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AliceCullen
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Promposals
Have you heard of this term?
I work with teenagers and this has been going on for a few years now. Apparently when you want to ask someone to the prom, you can no longer just ask them. You have to plan a big, elaborate, often public, spectacle to ask them. Very similar to a wedding proposal. Even if you are taking your long term girlfriend where it would be implied you were going together.
What do you think?
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NervousNell
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Re: Promposals
So ridiculous and just another reason I hate what our society has become due to social media.
You know this is all so they can film it and put it on youtube, facebook or whatever other shit kids are using these days and get attention.
Lame
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| Posted 3/17/16 4:28 PM |
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busymomonli
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Promposals
Yes, been going on for a few years. Kids try to outdo each other, but I think its sweet.
I was at a fashion show at our high school over the weekend. One couple came down the runway in their formal attire and the announcer hushed the crowd and announced that he would like her to go to prom. I thought it was cute.
Funny side note: When I was in High School many, many years ago, we referred to it as "the prom". As in "do you want to go to THE prom with me" Now they say "do you want to go to prom with me"
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| Posted 3/17/16 4:40 PM |
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Kitten1929
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Promposals
That sounds ridiculous.
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| Posted 3/17/16 4:42 PM |
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chilltocam
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Promposals
Yes, I've heard it. I have a 17 yr old, high school Sr. stepson. I am dreading this for him. I think he thinks he MUST do something over the top (for someone that he doesn't - at this point - even know if she'll say yes!). I am gently trying to steer him clear of doing anything so over the top and to maybe consider something cute but not a public spectacle.
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| Posted 3/17/16 4:42 PM |
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busymomonli
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Re: Promposals
Posted by chilltocam
Yes, I've heard it. I have a 17 yr old, high school Sr. stepson. I am dreading this for him. I think he thinks he MUST do something over the top (for someone that he doesn't - at this point - even know if she'll say yes!). I am gently trying to steer him clear of doing anything so over the top and to maybe consider something cute but not a public spectacle.
I agree that if they are unsure that the person will say yes, they shouldn't do it. Mostly the ones I see doing it are already dating or know the other person will accept (like close friends).
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MrsG823
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Promposals
Seriously? Our society is just getting out of control- this opens up so many new opportunities to make high school, a historically difficult part of growing up, just a bit more challenging.
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NervousNell
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Re: Promposals
Posted by MrsG823
Seriously? Our society is just getting out of control- this opens up so many new opportunities to make high school, a historically difficult part of growing up, just a bit more challenging.
That was what i was going to say as well. Like the stress of finding a prom date, the perfect dress, the after prom plans, etc isn't enough.
Now you have to out do each other.
Like the stress to fit in in HS isn't bad enough, now you need to not only FIND a prom date but orchestrate a freakin flash mob that you broadcast on a billboard in Times Square in order to get them to say yes.
This just opens up so many more opportunites for people to feel bad about themselves. The guy who didn't do enough to impress the girl. The girl who didn't even get asked to prom, much less an over the top spectacle when she was asked.
I'm sorry but I really worry for the future of our children. By the time my daughter is in HS I shudder to think how bad it will be.
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Pumpkin1
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Re: Promposals
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MrsG823
Seriously? Our society is just getting out of control- this opens up so many new opportunities to make high school, a historically difficult part of growing up, just a bit more challenging.
That was what i was going to say as well. Like the stress of finding a prom date, the perfect dress, the after prom plans, etc isn't enough.
Now you have to out do each other.
Like the stress to fit in in HS isn't bad enough, now you need to not only FIND a prom date but orchestrate a freakin flash mob that you broadcast on a billboard in Times Square in order to get them to say yes.
This just opens up so many more opportunites for people to feel bad about themselves. The guy who didn't do enough to impress the girl. The girl who didn't even get asked to prom, much less an over the top spectacle when she was asked.
I'm sorry but I really worry for the future of our children. By the time my daughter is in HS I shudder to think how bad it will be.
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| Posted 3/17/16 4:58 PM |
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AliceCullen
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Re: Promposals
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MrsG823
Seriously? Our society is just getting out of control- this opens up so many new opportunities to make high school, a historically difficult part of growing up, just a bit more challenging.
That was what i was going to say as well. Like the stress of finding a prom date, the perfect dress, the after prom plans, etc isn't enough.
Now you have to out do each other.
Like the stress to fit in in HS isn't bad enough, now you need to not only FIND a prom date but orchestrate a freakin flash mob that you broadcast on a billboard in Times Square in order to get them to say yes.
This just opens up so many more opportunites for people to feel bad about themselves. The guy who didn't do enough to impress the girl. The girl who didn't even get asked to prom, much less an over the top spectacle when she was asked.
I'm sorry but I really worry for the future of our children. By the time my daughter is in HS I shudder to think how bad it will be.
