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Question about paying a babysitter that is also a good friend.
My Dd is 2 and we've only ever left her w/ my SIL, my parents or DHs parents. We have an upcoming family wedding and one of my best friends agreed to watch her. It will probably be from 6-12. My friend is also a nanny during the day for a 2 year old child, so I feel super comfortable leaving her w/ DD.
I want to pay her something, but don't know if she will accept $$ bc we are such good friends. There was no mention of payment when I asked her and she agreed.
Should I just offer her cash at the end of the night, or should I get her a gift card or something similar which may be harder for her to turn down...
WWYD.
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Posted 10/6/13 9:36 PM  |
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caslee11
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Re: Question about paying a babysitter that is also a good friend.
I would offer her cash that night and if she refuses I would then send her a gift card with a thank you.
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| Posted 10/6/13 9:44 PM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: Question about paying a babysitter that is also a good friend.
Unless it were a regular thing or she was losing other business to watch your child I would probably not give her cash. Maybe a small gift card for a manicure, a bottle of wine, or some other smaller token if you want.
Even though I am not a nanny by profession I have watched my friends' children on a few occasions and I would fee very strange if they offered me cash.
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| Posted 10/6/13 9:57 PM |
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blustar214
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Re: Question about paying a babysitter that is also a good friend.
If she's one of your best friends I definitely wouldn't offer to give her cash, I would actually be offended if one of my friends tried to pay me for watching their kid for one night. If you really want to get her something I agree that a gift card is best - for nails, DD/Starbucks, or something else like that (a small token of thanks).
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| Posted 10/6/13 10:23 PM |
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Re: Question about paying a babysitter that is also a good friend.
Thanks...if she wasn't a nanny by profession, I don't think I'd even think I should pay her...but after I asked and she agreed, I started to wonder if she would expect to be paid since its what she does. She's not missing out on work to babysit, she is coming after she leaves her nanny job.
She is one of my 3 closest friends! So I definitely don't want to make her feel awkward. I think I'll get her a gift card for something she can use as a token of thanks! I doubt she would accept cash, and that might just make the entire situation awkward.
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| Posted 10/6/13 10:43 PM |
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DreamComeTrue
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Re: Question about paying a babysitter that is also a good friend.
My very close friend just watched DS2 while the rest of us went to a rehearsal dinner. She refused the cash at the end of the night. I did supply her with pizza for dinner (I told her ahead of time).
I like the gift card idea. Wish I had thought of that in addition to the pizza.
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| Posted 10/6/13 11:06 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Question about paying a babysitter that is also a good friend.
She's providing you a service and you should pay her. While she might try to refuse the money, I'd insisit she take it.
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| Posted 10/7/13 8:56 AM |
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dlj97
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Re: Question about paying a babysitter that is also a good friend.
Posted by blustar214
If she's one of your best friends I definitely wouldn't offer to give her cash, I would actually be offended if one of my friends tried to pay me for watching their kid for one night. If you really want to get her something I agree that a gift card is best - for nails, DD/Starbucks, or something else like that (a small token of thanks).
ITA.
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| Posted 10/7/13 9:01 AM |
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Re: Question about paying a babysitter that is also a good friend.
Posted by NYCGirl80
She's providing you a service and you should pay her. While she might try to refuse the money, I'd insisit she take it.
So then you don't think she'll be offended? Ok...Im so torn over this. I have no problems paying her, but I don't want to make it weird. But she normally gets paid for being a nanny, so maybe she does expect it. Maybe I'll offer cash, and if she refuses, I'll send a thank you w/ a gift card...
Also, is $10/hour good these days? Now I know why we always use family as babysitters! Lol!
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| Posted 10/7/13 10:40 AM |
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