Question for all of you!!!

I am not preggo, nor are DH and I trying yet, but a conversation came up at work and I became curious. Would any of you ladies want/allow your moms/MILs to be in the room while you are having a sonogram? It just seems like something so personal and should be shared between mom and dad. I know for myself, it wouldnt ever happen, but I was curious about what you ladies who are experiencing these things right now have to say.

TIA!!

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I would for sure. If my mom was still here I would definitely bring her: my MIL and I have a great relationship, so if she asked I would bring her. But I wouldn't offer

I'm sure those that don't have great relationships would say different.
To me, sonograms are special but exciting also. When it comes to birthing the baby, only my DH is allowed in the room with me. There's no way in he!! I would let my MIL anywhere near that scene!

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My MIL was there for the 20 week anatomy soon. The first one was just DH & I but after that MIL was there for the 20 and then it was just me. I had sonos weekly from 28 weeks on due to complications so no one was able to take off that much to be at every appt.

If my Mom lived local (she's in FL) I would have had her at an appt

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With my first we had my mom at the 12 week sono and she was thrilled. Then we had both my mom and MIL at the 20 week scan to find out the gender with us and they couldn't have been happier. With our second we didn't bring them to any.

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If my husband couldn't make it to an appt. sure! Otherwise, not for a regular appt. I plan on taking my mom with me when we go for a 3D sonogram in another month or so.

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My mom never came with me for sonograms. My step mom was in the delivery room when I had my oldest.

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NO WAY!

DW suggested her mom come to our last one because she was going out of town and i was like um, no that's something WE share. it's not something i care to share with anyone else!

apparently my mom thinks she is coming into the delivery room (per my sister because "grandparents are allowed now") -- gotta set that straight too. if you arent in the hypnobabies mindset and haven't taken 18 hrs of classes, you are NOT invited. lol. - stonybrook allows ANYONE to come in but listens to the mom (who she wants)

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Neither are alive, but if they were and they wanted to I would DEFINITELY allow them in the room. If it was transvaginal it would be different, but over the belly sono IMHO is no big deal.

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My mom has been to several sonos. DH couldn't go to one of ours for my second pregnancy (it was his second day at a new job) and that was the sono we found out I lost the baby. I am so grateful she was able to be there and I wasn't alone when getting the awful news.

My MIL has not been to any of my sonos but if she wanted to come, I would definitely be okay with it.

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My mother already has been in the room during my sono. This is such a joyous moment for all of us and I see nothing wrong with having my mother in there seeing her grandchild! Everyone has different family dynamics my family is all super close. I've had DH my mom and my sis in viewing the sono together. I see nothing wrong with it. Everyone is different and every family is different. There's no right or wrong answer here.

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Both my mom and MIL came to one.

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Thanks for all the responses ladies! Its interesting to see the differing points of view.

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If my mom was still alive would have LOVEDDDD to bring her to my sonos. My mil on the other hand was not invited lol

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Not any medical one like the nt, anatomy, etc. That stuff is private and serious and I would just want to be with dh. We did however have our parents at our elective 3d/4d scan which was solely to get pictures. And I will say they annoyed me and spoke most of the time and made comments how they had no idea what they were looking at even though we kept telling them.

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My mom was in the room for my NT scan because DH couldn't make it and I didn't really want to be alone (even though we knew everything was ok with the baby since we had the panorama test done). I wouldn't want my MIL in the room for a sonogram, but we don't have that kind of relationship. Neither mother will be in the delivery room because I feel like that is DH & my time only (I don't even want DH looking anywhere but at my face lol).

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i would have no problem having my mom/MIL in the room

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I'm a very private person , so no.
Just DH

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Sure would and I had my mom in the room for my 12 week sono. Granted she had NO idea what she was looking at.

NOW.... Having my mom or MIL at the very first sono is a different story, I think that should just be shared by husband & wife.

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Nope. I didn't have my mom or MIL in the room for anything. I am a private person. I did give them the pics from the sonogram. Some people even have their moms or MILs in the room with them at delivery- I couldn't even imagine that unless DH was not around. Whatever people feel comfortable with....

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I was going to bring my mom for one that my DH couldn't go to, except she couldn't go either. Would have rather had her there then been alone. Not sure about MIL though. I love her and I send her the pics, but not sure I would choose to have her in the room with me.

Actually almost had my dad in with me because he spent all day at the hospital with me after I fell. Mom was sick and DH was in CT for work. I thought after spending 5 hours with me at a hospital (which he hates), it would be a fun treat. But the sono tech wouldn't let him.

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No. My MIL is not local so it's not even an issue (she hardly comes to visit as it is), and I don't invite my mom to these things because even though she's sweet & she means well she's a total overbearing pita. She invited herself into the delivery room for the birth (never asked if it was ok) & slept on the couch that dh should have been able to sleep on overnight while I was in labor. I need some space sometimes... she's the type you give an inch, she takes a mile.

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Over the belly, sure. Transvag- hell no!

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I went to so many being that I Had GD that i brought everyone but the mailman! They were so excited to be part of it! The first few were just DH and I and the big one like the NT scan and the #D sono were just hubs and I but the routine ones it didn't matter.

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I would absolutely have my mother in the room for a sonogram. I got pregnant via IVF and the first few appointments after a confirmed positive, DH couldn't come to the appointments due to his work scheduled. My mom came with me to the appointment and came into the room with me and those was vaginal sonograms. With that being said, my mom would totally be welcome to come to any of my doctor appointments for a sono. MIL on the other hand, no. Her and I are very different people and don't have a "mother/daughter" relationship. I wouldn't feel comfortable having her there and DH understands that.