never known before..
I was a new woman... I had been through more challenges physically and mentally that I NEVER in my wildest dreams knew I could handle... I was a stronger woman, a better mother a better human being.
My life now had purpose, a goal... something to strive for every day bother personally and business
Everyday with Alexa is a new journey, better than Christmas... an adventure.
Every night when I nurse her... she finally got on the boob at 8 weeks, and I look into her sweet eyes (one of which is a black eye from falling right now  ) I think to myself.......
"Now I know....... why my pregnancy was so hard... why my labor was even worse... and why the first few months with you were so difficult"
It was my journey into becoming a mother, there were lessons throughout this journey that I needed to learn about myself and about life. Lessons I needed to be Alexa's Mother...
So when you sit and think about your pregnancy and how its NOTHING like you wished, hoped or thought it would be... how other women around you feel like "Mother earth" (yes, I had a friend use that term to describe her pregnancy " and you feel like "night of the living dead" how you feel guilty for wanting your body back and when your baby is screaming at night you want to send them back...... Just remember that at the end of the journey you come out a different person, a better person, a stronger person.
I believe that God, or whomever you believe in picks out the right children for us that will teach us the many lessons we still need to learn about ourselves and life so that we may become better parents and human beings.....
So, the point of my endless rambling is... don't feel bad about your experience or your feelings towards it..... in due time you will think back at that time and finally realize how much stronger you are now and what the lessons were on your journey for you to learn.....
Awe this made me cry Thank you so much for sharing your honesty
!! I love your story and really appreciate your perspective 
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Posted by MrDeeNMe
I completely sympathize with you. The idea of being pregnant is great - but in reality it does suck. And those who are so happy to be pregnant, are LUCKY. I too have TERRIBLE sciatica pain (also not from the pregnancy) and herniated discs in my neck, so the notion of comfort, sleep, happiness, has been long lost over the last 39 weeks.
Just keep in your mind that you have 6 weeks to go! That's it! SIX WEEKS! You're in the double digits for weekly countdown!
I wish I could give you a hug in person... but for now, I hope these little guys do the trick!
They did! Right back at you!
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| Posted 1/13/10 1:59 PM |
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Don't feel guilty for feeling this way. I seriously hate the feelings I get from being preg. I puked pretty much every day since my bfp (sometimes 10x) and I gag and spit up acid on myself in my sleep- not to mention the gross taste I have had in my mouth this whole time that only goes away for 10 mins when I gargle baking soda! This is all aside from being emotionally INSANE some days and all the standard preg stuff. It's a lot to handle and it $UCKS big time- totally aside from the fact that the biggest gift ever is coming ur way in 6 weeks.
To me, those are two distinct things- pregnancy= $ucks (especially if ur suffering with extra ailments like u def have been), baby = awesome miracle.
The important part is that you love miss bean so much that you would do it all over again knowing the physical agony it caused. But no one says u have to enjoy the agony! Pregnancy makes u a mom, not a lunatic masochist, lol.
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| Posted 1/13/10 2:15 PM |
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
Oh, please please please don't feel bad! Pregnancy is NOT EASY. I am one of those who had a great pregnancy the first time and I still was crying towards the end, begging, hoping, wishing and praying for it to end because I just couldn't take it anymore.
There are some women who have such a rough time of it they refuse to go through it again! I may not have myself if things didn't go so well the first time.
My girlfriend once told me that the reason we get 'preggo brain' is so that we'll forget how awful pregnancy is and go on to have more children.
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| Posted 1/13/10 2:24 PM |
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3rd trimster is tough!
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| Posted 1/13/10 5:20 PM |
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Re: Pregnancy vent-sorry long
Do not, for one, single minute, feel bad about not enjoying pregnancy. I did not enjoy my first pregnancy AT ALL. I felt like it was absolute torture. And let's face it, when you're in pain, not much can really make you feel good. So, my advice is to wallow in pity for yourself and get frequent pedicures. It was the only thing that made me feel somewhat ok. I had huge cankles and swollen feet, but it felt so damn good to have someone pamper them. I will pray that the next 6 weeks go quickly for you, my dear!
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| Posted 1/13/10 6:17 PM |
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I'm right there with you! When people ask me how am I feeling I always say I can't wait for this pregnancy to be done. Right away I get "Oh stop" or "its going by so fast". Well maybe for you but not me! I also don't like the feeling of the baby moving around it makes me feel weird and if I say that out loud its like "stop you should be happy you feel movemnent". I get so annoyed!
My sister got me that Jenny McCarthy book its pretty funny and keeps me laughing.
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| Posted 1/13/10 6:25 PM |
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Lots of hugs for you
I am sure we have all been there or will be there soon enough. Hang in there sweetie.
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| Posted 1/13/10 6:28 PM |
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Call me whenever you need to!
xoxo
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| Posted 1/13/10 7:42 PM |
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I also don't like the feeling of the baby moving around it makes me feel weird
OMG me too. It freaks me out- I feel like the sac is gonna pop or one of my organs is gonna get twisted and also it makes me feel claustrophobic!! Seriously, I don't like it either, lol and no one gets it.
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