I totally agree. These 12th grade boys are under stress to come up with the perfect idea and not disappoint their girlfriends. It's ridiculous.
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Ridiculous! These kids are in such a hurry to grow up (a proposal for a prom; wait for your wedding) yet don't have an ounce of common sense or any idea what responsibility is. Worse yet are the parents feeding into it and condoning it. They all need lives if you ask me. 
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Re: Promposals
Posted by NervousNell
So ridiculous and just another reason I hate what our society has become due to social media.
You know this is all so they can film it and put it on youtube, facebook or whatever other shit kids are using these days and get attention.
Lame
Couldn't agree more.
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| Posted 3/17/16 5:14 PM |
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Promposals
Yep ive heard of this. So dumb
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| Posted 3/17/16 5:27 PM |
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alli3131
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Re: Promposals
Posted by NervousNell
So ridiculous and just another reason I hate what our society has become due to social media.
You know this is all so they can film it and put it on youtube, facebook or whatever other shit kids are using these days and get attention.
Lame
I agree!!!
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MsSissy
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Re: Promposals
Ridiculous
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Promposals
these are the moments that made me happy to have a son who is an introvert.
he was NOT down with this. he went to prom stag.
my sister's kids are ALL OVER THIS stuff. not only is it silly, it's EXPENSIVE. we've become a society where parents are paying for their kids to have the most outlandish moments that can be filmed or photographed to show off to the "joneses."
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Re: Promposals
Tough crowd! I'm 29, but this is how things were when I was in high school, and I loved it. I'm not sure what is so ridiculous about it. Nobody is forcing anyone to do it and it makes for a great memory!
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blessedmama
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Re: Promposals
Actually this is nothing new and there is less pressure now to just go with friends then couples. My dd doesn't even care if she has a date and won't feel weird going without one.
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MrsB12614
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Re: Promposals
Posted by mommy2B3
Tough crowd! I'm 29, but this is how things were when I was in high school, and I loved it. I'm not sure what is so ridiculous about it. Nobody is forcing anyone to do it and it makes for a great memory!
I'm 27 and it wasn't like this in my school. I think it's ridiculous. This is where the out of control spending habits come into play- always trying to keep up and one up. I hate it
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drpepper318
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Re: Promposals
DH sees this at his school a lot. The boys do really over the top stuff to "prompose" to their girlfriends. I'd never heard of this before he told me about it. I'm not sure how I feel about it. On the one hand it could be really sweet but I also think it's kids trying to be grown up too soon... it seems like everything always has to be bigger, grander, more impressive. Just be a kid! So I don't know.
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Re: Promposals
Funny side note: When I was in High School many, many years ago, we referred to it as "the prom". As in "do you want to go to THE prom with me" Now they say "do you want to go to prom with me"
I always thought it was THE prion and never liked it when andi told Blaine too take her to prom in pretty in pink.
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| Posted 3/17/16 9:06 PM |
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M514
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Promposals
I think it's ridiculous too.
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| Posted 3/17/16 9:10 PM |
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Promposals
Posted by MissJones
Funny side note: When I was in High School many, many years ago, we referred to it as "the prom". As in "do you want to go to THE prom with me" Now they say "do you want to go to prom with me"
I always thought it was THE prion and never liked it when andi told Blaine too take her to prom in pretty in pink.
LOL Ita!
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Re: Promposals
Posted by NervousNell
So ridiculous and just another reason I hate what our society has become due to social media.
You know this is all so they can film it and put it on youtube, facebook or whatever other shit kids are using these days and get attention.
Lame
it's anther way for teens to get attention on social media is all... who could get more likes and views for their video. Just about everything they do nowadays is just so they could film it and post it online and selfie the shit out of themselves while doing it. It's stupid. Save the proposals for marriage. Prom is not a wedding. Chances are good you will not end up with this person and never even see them again after graduation.
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ElizaRags35
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Re: Promposals
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MrsG823
Seriously? Our society is just getting out of control- this opens up so many new opportunities to make high school, a historically difficult part of growing up, just a bit more challenging.
That was what i was going to say as well. Like the stress of finding a prom date, the perfect dress, the after prom plans, etc isn't enough.
Now you have to out do each other.
Like the stress to fit in in HS isn't bad enough, now you need to not only FIND a prom date but orchestrate a freakin flash mob that you broadcast on a billboard in Times Square in order to get them to say yes.
This just opens up so many more opportunites for people to feel bad about themselves. The guy who didn't do enough to impress the girl. The girl who didn't even get asked to prom, much less an over the top spectacle when she was asked.
I'm sorry but I really worry for the future of our children. By the time my daughter is in HS I shudder to think how bad it will be.
Yes. Completely agree.
And on a somewhat related topic... When did prom dresses become so slinky/sexy. I'm talking slit up the leg and completely bare backed. By the time my kids are going to their prom, there won't be any dress left!
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