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Tany
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question about rings
so lets say a guy wants to propose to his girlfriend but he doesnt believe in spending so much money on a diamond and wants to give her a cubic zirconia ring or a gemstone ring
how would you feel?
Imo its really not about the ring but the symbol behind it
Message edited 5/29/2008 5:19:15 PM.
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Re: question about rings
Message edited 11/18/2011 8:13:51 PM.
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oh wait, I change my answer. I thought he couldnt afford a diamond.
If she is ok with it, then thats cool. But, I would hope she feels the same way.
Message edited 5/29/2008 5:22:17 PM.
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CaseyGirl
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Re: question about rings
what is his reason for not "believing in it"? I am all for the symbolism behind it and if I lost my rings tomorrow but still had my DH that would be all that mattered, but still, I feel like when a guy (or a girl, whoever) makes the effort to work hard and save up and present the girl with the ring...I dunno..there's just something about it.
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Gatsbygirl
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Re: question about rings
My friend has a saphire because her husband read about the cruelty of the diamond industry back in college. I guess like the film Blood diamonds. My friend is OK with it.
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TheWhiteRabbit
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Re: question about rings
To me, the e-ring shouldn’t be about the dollar amount that is spent, but on buying a ring that she will love forever.
It should be what he can save up for and feel good giving her.
I wouldn't have cared if DH had gotten me a CZ. I had actually asked for one because I never wear jewelry and was scared I would lose it. So, he bought me a diamond... and insurance 
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Even if Kevin had proposed to me with one of these, I still would've said Yes.
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tourist
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Re: question about rings
If it were me, I'd prefer a different kind of ring over a CZ. You don't have to get a diamond, or a diamond look alike, just b/c most other people have one.
We almost skipped the whole ring the thing altogether.
If the bride wanted a diamond, though, and they could afford it, she shouldn't have to go without, just because he "doesn't believe in it."
Or at least she should get a sparkly wedding band!
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TheWhiteRabbit
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Re: question about rings
Posted by imthecindyofcindyandkevin
Even if Kevin had proposed to me with one of these, I still would've said Yes.
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  you guys are too cute.
(pssst. Hey Kev, I know a way you could have saved a looooot of money... )
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Tany
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Re: question about rings
well he is a very frugal and simple person as it is, he feels that diamonds are overpriced but overall he cant spend a lot, but still wants to make her girlfriend happy, they are friends of mine and she is okay with being a cubic zirconia but she would rather get a gemstone ring.
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dm24angel
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Re: question about rings
sounds like a cop out on the guys part.
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itkocak
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Re: question about rings
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Diana712
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Re: question about rings
Posted by Tany
well he is a very frugal and simple person as it is, he feels that diamonds are overpriced but overall he cant spend a lot, but still wants to make her girlfriend happy, they are friends of mine and she is okay with being a cubic zirconia but she would rather get a gemstone ring.
Well then a gemstone it should be!!! tell him that for her 
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JessInCA
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Re: question about rings
Posted by Tany
she is okay with being a cubic zirconia but she would rather get a gemstone ring.
If it were one or the other, I'd rather have a gemstone than a cubic zirconia too. A cubic zirconia is an imitation diamond to me - not quite the real thing - whereas a gemstone can be beautiful by itself without being compared to something more valuable. JMO!
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Juliet
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Re: question about rings
I think it is the couple's choice. If she is happy with it, go for it.
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nov04libride
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Re: question about rings
I actually wish I got a sapphire as opposed to a diamond ering. It is just more different. I don't know if sapphires are any less expensive.
I'd rather go without an ering than have a CZ. I don't know, if she's on board, then great, but if it's something she wants and he has the money, I think she should get what she wants (within reason). The ering is for the rest of your life, so I don't think he should pull the frugal card unless he doesn't have the means to pay for it.
I don't think anyone should go into debt to pay for an ering.
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MissJones
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Re: question about rings
Honestly, I told DH that I didn't need a ring, I just wanted to be his wife. It's not the ring that defines the marriage. But at the same time, I think it's one thing if he can't afford a ring but another thing if he's just being cheap. If he won't eat for 3 months, I understand. But if he won't be putting into his 401K for 3 months, then I think it's kind of a jip to the girl. Yes, it's a symbol, it's just a ring, but damn, this is NOT the time in one's life to be cheap.
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kmac
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Re: question about rings
Posted by dilb712
Posted by Tany
well he is a very frugal and simple person as it is, he feels that diamonds are overpriced but overall he cant spend a lot, but still wants to make her girlfriend happy, they are friends of mine and she is okay with being a cubic zirconia but she would rather get a gemstone ring.
Well then a gemstone it should be!!! tell him that for her
ITA! It should really be what the woman wants. I mean it happens once (hopefully) and she'll wear it every day forever. It should be something she wants to wear every day.
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babymakes3
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Re: question about rings
I have a couple friends who preferred gemstones over diamonds. If the girl is okay with it, I see nothing wrong with it.
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hazeleyes33
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Re: question about rings
I don't find anything wrong with it. My dh and I had no money when we got engaged and I love my ring. No, it is not 2 carats but who cares. We have surpassed many couples and we are celebrating our 15th anniversary next month!
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: question about rings
Posted by tourist
If it were me, I'd prefer a different kind of ring over a CZ. You don't have to get a diamond, or a diamond look alike, just b/c most other people have one.
I agree. many women have a sapphire engagement ring
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It's her ring get her what she wants, but I do understand the hesitation. When Joe proposed I asked for a cz ring just because I was still on the road and I was afraid I would lose the diamond on a call, and then I wanted a sapphire ring and in the end changed my mind..again.......I WISH I had stayed with the sapphire because in my heart I will always wish I had a sapphire e-ring
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EckoRed81504
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Re: question about rings
I told DH to just get a cz and we would upgrade when we could afford it. Who would know and if they did, who cares. It's the thought that counts.
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Cpt2007
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Re: question about rings
Posted by imthecindyofcindyandkevin
Even if Kevin had proposed to me with one of these, I still would've said Yes.
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actually, my DH kind of did propose with a ring pop! he had the real ring but it had always been a joke that he'd do it with the candy and i'd get my choice of flavors. and so when he actually popped the q, he had a strawberry one ready.
in all seriousness, it shouldn't matter what the guy is proposing with. it's the love behind it. it would be a totally different thing though if he lied about it and said it was real when it was not... honesty is everything!
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Beth
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Re: question about rings
I wouldn't want anything fake- I do have an issue with that- I have an issue with all things fake
but another gem stone is very cool
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